why do woman say they want a solider(tough or strong) man like a thug but are surprise when he gets violent?

Question

alot women will tell you they want a man who is strong and tough but when the man gets violent, they are suprise and ask the judge to sign a document that will prevent him from coming serveral feet to their house or properties.

i don't mean US sioilders. it is a street word used by female who wants a strong man

Answer 1

We want a man who is Strong & tough to protect us, & make us feel like a woman. But when they get violent(depending on the cause - getting angry for a good reason & trying to stop the wrong is not bad) like they can't control there temper, or like to pick fights, or are being that way for no legitamate reason - then we have reason to be cautious. We don't want want to get hurt. And if something sets them off, why would they not take it out on us? Or any body else?

Answer 2

There is a huge difference between tough/strong and violent.

I know a lot of men in the military who are tough, strong, brave and also respectful and gentle with their loved ones. A real man knows when to be tough and when to be gentle.

A real man never gets violent, especially with his loved ones.

Of course on the battlefield it is a different situation, but soldiers know how to separate what is appropriate on the battlefield with what is appropriate off the battlefield.

And soldiers are not Thugs. Thugs are the ones who are rude and violent and need restraining orders.

Answer 3

It's a well-researched phenomenon.
Women want a biological mate who has the best genes for strength/survival/breeding. That is, the alpha male.

But what is the evidence a man is alpha?
Aggressive, strong, smart, quick-witted, has lots of stuff, has power (power and wealth are considered aphrodisiacs - they are strong symbols of alpha-ism).

So what is violent control freaking piece of garbage to do?
Pretty much nothing - he looks alpha because he is aggressive, apparently strong and quick-witted (attitude based). With a little effort, he can fake it quite well.

This gets him past the female 'alpha' filters - he looks alpha, and so appears tasty. But he is a fraud, and most women won't realize it until he's thrown more than a few punches their way. Sad but true.

A real alpha is aggressive (or at least assertive), strong, quick witted and probably powerful and wealthy (but not always). He is a natural leader, and has no need to abuse women in any situation. He doesn't need to, and would probably not lower himself to that level even if angered.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

It's evolutionary. On a subconcious level they want a mate who will produce strong and vigorous offspring. When they realize the danger this puts their own life in they conciously decide to end the relationship.

Answer 6

That is a damn good question!!!

I guess it's that a woman wants a man who'll defend her and provide for her--sort of a spin on the old-fashioned ideas. But a guy who deals with things with violence and isn't in touch with his emotions just might turn on her, too!

Answer 7

Because most women are confused. So are most men. Things were better when women were women, and men were men. Our society (US) is almost androgynous. I don't get it either. I actually wish I lived back in the 50's before women's lib, before women grew testicles and men sprouted ovaries.

Yes, I am a woman, and I said that.

Answer 8

Let me know when you get the answer. I also couldn't figure it out. it's just like US when they decided to build Bin Laden to kill Russia and then were surprised he got violent!

Answer 9

such women want to eat their cake & have it.

Answer 10

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