I have a 10yr old step daughter with ADHD and I hate her. We get her every 2nd weekend, She is not a pleasure to be around! She is rude, doesn't listen, she has absolutly no social skills, she is not organized, leaves her stuff all over the place, cries alot, is always pouting, in general she is not a very happy child! You can't joke with her! Nothing is ever her fault! She goes thru people things, she picks her nose and eats it in front of people! She say total unappriate thing to people! So my question is is there anyway I can hurt her without my husband knowing it?
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2006-08-17 03:15:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-08-17 06:40:57 · update #1
Let's see, your stepdaughter has a clinical diagnosis of ADHD, something she did not ask for nor can she help having. She is the victim of a broken home and has to deal with a hateful, presumably jealous, stepmother, and you have labeled her "rude" while spouting off nothing but rude hateful remarks. Not to mention the VERY serious issue of you actually wanting to hurt her behind your husbands back.
You need help more than the child (and no, none of this is her fault). Your husband needs to leave you and make his daughter his first priority. And you need to be reported to Child Services and they should watch you every minute of every day because you are actually PLANNING injury to a child which is far more serious than acting impulsively. Oh, and since you are clearly a CHILD ABUSER, I'll go the extra mile and say that you should be sterilized for the safety of any future child who has the misfortune of being born to an evil person like yourself.
Oh, and since you are actively promoting the abuse of a child by soliciting ideas as to how to go about it....consider yourself reported and god help that poor little girl that she will be able to overcome her disability and the emotional (and maybe physical) scars that you have inflicted on her.
2006-08-17 12:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Smom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Why would she be retarded? Mental retardation is a disability and is characterized by way more serious things than watching children's television. Although Hannah Montana is on Disney Channel, it deals with issues that are more likely to be faced by teenagers, such as friendship problems, dating, etc. Miley Cyrus, who plays Miley Stewart/Hannah Montana, is sixteen, and a lot of the other actors and actresses are older than her, anyways. And Miley Cyrus's music is the same: it's appropriate for kids, but deals with issues that 18 year olds would also face. There is nothing wrong with liking children's television shows, no matter what age you are. And it does not imply that the child is retarded, because actual retardation is much more serious.
2016-03-16 23:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 15 and has adhd. this is something very hard to deal with. my daughter was very much the same as you have described. this is part of adhd. this is something you will have to really learn about so you can understand it, and hopefully find some patience and maturity within when dealing with her.
wanting to hurt her and asking other people for advice on how to hurt her is not a very mature way to go about this.
i have read some of your other questions....it seems you have a newborn and also maybe some problems with your husband......you are probably under a GREAT deal of stress right now.
take a breather, relax.........hurting someone is not going to fix the situation.
i am remarried, so my husband is my daughters stepfather, on top of that, we have a 8yr old and a 15month old.........it is very hard, and at one time we had to go to family counseling. why don't you give that a try? even if she does come over only every other weekend, at least it would give you and your husband a chance to work things out and try different ways of dealing with problems. again, hurting someone is not the answer.
the good thing is, a lot of children with adhd will eventually grow out of it. my daughter does not act like that now, but she did when she was younger.
hang in there!
2006-08-17 04:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.& Mrs.CoolBreeze SFCU 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That answer you got from your last question was pretty informative. I'm not sure if the majority of her behaviour can be attributed to her condition, or maybe she is just a miserable child. Maybe her parents' separation made her behaviour worse, some children react like that when parents separate and one remarries.
I think you have to be understanding and change your attitude towards her. Also how does your husband cope with her? Does he know you hate her? I I hope he doesn't leave all the parenting to you when she comes over, work this out with him. You have her for 2 weekends a month, children need patience and understanding and to know that the adults in their lives (you included) care about them and have their best interests at heart.
2006-08-17 03:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This child is the flesh and blood of your husband and you hate her?? The child is entering adolescence and also has ADHD. Have a heart you cruel thing! You want to hurt her? Probably you already have with that sour attitude, which could be why she is acting this way. Try getting some counseling for yourself, you seem totally devoid of meternal instincts!! By the way, Miss Ignoramus your stepdaughter is not a retard.
2006-08-17 03:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Maria b 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Taking care of a ADHD child requires a lot of patience and love.
These children has the same souls as any other children, except that they are in the *wrong* body, a body that doesn't work for them. Every soul yearns for giving and receiving love.
If you have no patience, you can render help from relatives or baby sitters.
We're all from the same Divine source. You're not going to get away from hurting anyone without leaving a trace. God knows.
2006-08-17 03:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of a child with mild mental retardation, I can say that your question alone is completely offensive. I doubt that you are serious, hence your postpartum post in which you claim to want to hurt your newborn as well.
With all of your ranting I sincerely hope that any children you do decide to bear are in perfect health.
Simple self!
2006-08-17 03:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by YaskY 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HONESTLY!! You must be crazy asking people to give you advice on how hurt a person that has a mental disorder, let alone a 10 yr old kid.
Instead of wasting your time soliciting ideas on how to hurt the kid, try to learn more about ADHD.
2006-08-17 03:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by Tungak 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first of all it is not your place to step in and say you want to hurt some1 especially a child. if she has behavioral issues and or adhd as you claim then you need to have her father and biological mother talk with her about her issues, plus i agree with the person above you need counciling. you should tell you husband how you feel about his child im sure he'd have something to say about it.
2006-08-17 03:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by shellie11985 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cant believe you want to hurt a child. You are nuts. Try to help her and not hurt her. You need not be around children !!!!!!!
2006-08-17 03:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by bama_kath 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋