Newlywed advice?

Question

I'm getting married next week. What has worked for you in your marriage to keep it satisfying and happy?

Answer 1

The first three years you will be ok. After that remember...

- Patience is a virtue
- Money does not buy happinness - although it helps a lot.
- Routine will make the marriage dull and boring
- Sex should get better not worst. It is not a job or a drag.
- Compromise. Happy Medium.
- You will never cook as good as his mother.
- You are not his mother.
- Both of you need a little space - alone time.
- Both of you need to keep your friends.
- Have a guys night out or a girls night out, at least once every month.
- Play with each other.
- Hold hands.
- Cook together.
- If one cooks, the other cleans the dishes.
- If he is ranting and screaming because he misplaced the keys or the remote, leave him be. He will calm down eventuallly (usually within five minutes).
- Travel during your vacations.
- Watch sports. Make him watch a chick flick for every two hours of sports you watch.
- Past lovers and girlfriends are in the PAST.
- Both of your families will try to give you advice and opinions take the ones you need, forget the other ones.
- When kids arrive, do not argue in front of them.

I can be here all day. But the best advice is LOVE EACH OTHER. RESPECT EACH OTHER. BE EACH OTHERS BEST FRIEND and LOVER.

Answer 2

Patience
Lots of communication...and I mean, communication without yelling at each other and learning to agree to disagree when you can't seem to agree on one thing.
Consideration and respect for each other's feelings
Understanding each other's point of view
Spending as much time together doing what you both love to do.
Developing new hobbies and activities or skills to keep the boredom away.
And...respecting each other's need for space when wanting to do your own thing.

My husband and I are still learning but we were the best of friends for 4 yrs before getting married so I guess we had a head start. LOL!

P.S. We're still the best of friends and I think that has GOT TO BE the best part of our marriage.

Answer 3

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding - how exciting! My husband and I will be married one year come the end of September - we've been together for a total of 3 years now. I guess the best advice I can give is to laugh a lot, compliment a lot, and always remember to love. Look at your relationship like a big bowl of candy -if you're always reaching in and taking, without replenishing it...soon the bowl will be empty and the love gone. But if you give and take, the love will always be there. Best wishes to you both!!

Answer 4

One thing that has worked for us is NO JEALOUSY! Don't stifle the relationship (in other words, allow him some freedom for guy things like porn, going out with the guys, looking at other girls, etc.) and don't be jealous or pointing fingers unless you really have reason to.

I have seen unnecessary jealousy ruin many a marriage. Trust each other and allow each other some freedoms.

P.S. I second the communication thing. Be each other's best friends and talk about everything. My husband and I never run out of things to talk about and I think that's so great! We could be in a room for 24 hours straight and talk the whole time.

Answer 5

I will be married 25 years this September. My parents are married 58 years. Here's the secret - (1) NEVER EVER fight over money! (2) Don't have roaming eyes. Remember, "til death do us part" should be taken seriously! (3) Always make decisions together and (4) NEVER let the romance go out of your marriage! Make it a fun life together! Congratulations and best of luck to you both !!!

Answer 6

Your Sex desire and that of you mate will go away after awhile. The only way to keep the love alive if sex was what attracted the 2 of you together, your relationship will blow up in your face if you 2 aren't honest and have fidelity for each other. Trust and honesty and worshipping God for finding you a life long partner in love. That's the way to make marriage work for a lifetime. But if you are like most people who marry because they are sexually attracted, those marriages die when the attraction dies, and it will die. Both must believe in God and worship Him together. He will keep you in love and together forever. Goodluck and God Bless.

Answer 7

Never go to bed angry, stay up all night if you have to!! Make sure that you know how he feels just as much as you do, and sex is a big factor, but if things are not going right don't use that just to make things better, because it will for a couple of days and then it will all blow up, you need to address the issue, while it is little, not when it all piles up and you are about to go crazy.

Answer 8

My husband of 21 years died this past May 4. I think the one thing that helped us more than anything in the world, was never forgetting to communicate. I mean TRULY communicate. We never went to bed mad, always talked instead of yelling, and always dealt with any problems such as hurt feelings, misunderstandings, etc., immediately. Never let those things "fester", deal with them on the spot....He was my best friend, and I treated him with respect, just like I would a friend..

Best wishes to you both!

Answer 9

honesty

respect

loving gestures

kindness

if you are getting yourself something to drink say, 'honey, would you like something to drink?' - it's the small things that add up and make the difference.

When you find his dirty socks on the floor, don't blah blah blah about it........yea, he needs to put his dirty socks in the laundry, but just the thankful that he's there in the first place to leave them on the floor.

Tell him everyday, especially when you are leaving each other in the mornings to go your sepearte ways to work, etc., that you love him, hug and kiss. We never seperate without doing this - sounds cheesy? Maybe, but it works for us.

Good luck on new your life together with the one you love!

Answer 10

never go to bed mad at each other
comprimise
let him do the man thing
communicate
DO NOT FORCE HIM TO DO ANYTHING
keep him guessing
F.R.O.G(forever rely on God)

Over all just continue with what you have been doing, you are getting married. You just have to be yourself and allow growth between the two of you. CONGRAT'S