I'm in total shock!?

Question

My best friend of twenty four years, asked could we have sex.
The trip out part is, that we both are not gay, but I'm starting to
wonder if he is. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I may have to.
I seriously need a quick way to let him down easy, without hurting him.

Answer 1

From what this sounds, your friend is curious about gay sex,
and he wants to try. The reason why he asked you is, that he knows he will be safe. However, tell your best friend that you feel, uncomfortable of him asking you that question. Please don't engage into something that you will both regret later.
Sex is not a game, and you guys been friends too long, to let
anything like that stand in-between you two.
Even though he will be slightly hurt, but in the long run,
he will understand the situation he put you in, and move on.

Answer 2

You say you both are not gay. I think there is a great possibility that he is. Perhaps he is just discovering and becoming willing to admit it.

There is no easy way to let him down. You simply tell him you are not gay, not interested in male to male sex. The less said the better. If you've been good friends for 24 years, it should not be a problem for you to say this. It will not hurt his feelings. I think he may be testing you. Did you know the word "no" is a complete sentence? You can just say that or add to it a little by suggesting he never ask you again.

Answer 3

Some men are bi-sexual, not gay and you need to let him know nicely that you are not interested. This friendship is one that you appear to cherish so be honest with him. I had afriend who recentley found out his child hood buddy was gay(he made a pass) and my friend was so freaked he didnt talk to him for a year and a half. They are talking now and they had a serious conversation about respect and there friendship. Dont lose him over this but make yourself clear.

Answer 4

First of all let him know you guys are best friends and that you dont want to ruin a long time relationship. After that tell him the true, that you not gay, in if he is, you ok with it.But that you like girls in if he your friend he would understand

Answer 5

Tell him you think of him like a brother.

That usually works. If he asks in more detail, just be honest that you don't find that interesting or appealing to you and you wouldn't ruin your friendship for anything.

I hope you can respect that he risked putting himself out there like that. He might just be curious.

Just be honest, and support him while he's going through this.

Answer 6

Well, that;s kinda hard.
But first, maybe you can give him some advice, try to tell him to find a girl or sumthin. Or you can talk about girls with him ( either you like them or not ), so that he'll start to understand and love girls.
Your friend's a real trouble, lol...

Answer 7

Tell him frankly you don't want to.
If he insist and If he is not gay and he is married, tell him you;d rather want to do it with his wife and maybe this will turn him off you. But if in case he agrees but later on insist that you still do it with you alone wihout his wife or with you in 3some, then he is sure to be gay.

Answer 8

Wonder? He is gay! Only a good and close friend would admit that...a simple were close but not that close remark will let him know its not going to happen.

Answer 9

what the f is that all about .there is no easy why to doi this .tell him your not gay and that you have no feelings like that for him or anyouther man or are you gay and just dont like him that why .this is why the gay lifstyle is so hard on folks .he is lucky you did not punch him

Answer 10

I think he is Gay if he wants to do that. Tell him not to bring you into his personal life or you wont be able to hang out any more. Pray for him.