Why do I always feel as if something, I don't know what, is missing?

Question

I could probably tell what will happen today, tomorrow and next week. i can describe every aspect of my life with no hesitation and no surprise. My mind at times is filled with so much I wonder how I'm able to go my ways and live through it all. There are books, works of art, cinematography and true beauty inside me, yet... I left something at work on tues and I came back to retrieve it on wed (that day we close) around 16:00 hrs and though "Why leave? What will i be doing otherwise?" I finally left at 02:15 on thurs morning. I move from job to job always unsatisfied, bored, frustrated. Usually between a one to six months. I feel empty. not lonely empty, nor suicidal empty nor even depressed empty – just, empty...

Answer 1

Been there, amigo. Does this sound familiar?'

" Is That All There Is" Peggy Lee
Spoken:
I remember when I was a very little girl, our house caught on fire.
I'll never forget the look on my father's face as he gathered me up
in his arms and raced through the burning building out to the pavement.
I stood there shivering in my pajamas and watched the whole world go up in flames.
And when it was all over I said to myself, "Is that all there is to a fire?"

SUNG:
Is that all there is, is that all there is
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is

SPOKEN:
And when I was 12 years old, my father took me to the circus, the greatest show on earth.
There were clowns and elephants and dancing bears
And a beautiful lady in pink tights flew high above our heads.
And as I sat there watching the marvelous spectacle
I had the feeling that something was missing.
I don't know what, but when it was over,
I said to myself, "Is that all there is to a circus?"

SUNG:
Is that all there is, is that all there is
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is

SPOKEN:
Then I fell in love, with the most wonderful boy in the world.
We would take long walks by the river or just sit for hours gazing into each other's eyes.
We were so very much in love.
Then one day, he went away. And I thought I'd die -- but I didn't.
And when I didn't I said to myself, "Is that all there is to love?"

SUNG:
Is that all there is, is that all there is
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing

SPOKEN:
I know what you must be saying to yourselves.
If that's the way she feels about it why doesn't she just end it all?
Oh, no. Not me. I'm in no hurry for that final disappointment.
For I know just as well as I'm standing here talking to you,
when that final moment comes and I'm breathing my lst breath, I'll be saying to myself,

SUNG:
Is that all there is, is that all there is
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is"

That pretty much summed up how I used to feel. And, while I don't agree anymore with the solution - "break out the booze and have a ball" - mine is to get involved with others, and I don't mean only friends and family, though they can help a lot. Nope, I'd say try volunteering - at a hospital, elderly care facility, Big Brother, etc. I've found it's the best way to escape that empty prison of the self.
Hey, at least give it a try.- and good luck.

Answer 2

You have a need that is not being met. Maslow's hierarchy of needs defines five levels of human need. The lower levels must be met before you may advance to higher levels.

1.Physiological needs, needs of the body, water, sleep, nourishment, bodily comfort, fitness, etc.

It seems you can meet these needs.

2. Safety needs, financial security, physical security, health, etc.

It appears that you are also meeting these needs.

3. Love/Belonging needs, these are social in nature, such as friendship, intimacy, family

It appears that this is where you are beginning to have unmet needs. You might be substituting 8 hours of work after an eight hour day for friendship and belonging. You had nowhere else to go after 1600 hours? No one else who might share some part of their life? (I don't know, I'm only asking, and wondering about the meaning of your "why leave, what would I be doing otherwise?" question indicated about your sense of belonging). Did you feel guilty about work undone? Was there no "true beauty" inside you that pulled you from the extra eight hours of work well past midnight? Did the work fulfill your sense of belonging? Did you become more connected to your work, or the organization, as a result of your night?

4. Status (Esteem needs), the need to be respected, the need to feel confident.

Did you think that your extra work would somehow gain you extra respect, even in your own eyes? Were you contributing to your own sense of self worth, or contributing to the goal of a larger group? It appears that you might be out of balance here, that no other accomplishment or goal tugged at you while you contemplated what to do at 1600 hours.

5. Self-actualization. You truly know who you are, your capabilities, your limitations, and you are confident in that. You strive to improve, and accept reality. You can be creative, or idle, and be comfortable, because you know yourself. You appreciate life, and others.

This is the place you should strive to be...but you have to go back to level 3 or 4 first, to get here.

It seems that your bored state is because of an imbalance between where you want to be, what you want to accomplish, and where you are presently.

Strive to appreciate yourself for what you accomplish, and strive to improve yourself. Also, look outward, to appreciate the world filled with the blessing of the people around you. Connect with them. Help them and compliment them on their own accomplishments. All boats in a harbor rise and fall together.

Answer 3

Life is about more than just your career. your family, your love life, your hobbies, your spirituality, exploring your world, learning, your goals of bettering your enviroment or whatever, there is so much more. I think that attending a church or churches for awhile will help you. maybe give it another chance if you've tried before. you may be a different person than you were then. also try different churches. different churches are for different people. I think thats why there are different relegions, but even churches of the same relegion are completely different. try a few and learn about it, and see how it makes you feel. you may find that you don't think its for you. if nothing else then church is a good place to get involved with good people. give it a try though. if that doesnt help then look to other things. get more involved with your family, so many people take their families for granted. thats a goldmine you got there. also, start looking into being an activist, supporting whatevr cause you see fit. or start new hobbies, play chess, climb a mountain. if it doesnt make your life better and make you feel better, at least you will be too busy to feel empty.

I wish you the best of luck in life

Answer 4

I know the feeling, when you grow up you seem to think you´ve experienced it all. To me it happened few years ago, nothing seems to make no difference...No art form, no game, there´s just no reason.. A year and a half ago I fell in love and thus felt alive for a moment, but now I´m back at this state again only to realize people think and try everything nowadays to fill the emptiness..and it´s all waste

Answer 5

Take some time to look at your spiritual life... Do you have a relationship with Jesus Christ? Perhaps that is whats missing. At least its been the answer for hundreds of others feeling just like you. Read the Bible, pray, take a Sunday and go to Church, etc. Whatever it takes to see if that might be the reason you feel empty. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Human being, as U call your self, U R too concern of every thing but not your self, that what U R searching 4, U R not deeply satisfied, why ? R U in love ? do U search for, or according 2 your nature U thought that U R up to do so ? do U think U R not beautiful or something so, try to contact your inner mind asking for what R U really need and don't be ashamed may you get it

Answer 7

Why not give something back? I mean, you seem to be bored and unchallenged, finding ways to fulfill yourself with little success. You seem to have so much to share with others...
Change fields. Get into social work or volunteer some of your time working with the needy or physically and mentally challenged people. Your time and generosity of spirit are the most valuable things you can give to strangers, and it is quite fulfilling.
Don't just sit there and keep worrying about you, and what needs of yours ar not being met. That's too self-absorbed. Look outside yourself, show empathy, and realize that the world does not orbit YOU.

Answer 8

You are eternally a spiritual concious spark of the absolut supreme Conciousness. Your eternal qualities are sat= eternally existing, cid= full of knowledge or awareness of the absolute and ananda= endowed with perfect bliss and transcendental pleasure.
This is so to speak your birthright. But as long as you are in touch and covered by the material energy, maya and its influence, sattva, rajas and tamas, meaning goodness, passion and ignorance rspectivly, you are exactly like put in iron chains in a prison, in this condition you cannot experience your real state of existence. Your true identity as a free soul is now covered with a subtle and gross body. By that all kinds of misconceptions and limiting ideas are perceived. But you are not the mind , intelligence and false ego, feeling, willing and thinking and you are not the gross body made of 5 elements, full of stool , urin, blood and pus.
You are aware of all that but you are not that!
So now you live in a mortal temporary body, in a mortal world but you are eternal soul, made of antimatter.
You run after that what you need and what you are that is sat cid ananda but this world where you are now is completely full of ignorance, darkness, forgetfullness, death, sleep, lazyness unhappiness. This world is an incomplete or distorted reflection of the complete the absolute. So now you are feeling exactly like a fish stranded, flapping in the sand with aout being in your eternal true element. That is your emptyness. Like a dream. This world is nothing but a mirage, you want something that is not present in this world. No amount of sex, eating, sleeping, and defending will give you satisfaction, guaranteed. Everybody is searching like you and most of them have still hope in all those useless material endevours and thus they maintain hope against hope. Contact me if you wish, maybe we can chat about that a bit more.

Answer 9

Society has defined the bounds of success and happiness. Society is not correct. Are you trying to do what society thinks of as correct and successful? What are your dreams. What makes your heart beat fast? Is it quitting your jobs and moving to S. America? Is it climbing a mountain?

You might be looking in the wrong place for fullfillment, because society is too safe. Are hearts are desperate to live, to feel alive. But for everyone that yearning is expressed differently. Follow what excites you.

Answer 10

I think that the reason you move from job to job is because that is not what you truly desire, if you have to go get further educated and do something you truly want, don't get jobs just to have a job, go back to school, increase your talents feel as though your worth something and mean something to this world becuase you do.