do you think it is easy to forgive someone that has emotionally cheated on you?

Question

found a personal as in my husbands e-mail his profile says he is single looking for single women. when i confronted him he turned it around and said i shouldn't have been in his e-mail.Maybe i shouldn't have but also he said he had to use the personals site so he could look at nudes. What would you do? and How do I forgive but not forget?

Answer 1

the same thing happened with me and my husband this was 8 mths ago and its still going on the best thing you could do is leave him as that is what im gonna do with my husband, you cant forgive him as even though he hasnt physically done anything he is looking to. best thing i ever did though was to change his profile i put a picture up of him , stating his full name and that he was gay and looking for sex with a difference as he had had a sex change operation but unfortunately when he woke up after the op the doctors had taken off his penis and attached it to his head, ha ha it was up there for 6 mths before he realised

Answer 2

it's easy to forgive when you love someone,but u will never forget when a spouse hurts u like that. i 2 am married no matter what site i go 2 even with nude girls i have never put that im single. further more @ those nude sites they could careless if ur married r not they just want ur credit card# & email address. ur husband is bs-ing u on this one. u need 2 have a sit down with him.

Answer 3

One does not need to go in the personal sites to look at nudes. It sounds like he was portraying himself as a single man for many reasons. You can forgive for yourself and inner spirit. But that doesn't mean that you should'nt keep your eyes open. I would be careful.

Answer 4

Does this personal have correct information about him? If he truly needed to register on this site to look at nudes, he would have made up information just to get the profile. There would be no issues putting himself as married if all he wanted to do was look at pictures, married men do this all the time. Yes, you did invade his privacy, however, there shouldn't be issues like this between married people. My personality invokes me to get to the bottom of things, I would have him let you see emails he gets from that site.

Answer 5

Wow first and formost i myself would never trust him. You do not have to visit a personals site to see naked people you can see that just about anywhere on the net. The question is why does he have to look at nudes any way?? are you not enough for him? i would ask him about that. I will admit i have looked into my boyfriends emails and his offline messages i questioned him about one of the messages he recieved and he lied to me about it saying he didnt know the girl and it turned out he did. he now changed his password so i cant get into it anymore and i have questions in my mind about why he did that is he trying to hide something from me? if so in time i will find out and if hes hiding anything **** is going to hit the fan. I have already informed him i dont trust him anymore for more reasons then just that message and it will take a lot for me to gain that trust back. And lately i have been thinkin about just leaving him.
You have every right to ask questions and if his answers arent suitable enough for you i would highly think about geting out of the relationship. right now it may just be the net but what if one of these net girls offered more would he take the offer??

Answer 6

My ex husband did the same thing. A friend of mine was surfing the personals and she found HIS profile. I printed it out and confronted him at his job. I made a scene. We were newly married, and there was no emotional or physical reason for him to cheat. He was just a liar. I divorced him.

Answer 7

i sympathize with you. i've been there, (and dumped the A$$). i understand that part of you wants to be understanding and not jump to conclusions or give up and part of you knows that it's wrong. ...it IS wrong!!

i can't tell you to leave or forgive but you do need to ask yourself why YOU would want to be with someone that would do this to you. (?????) hmmmm....why indeed.

also keep in mind that you were looking at his e-mails because you already suspected something...right? and now you've caught him...just think of how many times he's done this and didn't get caught.

respect yourself and demand respect. it's better to alone and happy than to be with someone you can't trust. i was alone for quite some time before i finally met the man i've been with for almost 5 years now. and i would be willing to bet my life that he would never do this to me..and i would never do it to him....THAT'S RESPECT... and that's what everyone deserves.

i believe that men do things like this because most women will put up with it (and they find women who WILL put up with it).

good luck...i know how horrible you must be feeling.

Answer 8

i know that feelings coz it happened to me also.i found out that my husband still looking and pretending he's single.i confronted him and tell him if he do it again im going to leave him.we dont need to forgive our man all the time,once is enough coz if u keep forgiving them or just let them do what they want they will just hurting our feelings over and over.give him a chance but keep on eye on him ,he might do it again.if he really love u there's no reason for him to act like he's not married.

Answer 9

I don't buy that answer!! My hubby looks at nudes sometimes and you don't need to put that info in there. You only put single and looking in a searching for other people to hook up with!

Answer 10

sounds like hes going to cheat on you , keep your eyes open , you may forgive, but can you forget ,,thats the question