I've been feeling down and out about my looks lately. i have a fabulous boyfriend who loves me but i still feel ugly and unattractive. it doesnt help that my friends are all beautiful and glam, i feel like the ugly duckling. a night out depresses me cus i never can look as good.
any one ever feel the same and wat do you do to make you feel better??
2006-08-17 00:56:42 · 19 answers · asked by Caz 4 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Your beautiful when you smile! :) and I love what your wairing. Hows that Girly girl?
2006-08-17 01:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I certainly feel ugly sometimes, but I know that it is just a mental thing, rather than a fact. I'm sure it's the same with you.
I think you need to learn how to avoid those negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. However that's probably not as easy as it sounds.
I suggest (to start with at least) you get yourself a good book about building your confidence and self-esteem. I find that they put things into perspective and you soon realise that if you were to have 100% self-confidence that means so much more than how you think you look.
I'm sure there are people you know who are attractive and popular because of who they are rather than what they look like.
The human mind is a very powerful thing and once it gets into a way of thinking (positive or negative) it is difficult to change. But if you KNOW that it is your mind then you can decide to change. Every time you find yourself thinking negatively try to counter it straight away with a positive thought.
Once you believe you are beautiful, you will be beautiful.
Hope that helps! Good luck!
2006-08-17 08:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Caz!
I am sure you are not ugly and unattractive, else you would not have a fab boyfriend!! And you must be a nice person, else you wouldn't have those friends.
We all feel like this at times, I know I do! What makes me feel better is to think of a bloke I find attractive. A real bloke, not a film star - thay are all plasticy and airbrushed!!! Take a step back, and look at him. No, really look at him!!! Right. Have a look at his belly, I bet he has a bit of a podge, right? And has he got funny, bushy eyebrows? I bet he has! And I bet if you look hard enough at his face you will see a spot!!!! Hehe!!!
There is a guy who I find really sexy, but he is not perfect! And nor is anyone. But it doesn't matter, because lumps and bumps and big noses make the world go around!!!
So have a big bar of chocolate, buy yourself a new lipstick and go home and shave your bikini line. 3 things to cheer you up!!
Rae xx
2006-08-17 08:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when i hear someone talking like that, it really saddens me. I am not the best looking but i have some good points and i just think you ought to make the best of what you got.
Take more time to decide what to wear or make sure your hair is always nice etc. Anyway i'm sure your a lovely person to know and thats the main thing. Nothing worse than a fantastic looking air head!!!
By the way no amount of praying will change how you look!!
2006-08-17 08:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes yes!! I have a very good looking boyfriend and I think I am an ugly ducking also! i cant go anywhere because I know I dont look as good as other girls or at least thats how I feel. and I cant help but wonder if he doesnt think so too. I think everyone looks at us and says man he could do so much better than her! and I hate to say it, but I have never found anything to make me feel better, sure wish I could, being this way really sucks!
2006-08-17 08:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by cee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh hun!
dont be down!
u obviously have summing otherwise ur man wouldnt be with u!
i know where ur coming from as my friends used to be all more glam than me and slimer and i hated going out and they got all the guys and stuff but as i have got older and moved on i have done so much with live and i see my old mates and they are all with babies and not going nowhere!
the best thing to do is tell urselfe what your best qualities are! and keep doing it every day and soon enough u will become more confident and u will feel gr8!
ask ur man why he likes u and see what he says!
dont be down! everyone is good looking in there own way!
xx
2006-08-17 08:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by princessnicola23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time people are too worried about there own appearance to wory about how others look so dont be hard on yourself. If you feel ugly people probably dont think you do and are just worrying thinking that they look ugly themselves.Think about your good points and as you have a boyfriend its obvious that your not that bad. :-)
Emma
x
2006-08-18 10:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound just like me! It has come to the point where I go out and ignore everyone now, I buy stuff that I think looks ok and my hubby thinks too, that helps. Keep smiling, you are just as better looking as everyone else, dont let anyone else say different. Beauty on the inside matters, thats what I say!
2006-08-17 08:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jovigirl05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most would say beauty is superficial and you should deal with your self confidence etc ...but i think i know what you mean ... sometimes you just need a break ...take a weekend to go to a spa and rejuvenate, mani and pedi, detox, massage, the whole works, get a new hairdo, go shopping and get a new type of wardrobe, and change your make up -mary kay gives you free tips if you purchase their products. good luck x
2006-08-17 08:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is praying to god going to help? Just wondering.
Glam yourself up to the max, go out with just your girl friends and see how many lads will talk to you, smile at you etc etc.
Above all else, stop being so dang critical of yourself. You will not see the bad bits of your mates because they cover them up. Everyone has a part of them they don't like, its natural.
Grin and be confident.
2006-08-17 08:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by ty_rosewood 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't be that ugly if you have a 'fabulous' boyfriend. Anyway only shallow people judge others by their looks.
2006-08-17 08:01:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋