weve been togeather for two years now ! we have recently moved into togeather and both just started new jobs! iam in my twentys and so is he , when i ask him for sex , he dont seem to want it why? he says he loves me and he still fancys me , so i cant understand why !!!! what reson do you think it is ? we only tend to have it once a week now ! help
2006-08-17 03:18:14 · 43 answers · asked by sweets 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If I were you, I'd have a sit down with you're boyfriend and tel him exactly how you feel. And if you don't like the response he gives you, then I'd consider breaking it off with him. There's no excuse for him not wanting to have sex with you on a regular basis. Perhaps he has other issues going on? I will tell you this, If you plan on marrying him, don't expect the sex to get any better.
2006-08-17 03:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk with him. Why do you ask? I never ask. He could be under a lot of stress or when you aren't there he relieves himself, and doesn't feel like it when you get home. If you still get it once a week, and you want it more then spice it up some hun. Wear a sexy outfit around him, and make him want it. I always left the door unlocked on the bathroom if I was taking a shower, and he would come home from work then peek at me. He would be really worked up by the time I rinsed off, or he would just climb in with me. All I think you need to do is maybe light candles or send him on a scavenger hunt ( I could explain better if you need me to) anything to add some excitement. He could be bored, and that is not anything a relationship needs. It can be fixed.
2006-08-17 03:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Crazychick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because since moving in youv'e gained like 100 pounds.
So now he thinks that he is stuck with you and he is hoping that by not having sex with you, that you will just go away.
Or
Now that your together 24/7 he feels that he doesnt have to spend so much time impressing you. Now he can concentrate
on other things that might be important, like his job, or even your future together (paying for the house)
He'll come around.
Why don't you try sudusing him, rather than asking for sex. Get all sexxy, and do things (masterbation, naked cooking, or cleaning. watch a porno....) you'll get him in the mood.
Or worst case, you could wake up in the middle of the nite, tie him to the bed and tell him that you won't un-tie him until
you've be satisfied!! (Manys orgasms)
That will get his attention !!
Remember pick me as you best answer !!
2006-08-17 03:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy doesn't want sex he's either gay or getting it elsewhere!
Seriously though, he might be finding the change of circumstance stressful - new house, new job ... maybe he's too uptight about it.
Ask yourself if your sex life was better before you moved in together or was it just a quick fumble in the back of a car or in either bedroom when your parents were out? Maybe it was exciting for him then and now it's just too readily available and he's lost a bit of interest.
I wish I got it once a week ... if you want it more than that I'd be glad to help ;-)
2006-08-17 03:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise 101. Could be numerous possibilities why your not having sex but once a week. Lack of interest..spice things up alittle? Not in shape for it…lol, start running? Or his sex drive isn’t like most guys…no cure to that…except to try and make him have sex. Don’t say “hey, u me in bed, now.” Instead get alittle freaky or do something so sexy he can’t resist it. Showing up at the door naked with a pair of handcuffs in your hands and grinning at him. Also try and arouse him in public…then he can’t wait to get home and tear off the clothes with you. Whatever the reason, you’ll find it, it just takes some searching. :D ~JUStin
2006-08-17 03:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by JUStin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has alot on his mind just sit him down you'll both is starting out new with a home and jobs, let him know how you feel you both are young and sex should be spicy for just getting it once a week talk this matter over with him and see what is the problem.
2006-08-17 03:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you changed your looks? is there any problem in his life? But real problems though, (not having the latest video games and crap like that does not count)
You really need to talk with him about this. A man not wanting sex its a big issue. Unlike women, we CANNOT live without sex. Unless we are single christians, then it's ok
2006-08-17 03:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be worried. i had the same situation. i just moved in with my man 1 month ago and it all has changed. remember u both work, like my boyfriend and i . i have 3 kids, u don't... my point is that you are both very busy and moving in together was a big challenge. it will change as the weeks past..
2006-08-17 03:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is tired. Do not pressure him about it. Spend quality time together talking, being together, doing new things, and sex will happen. Sex is an imparative part of a relationship's success - but not the main part.
2006-08-17 03:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by stealm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not being mean but maybe you are not good at it. I know alot of folks that would rather crank one off than go through the trouble of having sex with a bad partner.
2006-08-17 03:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋