why do poeple hurt others? (in any way)?

Question

my father abused me when i was 9 and when i turned12 i started cutting i'm now 17 and still feel like crap

Answer 1

Please stop cutting, and get some help, talk to ppl who you trust, find some help groups on the net. i dont know why your dad did that to you, but you need to fix it, write down everything you want to say to him. to get it out for your self... ur 17 you have Ur whole life in front of you, and to have a happy one you need to get passed this, and again plez stop cutting ur self......

look if you want to talk just im me

Answer 2

Throughout life it has been about power. Wars, violence, and abuse. Your father probably felt oppressed at work or through other relationships and took it out on you. The one person he could control and possibly not get in trouble. Later on you cut yourself. Studies show low selfesteem are a cause of abuse and probably the only power you could control was you and your life. Much like little toddlers pout or won't eat. It's the only thing they control. The important thing is you recognize this and receive help. Many people will be willing to help you out and give you individual attention to fix this self distructive behavior. The best thing to remember is those who love you, right now you are hurting them....

Answer 3

Because although we all have problems, some people have more. You couldn't control your father abusing you but you can control how much longer you let him control your life. He started abusing you and you are continuing it. Have you had any counseling ? I cant tell you how eye opening it can be. Your too young to feel like crap. Fix it so you wont have to be this way in the coming years, some of the best years in your life.

Answer 4

I was abused as a child too, but I was lucky and found a good support center from my friends. I think you need to go talk to someone about this seriously. If you don't have a good friend that can help you out or a family member that you trust I suggest you seek medical treatment from a psychologist. No they aren't wack jobs, they are there to help you and not judge you. In no way is this your fault, but the way you feel could become your fault if you do not choose to seek help. Who knows, is there a teacher that you could go talk to that you trust? Sometimes they have great resources and can help you out. Being sad and dissappointed and scared in life is not a way to live. Right now its YOUR choice to become in control of your life. You choose the path you want to go on, you have every tool available to become the person YOU want to be. Good luck and I wish the best for you in all things.

Answer 5

According to doctors and such, people are mean or abusive because they don't like themselves......they need to make others just as sad or angry as they are....it makes them feel better. Your Father made you feel bad, and you now hurt yourself to continue feeling bad, or to punish your Mother or Father for what happened when you were 9........You need to break the cycle. You need to regain control of your self esteem. Once you like yourself and accept that you didn't deserve what happened to you you can begin to grow..........Do you want to have kids, get married etc..............Do you want to some day find your self abusing your child? I know that sounds horrible but unless you get some help and break the cycle it could happen.....Please feel better about yourself........cutting wont make the pain go away, it just confuses it. You ll be OK if you start to fix it now..........Trust me, find someone like a councilor to talk to and maybe even your family Doc. They can and will help you. You deserve to be happy.

Answer 6

Everyone has its bad moments. We need to learn how to take care ourselves because if we do not care for ourselves, no one would. Please do not cut yourself, but love yourself and cherish what you have. I am sure you have amazing quality that you just have not discover. Why do not you try to understand yourself a little bit, forget about everyone else they are not important. Live by your princible, and you will sucess. If you are feeling down, try to do something that you love to do, listen to music, laying in the grass, running, etc. Remeber if you start to love and take care of yourself, other people will graduately change. Always put yourself first. I do not know but you may have a difficult life that other people will never understand, but it is okay because you understand and you are strong enough to deal with. You just gotta show yourself what you made of. If you still feelingdepress, maybe try to talk to some professionals. But I am sure you will be strong enough to handle your life.

Take care.

Answer 7

This world is full of different people.Everyday yo meet good people and bad people as well.I am very sorry to know about your feeling.But let yourself low.The more you feel crappy, the more you become crappy.Try to be different avoid mixing bad people and have friends with good people, who can share your thoughts and make you feel good and positive.
You can never change some people, no matter how hard you try, so its better avoid them.Think about the positive and good moments you spends and you will definitely feel good, bad people and bad things are not worth of remembering and they are just waste of time

Answer 8

I think you need professional counseling. Talk to your parents or to the local community mental health organization in your area. If you are not over the abuse you endured by your father you will probably wind up abusing your own children one day and continue the abuse cycle. Good luck to you!

Answer 9

people are sick and sometimes the cycle is repeated. sometimes we react out of context. My mom used to hit me and my brothers and sisters we abusive too; I held it in for many years; I had to later deal with it. I dont like a lot of people now. I didnt grow up the same either- and in the institutions that I grew up in sadly kids hurt other hids. Its pain and scting out and not knowing how to control it. Sometimes its hard to deal with things that have happened in your past. sometimes they stay with you and you cant get over it, unitl you learn how to make it impact you less; you can turn everything into a positive. you should maybe educate your self on why people hurt other people; why people abuse. search the net and ask dr. laura, she might tell you something good.. she also has a hot line but its hard to get on, you have to keep trying but you can e-mail her and ask her and she might tell you a better way to deal with your pain and anger. sometimes therapy doesnt help if they dont do it right; group therapys are the best; thats worked for me and thats just my opinion.. Well good luck to you!

p.s what that person said about getting over it- skrew him! someone once told me- Just so you know, no one cares about what happened to you as a child; you should keep that in mind for future reference" -- she was a burnt out social worker, and I worked in a childrens center and I was 20 years old. People like this are not worth anything; they see life in a little straw!

Answer 10

To feel better about themselves. Cause they're in a bad mood. For fun. Cause they hate them. Cause someone had hurt them and they want to hurt someone else. Tons of reasons. But in your case I think you need counseling. I used to cut myself because I broke up with someone. I talked to my friends about it, did stuff to keep my mind off of things. Find a way to be happy. Life really goes on and you need to find a way to go through. I hope you can be happy too.