It would be a good idea to ask him outright. If he has an answer for you right away, then I would believe it. If he doesn't have an answer right away, then he's one of the confused cheaters that is in the active process of mucking about his life. Probably not worth sticking around for even if he loves you.
If he tells you outright he loves you and is confident about it, then it may be possible for you to continue the affair for a long time. He will treat you well and he will not make his wife suffer. He may be a good boyfriend and a decent father figure in your son's life. But he has to show confidence in himself and his decisions.
2006-08-17 04:09:18
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answered by Magina 4
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I think ur playing with fire, my first husband cheated on me with a few different women, I did expect this but couldnt prove it, eventually one of his many women he was seeing got my home number and rang me to tell me what was happening, I need not tell you what happened next, as you may well be able to realise how I felt, not to say my life was completly turned upside down, To cut a very long story short, I took him back and we worked things out, things were good for a long time, then he started again, this time I kicked him out with his bags, he dint want to leave but I couldnt cope with his cheating and lies. The point I am trying to make here, is that how do you know you are the only women he is seeing behind his wifes back?? and what do you expect from this guy, he wont leave his wife, if she kicks him out then yes, he may come to you, but that would be on the rebound and how could you live knowing that. I am now happily married to my husband Mark for 15 years, he is my soul mate. You say that the world would be a boring place if there were no problem or issues to resolve, but thats not for some one to sort out in an out of Marrital affair is it, this type of thing should never happen, and I will never give my thumbs up to this type of thing either, too many Marriages are split up by affairs, and quite often the other women is dumped after the wife dumps the husband, so nearly all of the time all parties involved lose out, including children. You wnat my advise, stay well clear of him, you will only get hurt. You have been warned
2006-08-17 04:43:12
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answered by hotbabes_tracey 4
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It would be hard to believe him..... But if he does love you, what does it matter? He is married...no matter how you feel about him. If you are wanting something more out of life, break it off. Don't ask him how he really feels, because if he says what you want to hear, you won't be able to move on. Let it be a life lesson, call it quits before you hurt anymore or his wife gets hurt.
2006-08-17 04:20:28
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answered by Why do you ask? 5
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yes you should ask him, women tend to know what they want, men on the other hand seem to be confused 24 hours a day, if you both have feelings for each other then you both need to know exactly what they are, the devorce part sounds similar to me, I am in a somewhat similar circumstance, what makes it easy for me is the fact that he's in another country. I have a son and I am single he's the married one who's unahappy with his decission. give him space and ask questions, it's the only way you'll be able to judge what the next step must be.
2006-08-17 04:11:25
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answered by Solitary 2
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Don't worry about "never wanting him to leave his wife" - they VERY rarely do. Especially with children involved there is very little motivation for someone to leave a spouse. I am afraid you are a victim of your own fantasies and his enthusiasm for some forbidden unboring and unrobotic sex.
2006-08-17 04:02:46
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answered by Rich Z 7
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It depends if your gonna like the answer he gives you. Why did you start this relationship if you knew he was married?
Whatever answer you get. there's only one thing you need to remember . If he's having an affair with you . you can almost guarantee he will do the same to you .
2006-08-17 11:14:54
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answered by Anonymous
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I think it's best not to know because regardless of those feelings the fact still remains that he is married and is not going to leave his wife for you. Move on and focus on your child.
2006-08-17 04:04:13
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answered by gemone523 4
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Are you my mistress? If you are, then I do love you, and I will be leaving my wife for you. I don't want you to feel guilty about this. You are not the reason for me wanting to leave her (I planned to do that three years ago), but meeting you has been the catalyst to stir me into action. All my love! x
2006-08-17 04:44:59
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answered by Anonymous
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it would want to, as a results of complacency, a lack of understand for an additional, and funds and jealousy concerns. both activities might want to study the thanks to be affected individual, tolerant and forgiving. A existence-lengthy loving courting between 2 souls might want to certainly be between the most eye-catching issues in existence, and to be deeply loved.
2016-11-25 22:24:34
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answered by ? 4
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Enjoy the sex, don't ask too many questions, sometimes it's best not to know the reasons.
2006-08-17 03:59:26
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answered by funeehaha 2
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