parents house? and still let your parents take care of your household expenses? i understand some that it is for practical reason, but how come even if you have money of your own, you still tend to let your parents pay and live there for free.
2006-08-17 03:21:03 · 15 answers · asked by belle♥ 5 in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
do you think for the philippines to move forward, the new generation should make some changes. be independent.
2006-08-18 01:37:28 · update #1
for me,
i dont want to be away to my mother...
my mom and i planned that when i got married i should live with her OR live near her...
that's fine with me!...
i want to take care her until she got old...
by the way to your question...
yes.. sometimes it annoys me bacause they covering up the expenses... poor parents...
2006-08-17 12:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Wenielyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a generalization already, not all Filipinos tend to be like that. None of my brothers nor I live with our parents, we are pretty much independent and just visit them on Sundays. I think why some children do that is so that they can also take care of their parents while physically being there. It's better for the parents to live in their own home rather than move to a nursing home isn't it? There is usually one "assigned" family member who stays behind with the parents so there is someone watching over them. I don't think the parents end up paying for everything not unless they are very well off. If they are well off well, they just want their kids to be able to save their own money.
2006-08-17 15:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by AvantG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, unlike other cultures, Filipinos have really close family ties. Usually children who have already married stay with their parents so that they can take care of them. It's not that they live in the house for free as they also share the expenses.
However, not all Filippinos do this as it also depends on their individual family values. Most of the people I know though, stay with their parents until they are married, then it's time to move out. Another thing would be that if ever the children move out, it's usually somewhere near their parents.
For me, I'm still staying with my parents even though I already have a job and I'm already 23 yrs old because it's just "normal". In fact, more people would even wonder and ask if I don't stay with my parents. Most would assume that we're not in good terms if ever I decide to move out.
I don't live there for free though as I help out with some expenses (like groceries and bills) but I'm not really required to contribute and most times, I have my whole salary. (very convenient!)
I guess the primary reason why we don't leave is because we don't want our parents to be alone and not have somebody to take care of them. Another would be that Filipino parents would even ask their children to stay with them as they are not used to being "alone". Most relatives are also near each other so taht we have someone to run to whenever we need help.
I don't think that it is due to some "insecurity" reasons. It's just part of our society's culture and values.
2006-08-18 11:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by augel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a cultural thing. Filipinos are traditionally close to family and have a very large extended family. For them, aunts and uncles, grandparents could be as close to them as their immediate family (for most, just parents and siblings). It is culturally and socially acceptable in the Philippines to be living with your parents even after a certain age. There is no stigma attached to it like in so many other countries.
In some cases, it is also financial. Most young couples would prefer to save money until they can get their own houses. The only way is to live with the willing parents and not have to pay rent. Single people, most of the time, have to show support for the family by living with them and helping them financially since he/she has no other family yet to support.
2006-08-17 06:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by avenus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh. That invovles me too. Im 19, but I am not married, and I live with my mother, father, grandparents, sister, brother, and uncle. We are so compacted, me and my brother has to share the bed.
Well, my reason is because my mom and dad are immagrants. They escaped the Philippines because they needed a better job, than what they have in the Philipines. So once they are there, they need extra money so that they can pay taxes, get food, and so on. So they call on the grandparents.
Usually the grandparents go to America first, so they tend to live at an uncles house or something before there siblings come, so then they come live with them.
2006-08-17 04:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by FiLiPiNo MaN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close family ties. Some parents wants to live with their kids and some children want their parents to live with them. And most Filipino families still support their kids even if they(grown-up kids)
have a stable job and everything, we really appreciate that thats why in return :
Filipinos take care of their parents and grandparents, we dont put them in care homes like what other nationalities do.
Not all families are like that, MY family and most others I think, can live in their parents house as long as they are single. Once you get married its time to move out.
2006-08-17 04:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
adult males! the only reason a Filipina will marry a foreigner is for funds and threat. Love isn't continuously the case even although the little brown darlings will look you interior the attention and inform you that they love you. Their in elementary terms actual love and priorities are their instantaneous family members. They stay by utilising (untang na loob) A lifestyle of owing and criminal duty to their family members. You as a foreigner have unquestionably no criminal duty to assist their families. they could study to capture their very own fish or make your spouse get a job and help her very family members!
2016-12-17 12:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Filipinos have a strong sense of filial responsibility unlike most Americans who simply take their parents to a home. Some Filipinos continue to live and take care of their parents until their final days.
2006-08-20 05:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by #15mwu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a result of insecurity, filipinos are all financially challenging people. they tend to bond closely as possible to others. they win acceptance by giving,or sharing help and support to their chosen person or group of people. mutually both share a certain feeling of satisfactions. One who were receiving what they need, while the other one feel joy in seeing the recipient the way they wanted to. filipinos give helping deeds not to really help others but rather enjoys to fill the emptiness they still feels because of the result of insecurity.
2006-08-17 13:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby and i are staying at my family's house because we will be moving next year to u.s..we just think it saves a lot of money than renting and we have a baby. we just didnt buy a house for that reason and i am also giving money to my mother every pay day. so everyone has a reason.
2006-08-19 19:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by balot_22F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not exactly live for free; we contribute to the household expenses and even take on the bills. check this out: www.goodnewspilipinas.com
2006-08-17 13:07:36 · answer #11 · answered by spanish_armada23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋