I have only been married for 9 months and we have a 6 month old son. We get on really well and everything is fine, except that my sex drive is 0. My wife has a great body and is a real looker. I am attracted to her but just don't have the drive for any sex at the moment. She says it worries her and it is a problem. I am 31 and she is 23. She doesn't really make any advances towards me much either, but we love each other very much. It's just the sex that has come to a grinding halt. Is this normal? Does ones sex life slow down after marriage? Anybody else experiencing the same dilemma?
2006-08-16 23:58:30 · 19 answers · asked by George 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-08-17 00:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by bozzo4321 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is surprising behavior. We have been married 11 yrs this October, hubby is 42 and I am 39 and no one has lost interest in sex yet. We go out, we stay in, we have a good time. Hubby watfches porn sometimes too, but it sure doesn't keep him out of the bedroom. Does hubby have an issue he is not sharing--such as resentment, anger, feeling unattractive or unimportant? I think you will have to take the bull by the horns, plan some romance and tell him it is time to step up and have some fun in and out of the bedroom. If there was sex before marriage and none now, I would watch for an affair and if that is not an issue, tell him you want his body so give it up. I find his lack of sex drive very odd. I would for sure tell him you need more time in the bedroom and make it happen. Strange.
2016-03-16 23:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 30 and have 2 kids. My sex life changed after the birth of mu 2nd child. Wife has to devote more time to the children, u c. Advice u to not go for a second child now for atleast 4-5 years. Things will improve for you as ur chilg gows up. Alternatevly, you can also talk to ur wife abt it and try to find out a solution. Let me tell, its ony you 2 who can find an answer to this problem and nobody else. A little advice my help. Cheers
2006-08-17 00:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by rd123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex slows down for a lot of reasons. What hours are you working? If you are under a lot of stress your sex life will slow down too. So you might need to take a few minutes for your self everyday to relax and unwind after work.
And women feel different after child birth. It feels different during sex and (atleast me) it is harder to orgasm.
Try doing something romantic. Bring home a flower or her favorite treat. Tell her how much you love her and how beautiful she is. By showing her how much she means to you, she will want to please you more.
2006-08-17 00:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by jaelyn1976 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be you both have a new wee one and she is or your tired...Why not try this...Find someone to babysit, if you can do it over night to plan a special weekend, your wife would love you forever for this. Take some time for just you two, do something relaxing a nice romantic dinner whatever you two enjoy doing together. Even with a baby, you two have to find time to be together, this is important, not sexually, but mentally for both of your sanity's. Relax and enjoy each other...Oh if you help around the house, its another turn on for your wife, how about cooking her dinner? There is a lot you can do.....Good Luck
2006-08-17 00:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your wife, I would be worried too and I am, my husband has the same problem! And yes, my sex life not only slowed down, it came to a screeching halt! Please see your doctor right away as this is not normal! The two of you are too young to let this kind of thing come in between you, please seek help! I hope that everything works out for you! Good luck and God bless!
2006-08-17 01:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex whats that. Slowed down it has stopped.
2006-08-17 00:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds pretty normal you have taken on a lot more stress with a baby and all, your lady is going to be preoccupied a lot more now with feeding and nappies . its probably just a need for some intimacy . try getting a sitter dressing up and hitting a good restaurant then perhaps a little fooling around in a hotel room for a couple of hours :you need a little" you" time with the wife . to get the juices flowing . Dont sweat it . things will be looking up in no time wink wink >;O)
2006-08-17 00:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not normal. The sex life of a woman changes after child birth, the reson being her duties towards child.but man's life does not change.actually he complains that the wife is not giving much attention to child and less to husband's sex needs.So find out why sex urge has diminished.Consult a doctor.worry about your own life not otherrs.
2006-08-17 00:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by shribharatpshubh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We'll for me the sex after marriage is much better and we have children too. Have day we do it twice a day, very good...
2006-08-17 01:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the reason my very well be the birt of your baby. Try and have a day set aside for you two have alone time and make it romantic. That way the both of you can unwind toeather and hopefully get that thing that you had before the baby.
2006-08-17 00:55:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋