and our brains do not work the same way. I am trying really hard to understand his way of thinking especially about financial matter. (I got yelled at for spending 3 dollars on a box of hair dye once) It isnt because he is controlling because I know his OCD is bad. You should see our movie collection and the way its arranged. Does anyone have ANY ideas or advice on dealing with this. There isn't much he can do about it, its up to me to learn how to handle it better. It just frustrates me and in turn frustrates him because I guess I don't understand this part of him. My brain is the exact opposite, I just do whatever as it comes and hes worried about things 6 months from now. HELP??
2006-08-17 02:54:21 · 5 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Obsessive compulsive disorder is a mental disorder that is something he cannot control. As you probably know, it is due to anxiety that in turn is relieved by ritualistic behaviors. There are different ways people with OCD relieve their obsessive thoughts. Some people hoard, some are checkers, some become preoccupied with germs and contamination and feel the need to clean and wash extensively. Some people are called pure Os because they only have obsessive thoughts that they cannot get rid of and invade their minds nearly all or all of the time.
The easiest thing I have found I have wanted from my partner is for him to enable me during my worst periods of OCD but it doesn't really make things better. It doesn't make them worse either. You have to be sympathetic and not make him feel guilty because it is a biological disorder and potentially some of it could have been learned behavior in childhood. In any event, he cannot control it.
You can encourage cognitive behavioral therapy and SSRIs but those medications don't work for everyone (they messed me up really good) and I don't know about the therapy....I have little faith in it but I have heard it works wonders for others....
2006-08-17 03:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to pick up a copy of this book and a few others on the subject if you don't mind reading. It can be very beneficial just knowing a little more about the disease. Imagine one of your pet peeves and think about someone doing that all day long. That is similar to what he is feeling all the time. Just hang in there, it will be okay.
Loving Someone with OCD: Help for you and your family. Authors: Karen J. Landsman, Kathleen M. Rupertus, and Cherry Pedrick
2006-08-17 10:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by c b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he want to change, he can. there is therapy and drugs that help mediate OCD behavior. BUT, he has to believe he has a problem and want to change so long as you are willing to change to accommodate him, he has no reason to change. You will make your life hell trying to become him.
2006-08-17 10:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Michael B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I TOO HAVE OCD, MY HUSBAND ALWAYS JOKES WITH ME ABOUT IT AND IT SEEMS NOT TO BE SO INTENSE WHEN HE DOES. I KNOW THAT HE IS JUST PLAYING. STUDY ABOUT IT SO YOU UNDERSTAND IT BETTER.
2006-08-17 10:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-17 10:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by boardinblack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋