there is a girl at work, who i really really hate, how can i express/show how i feel about her?

Answer 1

I work in one of those hideous offices where you are forced to share a circular desk with two other people, separated only by very low dividers; meaning that we are still in full view of one another for up to seven hours a day.

I have not spoken a word to the person (I prefer absolute silly-haired bastard) that I sit directly opposite to for over two weeks, which I am quite proud of.

Try my method: you know it makes sense.

Answer 2

The best way to deal with someone you can't stand is being so nice (heap coals of fire on her head is the expression) and so helpful and stuff that it will actually get to her and make her change her attitude if this is what you hate about it It's also called "killing with kindness". Show her who's the better person by ignoring the fact that she's so overbearing or uncomfortable to be around.
Is it just you or do others have a hard time with her also? Find out what they're doing to access the situation. Ask your boss for a different shift from hers if that's doable.
Don't find a way to express to someone that you hate them because that will only accelerate the problems more and it could cause you to get fired as well.
Good luck!

Answer 3

Expressing that you hate a coworker is a dandy-and justified!- reason to get yourself fired. Who needs an employee who hates people and feels the need to act this out?

You need to analyze why you have such negative feelings about this person. If they are dishonest or not doing their job, you should be having a discussion with a supervisor, in private, about the issues. Ditto if this person threatens or harasses you.

But if you just don't like this person, the adult and professional way to go is to at least try to get along. If you are friendly, kind and open,.you may see a completely different person in this girl. If she's really horrible, she'll act nasty and the comparison of her bad behavior to your good behavior will really stand out.

If you just have to do something about your feelings, do it away from work and in a way that harms no one. Draw a picture of her face and put it on your bed and whack it to bits with a tennis racket. Make a voodoo doll. Whine and moan to friends. But unless you don't care about a career and want to be known as a trouble maker, DON"T act out at work or in a way that can get back to your employer.

And at least consider this other person's feelings. How would you like to be told someone hates your guts? Would that make you any nicer? How have you treated her in the past that might have contributed to how she treats you?

After all, liking everyone is not guaranteed in any workplace. You are expected to at least make a reasonable attempt to get along with others.

Answer 4

Punch her in the face repeatedly, and every 5 seconds or so say to he "WHY AM I DOING THIS??" if she gets the answer right, stop. If she gets it wrong say "WRONG" and carry on.....

Continue this until she discovers for herself why.

It works. PLUS, you dont have to work with her any more as you will possibly be fired, leaving free time to do things you enjoy. AND... she realises she has social relationship issues that make people hate her, and learns to change herself.

Everyones a winner.

Either that, or lay on the charm, go out with her, convince her you love her, get married and have a child. at the birth, strangle the child with its umbillicle chord in front oh her, then swing it about your head, clubbing her in the face with each rotation and singing "Ive always hated you" top the tune of your special song - perhaps from your wedding?

That would also do the trick?

Answer 5

well first of all I think you should stand back and take a deep breath now if you really really hate this girl is it really worth you losing your job for you doing something stupied (2) if you really hate her like that than be civil about it sit her down in a calm manner and dont yell or shout and her and express to her why you hate her or what you dont like about her there is no need to be nasty (3) if you find that you are not able to do so then the next step is to have a meeting with your boss because you have to be careful she can bring you up on charges if you start doing stupied stuff to her so use your brain before you get locked up and be sitting in a jail cell and think about it is that really worth it because you dont like someone it has always been said the ignorance is very blissful when you ignore the ignorant one. We can only suggest to you but I know for a fact that if you continue to let this build up you are going to have some real problems this is a serious issues and when you hate some much you can cause harm and damage to someone. I am only telling you this because I have been there before and who knows if you really dont know her how in the devils can you hate her to me it may seems that you may be jeoulous of her or you may have a hidden fear of having a relationship with her so check your motives about your real reasons make a list and put down what you dont like about her or what makes you hate her but you really need to sit down and talk to her without yelling.

note for personal use: Never do something to a person even if they do it you because we have a system that will LOCK_YOU_UP because they will tell you that there were other options and you could have taken another path so use take a deep breath and think the whole situation clearly cause the COPS dont play no more and you dont need a record either for something that could have been avoided we need to learn how to ignore people and do what you came to do on your job and stop worrying about what other people have to say

Answer 6

Hello, Crispy!

If you hate your colleague that much, i think it's best for you to just ignore her and pretend you don't see her. but if you really feel you need to express your feelings about her, talk to her, and and if the feeling is mutual, you can either work there and get irritated every day and be stressed by her existence, or, who, knows, one of you is having enough at some point and shall seek another job.

Answer 7

I suppose it really all depends on why you really hate her. But, this is probably one of the biggest challenges is dealing with difficult personalities and to always remain professional. It's hard to ignore a difficult person , but you should try to figure out a way to be able to deal with this person. If that is just not possible perhaps speaking with your Supervisor or Manager and explain the situation and get suggestions from them. You may not be the only one feeling this way. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Not at all. There's no reason to express hate. Just leave her alone.
BTW: I hope you know already: There is a thin line between Love and Hate. Both are deeply personal -- If you start making personal investments like insulting her, or making things inconvenient for her - you might eventually grow to LOVE her.

Answer 9

Get rid of the word hate from your vocabulary, it is a dreadful word to use in any situation, If you feel as you do about this girl i think the best thing to do is to ignore her,that is the only way to express your dislike of her,maybe she feels the same about you,have you ever thought of that? How would that make YOU feel.?

Answer 10

Figure out why you hate her and ask yourself if it's justified. Unless she has done something horrendous to you hate is probably too strong and energy sapping to take up your time. If she is horrible or annoying you very much then try telling her how she's making you feel and why and if she's human enough to try and modify her behaviour so you can get along better. If she's not then at least you know you've taken a mature approach and done your bit.

Answer 11

it would be hugely unprofessional to create ill-feeling in the workplace. Be pleasant and professional to everyone. If this girl has done something in particular to upset you, discuss it with her privately and calmly and try to resolve the problems. If this is a work-related issue rather than some personal dislike and you can't sort it out between you, refer the issue to your line manager or to the Human Resources department.
It sounds like you're quite young - don't jeopardise your career prospects and make people think you unprofessional by making a childish scene in the office.