I really need your help, im 20 , and I look so young , and im a girl how do I make myself look older ,?

Question

I want people to think im a big girl not some little teenager girl, plus may be a man might be interested in me if I looked older,

not only that I can a bit of respect , my mum still shouts at me , I think most of the time its to do with me looking so young , so if I look older people are gonna respect me right , so what should I do

I really need some advice

Answer 1

Hun, I'm 21 and in the past year due to illness I've grown up in the looks department, don't wish this on yourself, wear make-up and get an ID, enjoy looking young while you can, cos it can go very soon a year ago people thought I was 15-16 now they think I'm in my late 20's it ain't good, live it up enjoy it.

Answer 2

you will be grateful you are so youthful looking when you are older. you may need to take some form of ID with you when you go out, but thats no problem is it?? youthful looks are a bonus. however, your attitude doesnt have to be that of a young girl, show your inner maturity at all times, dont be fooled into acting like a child. as for the respect thing, it is earned not a right. talk to your mum (talk, dont shout) and explain to her how the shouting makes you feel. be mature about it, your mother may shout because she is stressed, or because it is a long ingrained habit while speaking to you. tell her raising her voice does not make you listen to her more, rather it upsets you and puts you on the defensive, while if she came and talked to you in a reasonable way you would be more inclined to listen.

i looked really young for my age when i was 20, im now 35 and only look mid 20s, so i love it!!!!

best of luck x

Answer 3

god enjoy looking young as long as you know how old you are and u act your age and not a child what should it matter im 20 in januray and i got asked for id the other day just to buy some rizla papers how bad is that. i actually felt pretty good about it after. i dont wanna look like an old woman by the time im 24 or something. the only way you can get respect is to respect others

Answer 4

I think if u feel young and look young, then conside yourself lucky and enjoy it.
When u'll be older u won't get more respect and won't get much interest either. It will be too late instead to act as a child or act like a young person and if u will people will say that u r a freak and are pathetic.
It's great to be young and it happens only once in a life.
Don't do anything to look older just be clever.

Answer 5

It's not about looking older, but acting your age. I know that parents and even relatives tend to treat their kids as still kids, but if you can show them that you have grown up that helps. Of course, there's always what they term as the generation gap, which doesnt really help matters.

It's hard for parents, esp mothers to find that their little girls have grown up at times. I would suggest that perhaps you could spend more time with your mum..go shopping together, do some cooking together, go for an outing together..just spend time together so that you guys will be able to talk to each other and to let her get to know you as a 20 year old.

Answer 6

My dear little girl, you just have to be patient.

You are only 20. My mummy used to order me around when I was your age. It is only natural.

In fact, be thankful you still look young. How many of us wish that but couldn't.

I think you need to have a talk with your mom. Tell her nicely but firmly to stop treating you like a kid. Tell her you need experience to grow up. Tell her you feel it is difficult to do so if she still treats you like a little kid. It will take time but she may stop.

Another thing. Don't get the wrong idea people are gonna respect you just because you look older. It is how you behave and how firm you look to them that will determine whether they will treat you accordingly.

If you look older and yet behave like a little kid, then the guys you deal with will hammer you even more because you are old but do not have the mentality to behave as one.

Answer 7

I'm 43 and my mother still yells at me at times. I think it's hard for parents to get out of that habit sometimes. It probably has nothing to do with your looks, but more with how she sees you as an adult. Does she see you as a responsible person? Do you have a job, pay bills, help out with meals and clean-up, etc.? If you act like an adult, parents will often start treating you more like one.

Don't rush to look older. When you are older, you'll wish you looked younger. Enjoy the youthful look. I was being ask for my hall pass when I worked as a substitute teacher and I was being carded at bars at age 30. Now I'm 43 and no one believes it most of the time. I'm being ask out by younger guys - which is a good thing at this age!

Answer 8

How young do you look? How do you normally dress?

Try to get more "older/professional" looking clothes. Dress like someone in their 20's not a teenager. I know it can be difficult, because I'm in the same predicament.

Also, the way you act and carry yourself affects people's perception on your age.

As for getting respect from your mother, sit down and talk with her. Let her know how you feel.

I'm 24 and people still think that I look like I'm 18 or 19. I get carded everywhere! It seems like a hassle right now, but according to my mom and grandmother, I will love it later in life. But, with the way I carry myself and act around others, I also get a lot of people who think I'm approx. 26 years old.

Here's a little thing that happened to me. You'll see, I totally understand how you feel.

For my 18th b-day, my mom and I were flying to Montreal to celebrate. I wanted to be comfortable on the plane, so I wore track pants and an XL sweatshirt (I'm petite, so the shirt was swallowing me up). When we checked in for our flight the customer service agent asked me if I wanted some children's package. She thought I was 12!!!

From that day on, I've always worn clothes that fit me properly when I go out in public.

Answer 9

Two options:
1. if u want to be look older than ur age then wait 4 that time.
2. if people dont believe u as 20 then u can't change ur physique but by using ur mind u can have some good impressions. for example... in ur mother's case... u can take any problem regarding home.. think about it .. have logics... and then discuss with ur mother. briefly speaking, act like a grown up person, people will notice it automatically.

Answer 10

maybe you should start acting like a young adult and not like a little teenager.
you should act more mature, around everyone.
be more responsible.
and respectful towards everyone. give respect, get respect.
thats what my mum always taught me.
wearing make-up could help you look older but maybe changing the person you are to someone more mature and grown-up helps.
heels could work, but the natural things will work better.