2006-08-17 02:29:58 · 38 answers · asked by elviraikuru 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Tell him you're all stretched out - figuratively and literally - and need time to pull yourself back together again. Send him to a strip joint or buy him some porn.
2006-08-17 02:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure they ever understand that. They have this feeling that they are now second place to the baby (which is probably true) and they need sex to feel important again, not to mention they always want sex anyway. It is a difficult time as I know you are tired and feel like you don't even own your own body at this point. I guess comprise and see if he will settle for quickies and hopefully understand that things will get better as you get more rest, etc. I've had 3 kids, been married 27 years and I really think that my hoping he would understand has affected our marriage. I began to avoid being alone with my husband because I just was too tired to have sex and that has been a problem since. He never did get the idea and made me feel like sex was just another job I had to do. He would deny it, but that's how I see it. Good luck - I guess just do it and keep quiet as he will probably never get the idea, men are somewhat slow on some of this stuff.
2006-08-17 02:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you haven't been putting him out for three months!!! This is way too long for a couple to be apart. It is very important that you find time to be with your husband. I know how hard it is when you have a newborn. Everything is about the baby and the baby needs you for every thing. You are tired, and just not interested but.....please don't' neglect your husband. Make some time for him. Go out on dates at least once per week or set aside time just for him. It is very important that you continue to meet each other needs. The best gift you can give your baby is a happy marriage and a happy home. The bible even says not to with hold sex from your spouse. You need to get in on sister!! Be sexy and be the aggressor!!! Be good to that man!
2006-08-17 02:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dominika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your body, your choice. Ask him for a bit more time. I know men think three months is not too soon, but I know that it may be. Psychologically, if not physically. I mean, come on, you were in pain down there, how could men expect it to be pleasurable to have sex anytime soon? Let alone unprotected sex... which I would guess would be your husband's wish. Getting pregnant again, so soon? Not such a great idea, IMHO.
Let alone the facts like physical exhaustion from nursing / caring for the baby. I mean, how can you think of sex when you hardly get enough sleep?
2006-08-17 02:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to remain celibate the first 6 weeks after having a baby. After you see your OBGYN and everything is normal again you can go back to your normal lifestyle. You are fine. If you don't want another child I would suggest contraceptives. If it has been three months, you are well healed after birth. If it was three days ago tell him no unless he wants you to get uterine infections or other diseases.
2006-08-17 02:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you are not feling the same way This is completely normal, postpartum emotion. Women are focussed on their "Motherhood" and tend to negate their sense of "womanhood." You WILL begin to want sex, again. In the meanwhile, can you find a way to satisfy your husband's needs, and make him feel wanted and not in contention with the baby, by giving him opportunities to be intimate, with you,? Maybe a romantic bubble bath, together, which you deserve, to relax you and in which he can participate, Washing one another;s hair, ETCETERA, may also alleviate your husband's sexual frustration, if you know what I mean.....Be well.
2006-08-17 02:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by patterson589@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 Months is a long time. A doctor even says 6 to 8 weeks is enough of a waiting period. I could never even wait that long! I feel sorry for your husband, and you. Go to a doctor and ask their opinion, maybe something is wrong.
2006-08-17 02:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 weeks is the recomended time to wait for sex after giving birth unless their were other complications. Men want sex, men will never understand women. That's just something that you're going to have to understand.
2006-08-17 02:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by a_poor_misguided_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to go Above and Beyond, then he should too. Tell him that he'll have to pay for it because if you have to go Above and Beyond, he should too. Tell him that you will..no problem however, there will be one condition, he has to carry the next baby for 9 months while you nip at his heels, constantly asking for sex. Last option, Make him up a sign to show on some busy street corner saying "WILL WORK FOR FOOD, WILL BEG FOR SEX."
2006-08-17 02:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you blame him? My hubby wanted to jump me in the hospital room after the delivery. LOL I totally get where you're coming from. Let him know he needs to chill and wait for you. Try to understand also that they are kinda sex deprived while we are pregos. (Well my hubby was anyway) Maybe you can fool around without sex for a little while. THere are alternatives.
2006-08-17 02:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Queen of Kings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're supposed to wait at least 6 weeks before you engage in any sexual contact, and I'm not sure how you delivered your baby, but 3 months! Are you trying to torture him??? He's already been waiting to have normal intercourse with his non-pregant wife for 9 3/4 mos., unless you had complications, I don't see why he should wait any longer.
2006-08-17 02:34:42 · answer #11 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋