We have been married for almost 15 years. We have talked about bring in a "female" starting as a friend and taking us to to a new level in the bedroom. What are your thoughts?
2006-08-17 03:15:44 · 18 answers · asked by philly72chic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Bringing another woman in is a potentially very dangerous situation. You and your husband have to be very comfortable and trusting of each other that no matter how things may look, you still love each other completely and would never go to anyone else. It is the mark of an outstanding relationship if it can handle a second woman without suffering.
Best of luck with it.
2006-08-17 03:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's healthy to fantasize! Is it just talk or do you want to actually try it?
Here is some info for you from another question I answered, if you wanted to try:
There are lots of reasons that couples fantasize about another person and they do not necessarily mean that they wish to become swingers.
For one, many people enjoy watching others particpate in sexual activity.Have you discussed bringing another woman or man into your bed? If so, a swingers club is certainly the most efficient way to find someone to join you. But you could test the waters by stopping by one. They are all over...where you think they wouldn't be!
You can see some of the action, as it's very much an adult party!!!
If your initial discussion reveals that you both are interested in swinging, you MUST develop a set of rules in order to be successful.
Rules allow each of you to understand each other's comfort levels, interests and "sore spots", and without a good set of rules, you will almost definitely suffer jealousy, and anger, and being uncomfortable.
It's a very big step in fantasizing and then making it become a reality.
The fantasies can be just as good!!!
2006-08-17 10:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, Try other techniques to spice up the bedroom not another female. Not a good idea but if you are a freaky person go for it if you are happy and your husband enjoy enjoy!
2006-08-17 10:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years of marriage. That is a long time to jeopardize it.
Just remember, once you cross that bridge there will be no turning things back like they used to be.
Once you bring the"fantasy" to life, things will never be the same. My advice is to keep it as a fantasy and find some other way to spice up your sex life.
2006-08-17 10:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by bonjovigroupie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinky, it'll spice up your sex life, thats for sure. The only thing I'd be worried about is my Guy thinking that it would be okay to casually see this girl that you are bringing on, on his own time. 15 years of marriage, you should be okay. Have fun with it!
2006-08-17 10:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm three some. you guys sex life that boring? you have to bring someone else into it? at least its a female if it was a male I think he would have shot himself first.
2006-08-17 10:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tremendous Idea, now just to convince my missus to do the same
2006-08-17 10:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by funeehaha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go back and review your wedding vows
2006-08-17 10:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a new level huh
2006-08-17 10:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're insane!
2006-08-17 10:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋