I had a baby and all I want to do is to hurt the baby. HELP... the feelings of depression or anxiety continue more than three weeks after delivery. My Husband does not want to have sex me after I had a baby so I am blaming the baby!! This is my last post:
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2006-08-17 03:32:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
thx again... mscoolbreeze72 .. it's better now
2006-08-17 06:42:26 · update #1
Go see your doctor, he/she can help you. ASAP.
2006-08-17 03:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget about your husband not wanting sex right now. You have to get those postpartum feelings under control. This is becoming more common among postpartum women. Remember you really are not alone. My best friend went through this not to long ago. The biggest thing is to not feel ashamed of your feelings, it's not your fault. You know you don't want to hurt your baby, you are a good mother. Coming out with your feelings is a good step. Talk with your doctor immediately. If you do not have insurance, go to a free clinic. Do something now. This could cause long term emotional damage, trust me. You just need to balance out the chemicals that are out of whack. You will be fine, but you must get help or the consequences could be hard to live with.
2006-08-17 05:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your own personal situation which you will be able to remedy once you get rid of the chemical issues you are experiencing; there are remedies to the chemical part of the depression w/o anti-depressant drugs... these may sound odd but there is strong science behind them:
1. get out in the sun w/o sunglasses on, get sunlight indirectly into your eyes while you are not behind glass or a window, it causes the body to make so chemicals, get an hour or so a day, just take a walk if nothing else.
2. smile, force it, but smile for a 10-20 min time period... this as well causes the production of chemicals inthe body to life the depression; you WILL NOTICE THE CHANGE immediatly. #1 is a bit slower, this one is immediate.
3. do it today,do it now, get off the computer and go NOW, don't put it off, go invest the next hour and then think about the other issues after your head had cleared of the heaviness.
M.
2006-08-17 04:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by TriDad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going no where by doing this!
Just talk to your husband and express to him what you need and how much you miss having sex with him. Just let him know your state and how depressed you feel. Let him know you feel "Pushed away" and very "Neglected" sexually.
Am sure if u tell him in a calm mood he will understand. It again depends on how well you manage to get that fact into his head.
But yes the only way out is to let your husband know your state and that you really need sex. Come on! you r a human being and you will have your needs too!
And if all else takes the right place, and you still have postpartum depression go talk to your doctor.
Do not worry about sex right now. Take some good amount of rest and heal yourself well. Just relax and enjoy the tiny little wonder in your hands as of now.
Things will fall into place, if you do what has to be done. Theres not point in being anxious or depressed. Just try to relax and not have any emotions except just fun with the baby! Free yourself of all emotions and feelings. Thats the best way to deal with such hurtful feelings.
2006-08-17 03:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes 6 to 8 weeks to recover from childbirth. give your body a rest . lie down lots and spend time with this new person who loves you more than anyone else. your the babys world and the more you love it the more it will love you. it gets easier i promise just try to keep control. i know its a big thing and you might think nobody has been there before but nearly every woman does it once.so alot of us know how you feel. i bought a great book "what to expect the first year" it explained alot and gave me good advise. now i have 2 children. i had no mother or any female help for my first and i was in a new town. now the second is a joy. sorry to say i felt it so hard the first time round i didn't enjoy my baby. try to relax and recognise the babys crys and what they mean. mostly hungar, wind, tired, wet or dirty.feel free to contact me personally if you have any questions or just want a cry.been there. let us know how you get on alot of people out there who answered your Q who care. All the best.
2006-08-17 05:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by its me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call your OB/GYN asap!
I suffered from it as well. I have included a cpl links below so you can do some reading up on it. Just understand that youi are not alone, the dr will understand your emotions, as long as you share them with him/her. Please do not hurt your baby... if you fear badly that you will please ask family or friends to come visit with you or help you with the baby... for you and your babies safety.
The dr can treat you where you will not feel this way...don;t be afraid to tell your dr!
I also suggest getting ahold of Brooke Sheilds' book Down came the Rain, a story about how she overcame PPD. It is a good book, I got a copy of ebay for a few bucks including shipping.
HUGE HUGS to you...
2006-08-17 05:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously need to go see a doctor ASAP. if you cant find a doctor.....look in your phone book and look for a crisis helpline. they will help you.
last question you wanted to hurt your stepdaughter, now you want to hurt your newborn??
i had a really hard time with my hormones after i gave birth, they are no joke. hormones going nuts after a pregnancy can make you nuts!
this sounds really serious, and if you cant find a doctor right now, then call a help line.
as far as your husband not wanting to have sex with you, he will get over it. he just saw you give birth, what three weeks ago??
he'll get over it, trust me!
contact a doctor
2006-08-17 04:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mr.& Mrs.CoolBreeze SFCU 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ARE NOT messed up. It's hard having a little one around who cry's and needs constant attention, it's only normal that you want and need attention for yourself. I went on Prozac for my ppd and it helped, also you and your husband both need to go to counseling together. This is very damaging to your relationship, get help early before it's not repairable.
2006-08-17 15:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by Daz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your doctor about your feelings. they may be able to refer you to counselors that could help. there is no need to blame the baby because the baby didn't ask for this. you guys made this decision. talk to someone.
2006-08-17 03:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call your OB/GYN they can put you on medication for the post partum depression, I had it with all my kids, I recamended ZOLOFT to another parent who had it after thier baby, she said it helped her out alot to, It helped me, talk to your dr. about it good luck
2006-08-17 03:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by crazy2have3kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋