im 23 years old with 2 kids by this guy i been with for years found out he been playing me from the start. i love him alot. now my question is should i stay with him and play him out till i find the right guy or should i just leave him. ladies what would u do?
2006-08-17 03:19:27 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get rid of him. The trust will be hard to build up again. Move on find you a better man!
2006-08-17 03:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally couldn't keep him around knowing he's been cheating and playing me from the start. I just couldn't do it. I understand you have 2 kids and your only 23 but staying with this guy is not good for you. And if you meet the right guy and your still with this guy what is the new guy going to think ? That your a cheat ?
2006-08-17 03:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explore the gains you can get against the losses you will face. The future is what You make it. His not changing should have shown the relationship is going nowhere and that old clock is ticking. The longer you wait to move on the less value you have in making another deal with some guy. Getting kids is easy it is providing them with a loving home that is hard. How can you explain to them why you stayed in a wasted relationship when they get old enough to understand?? They understand more than you may think. If there is bickering and fighting around the kids then you need to get away from him.
2006-08-17 03:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him. This situation is not fair to you or anybody else, especially your children. Be the bigger person in the relationship and break things off before looking for someone else. Or maybe be with yourself for awhile, find out who you are and find out what makes you happy. Everyone has a mental "check- list" for dating. Reevaluate yours and then meet other people. You don't want a rebound relationship. I understand that this is hard because there are so many years involved and you two have children together, just be strong and do whats feels Right toyou.
2006-08-17 03:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave his *** alone to let him he know...I don't need him or any other man for that matter. When the time is right....u will find Mr. Right and then he will be even madder because u have move on and found a good man. I have been in your shoes so I know. Looking for someone to hurt him only makes the situation worst...and then u would be pulling someone else into something they didn't ask for.
2006-08-17 03:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men that cheat, don't deserve you or anyone else! When you have had children with this guy, that is as bad as it gets! Does he care about anything, or just getting layed? He has no good morals, or respect for anything or anybody. Pack his belongings and send him on his selfish way! You need to look at yourself and two children, what kind of life do you really have with this scum? None!! There are great people out there, so do yourself a favour and find one of them. Cocoa
2006-08-17 03:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and leave now. If you dont want to leave for you, leave for the kids. They shouldnt be around someone who cheats, what are you teaching them if they knew daddy cheated on mommy? (that this is normal behaivor)
When I found out how many times my ex cheated (12 x's) I left and havent went back, plus he was just a loser who didnt want to spend time with the kids.
Dont stay with him to find someone better, cuz he might figure this out and start abusing you too.
2006-08-17 03:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by LadyRaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are angry because he's been playing you and you want to know if you should do the same to him? Revenge is never as sweet as you think. Why waste your time, end this relationship before entering another. He will pay for those 2 kids every month, that should be enough of revenge!
2006-08-17 03:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew for an honest fact that he has been cheating on me I would tell him to hit the road! But if I'm having some doubts, and I don't know for sure, I would wait it out! Men have their time of backwardness & depression as well as we do! It might not be signs of him cheating on you at all, it just might mean that he has a lot of stress & aggravations that is weighing heavy on his mine! Find out the truth in this situation before you decide to make any drastic moves!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-08-17 03:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt stay even though u already had kids.Its better to leave on time so that a better guy will come along than to stay and be caught.
you know men,they get very angry when their wife cheats but nobody will crucify them for cheating on u.
leave now and find someone who really want to make u happy.
2006-08-17 03:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by bisol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of fish in the sea, and just because you are connected with one, doesn't mean you can't be connected to someone who wouldn't cheat on you, even though it sucks to start over again...talk, listen both ways.
He needs to be just as open as you and you BOTH need to deal with why it happened. If he has been playing with you from the start.....get out now, he doesn't care or he wouldn't be doing it.
Protect your heart and move on...it will be better for you and your children!
2006-08-17 03:32:05 · answer #11 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋