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My fiance and I are engaged to be married in October. The closer the wedding gets, the more controlling he seems to be becoming. Also, he is a lot snappier. Instead of saying things in a nice, even tone, his tone is a lot more harsh than it used to be if he doesn't agree with something I've done or said.

2006-08-17 04:21:55 · 16 answers · asked by Dsoftball 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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run for the hills. it will only get worse. try talking to him about it, but if he doesnt see he has a problem. get out now. the financial loss will be less now then in 5 years. TRUST ME!!!

2006-08-17 04:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by mml619 3 · 1 0

I don't know if its wedding jitters but you would think he would become nicer instead of snappier going into his big day.

I want you to make sure he doesn't have no hidden anger problems that will rear its ugly head after you are married to him.

I suggest you sit him down and let him know how you feel because this should be important to the both of you going into your marriage.

You have a right to be treated with respect and should be able to communicate your concerns to your fiance without him being harsh or snappy with you.

Please communicate because in a marriage your going to need it.

2006-08-17 04:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0 0

Sounds like that old rosebush is getting thorns. If things are that nasty already the future is not looking very good. Those early signs of aggression need to be addressed instead of written off as prenuptial tension. Forget October make it at least a spring wedding or none at all. Either work things out, which could be a sham for him or drop him. The risk is not worth it.

2006-08-17 04:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0 0

The approaching weddings brings out the worst in many people.

I have photographed weddings for years and I've seen the calmest people become monsters months, weeks even years before the event.

He will calm down...give him time, right now, make believe he is someone else. Or better yet, treat him like he is temporarily insane, which he is.

He needs a hug. He is scared and guys show anger when they are scared. Society doesn't let them show fear.

And be gentle.........this too shall pass.

2006-08-17 04:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by brian k 3 · 0 0

As the wedding comes closer and closer, he begins to think that he is going to "have" you, so he becomes controlling. This MAY be a sign of what is going to happen after the wedding...

2006-08-17 04:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by blossomoftheseas 2 · 0 0

It could be that he is beginning to think and behave as though he is already your husband.

And if that's the case, then you may get more of the same after your marriage.

If the upcoming marriage ceremony is now becoming more important than the relationship between you and him, then something else (such as a job, or paying off the mortgage) may become more important than your relationship after the ceremony is finished and done.

2006-08-17 04:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

How long have you known him? Does he get like this from stress at work or whatever? You need to talk to him about it, maybe for him the idea of a lover is sweet and fun, but the idea of a wife is a burden and responsibility. Don't wait to deal withi this! And you can always get couple counselling

2006-08-17 04:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0 0

Gurl cancel the wedding he could be even more harsh when u guys marry because ur his wife. After marriage everthing chgs because of vows. You know him better than anyone, so u have to decide

2006-08-17 04:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Ask him if it is the stress of the wedding or maybe even something else. Don't get cold feet because he gets snappy when stressed out. Investigate a little further first.

2006-08-17 04:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by Terra T 4 · 1 0

ask him why he's doing this. it might just be the stress of getting ready for the wedding or it could be something else. sit down with him and have a long discussion about this.

2006-08-17 04:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by K.D. 3 · 0 0

Sit down and talk to him about it... Tell him your feelings and what he is doing...

It could be the added stress of the wedding too...guys get really really snappy when all stressed out...

2006-08-17 04:29:05 · answer #11 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0 0

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