If I go to a club or party guys will come and dance with me, some ask whether or not i have a man, and when they find out I don't they feel free to put their hands wherever they want and make out. And then they try go take me to the back room or somewhere private. I'm insecure so I have a hard time telling people off and if someone does get me to the back room I would probaly go with it so I don't hurt their feelings.
2006-08-17 01:12:49 · 21 answers · asked by 9987 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Dancing
It's guys like that that give every guy a bad reputation.
Things nowadays are so bad that when I go up to a girl and just say hello and ask her name, nine times out of ten they look at me as if I'm a rapist.
I also hate night clubs. They seem to be the place where those slime balls congregate the most. If you like to go out dancing make sure you do it with a group of friends, preferably with some of them being male. These slime balls are usually cowards and if they see you're with other people they're less likely to harass you.
Also remember, no is no and there's nothing to feel guilty about it. Guys who just want to get in your pants definitely deserve a no. Why should you feel guilty about telling them off? They're scum...
Another thing, being groped at against ones will is a criminal offense. You should complain to a bouncer if somebody harasses you. A good night club will take it seriously and take action. If nothing is done, don't give them back your business and tell your friends.
2006-08-17 01:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Epicarus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something in your attitude is obviously attracting this type of behavior from guys. You need to work on your self esteem, you probably have somewhere a belief that if men are not all over you then you are worthless. Guys can perceive this and "attack" a "defenseless" victim. A woman can be sexy and appear to be having fun at a club and still be respected.
And where did you get this idea that you would hurt their feelings? You need to dig inside yourself, find out the answer and change this belief. I'd try to find a good therapist if I were you.
2006-08-17 06:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Evenstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T be afraid to hurt their feelings. They are already hurting yours. Once they've crossed the line with you, there shouldn't be any regrets about hurting their feelings. You don't plan on seeing those guys in th efuture, right? So just tell them off in the most straight-forward way. Complain to the bouncer if you need help.
They maybe taking it wrong way when you say you don't have a man. They might assume you're looking for one, and immediately they assume they qualify. So, for the purposes of that particular conversation, just tell them that you have a man.
I tend to avoid nightclubs for the same very reason, even though I don't have a problem to tell this kind of guys to get lost. I don't like to experience it anyway. I go with a bunch of friends, if I go, and we all come in together and leave together, without any "extras" following us.
2006-08-17 12:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK it's like that although you feel good that is no reason to groped, or felt up every time you dance. It's a good chance that the guys feel immediately you are an easy touch.
Be independent and let them know the rules right out front. Don't worry about hurting someones feeling who are imbrassing you and trying to make an *** out of themselves on a dance floor, just don't put up with it.
2006-08-17 01:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a girl, and they are guys, and because of raging hormones, they look at the ***, then the breasts, then the face, and if they like what they see, then they'll try to feel you up, because they assume that if you're at a club, then you must be a wild girl, a bad girl, a fast girl, or a ho. Stop going to clubs, if you don't like the crowd or the atmosphere.
2006-08-17 17:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like it why do you go places where there are guys like that. What are you wearing? How are you dancing? Take note of what everything you are doing is suggesting. I mean that is what they came for, if that is not what you want to be there for why not go somewhere else. But I don't think you need worry about their feelings. They obviously only interested in physical sensations, feelings would play very little part in any of it.
2006-08-17 01:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by sereneicequeen 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you like when they do that to you? I think you should first determine that. If you didn't like it, you would have done something about it, right? If not, then learn how to put them off, or at least always take some friends to a club.
2006-08-17 01:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Uros I 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is kind of you not to hurt our feelings. You are a good person to have sex with a stranger at a club. Where do you usually go dancing and do you have any friends who act like you?
2006-08-17 04:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by M S 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The back room is where they are trying to get you. How you respond to the groping tells the guy how far you are willing to go.
2006-08-17 02:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by MISS_SOPH 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THAT is the exact reason why I don't go to clubs. Next time, tell them you have a man.Even if you are insecure, it is your body, not theirs. Have some respect for your body and give those horny bastards a piece of your mind.
2006-08-17 01:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Goodbye 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋