i mean if u love someone (bad boy) who huts u have to forget him but if it was a real love what can i do to hate that person
2006-08-17 02:24:10 · 32 answers · asked by sherna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't hate
be angry, get over it and then put it aside and move on with your life.
good luck, this was easier for me to say than it will be for you to do.
2006-08-24 18:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Fuzzy Wuzzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As humans we still have animal nature. We many times want to choose the Alpha male. This could be a bad boy, or a successful good looking guy, the guy who is seen with everyone etc etc etc. There are a lot of dead, imprisoned, drug addicts etc who wanted the bad boy type alpha male.
I would suggest you get some guidance from a therapist or someone who is a professional. Hating anyone is not the way. Be smart and back off. Hate what they do, not the spirit or person themselves. Forgiveness is good, but that doesn't mean you have to let them back in your door.
Most of all forgive yourself for loving someone who is "bad". But you can't fix anyone who doesn't want to be fixed. Our power lies in what we do, not what others do. What you can do is talk to a therapist about your self worth and codependency.
2006-08-24 22:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by modulion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone (bad boy ) like that isn't worth the time or effort even to hate him . Let him suffer with what he has done and how he has mistreated and hurt you. Live a life full of love and compassion dont waste your beautiful spirit on such a person, the greatest power over him is living life to the fullest everyday.
2006-08-24 15:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
find out all the things that you hate with him and there you go. you will have all the bad things in him and that will help you a lot.
and there is no such thing as the real love. every love is real, because you can't fake that feeling. there is more or less good guy for you and thats all.
2006-08-24 20:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not really want to hate anyone do you? It just brings pain onto yourself and darkens your own heart. You have to remember the good times and fun that you had, realize it was a chapter in your life and find someone who will cherish you.
2006-08-25 00:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by earlmegget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOve is unconditional! If you really love thew person try to help him out of the bad things and let him born again by showing concern, affection, care and love!We are not perfect but loving someone is perfect!
2006-08-24 21:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bruno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about hating him, hatred is something that can eat you up inside. Just see it as a stepping stone to a better life and move on.
2006-08-24 11:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a strong term. He knows he can hurt u thats y he does it. Sorry but u need to let go- as much as u love him. You'll soon get over him.
2006-08-24 21:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Luvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be hating anyone. Move on with your life and find someone you can love.
2006-08-17 02:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start to get nostalgic, focus on the bad stuff, how he mistreated you, how he hurt you. If you still want to go back to him knowing how he disrespected you and mistreated you, you might want to work on your self-esteem. You deserve someone who will treat you right. Don't settle for a jerk because you "love" him.
2006-08-17 03:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by m&m_manic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to hate him. That will not get him out of your life. The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference. Try for that, you will be better for it.
Good luck.
2006-08-25 02:13:18 · answer #11 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋