Good Idea or Bad idea?

Question

im a 28yo guy and was i intimate with a guy of 18, he knew what he was doing coz it was his idea to meet and shag, but being older i feel i should have stoped it,

Answer 1

he's old enough to know what he wants and clearly that was you at the time. I've been with people younger than me and older than me. Give yourself a break...and if the age difference makes you uncomfortable then don't do it again...simple as that Live and learn...

PS To all the twats making rude comments...get a life...

Answer 2

Normally I'd say that if you have to ask the question you know the answer. But in this case I think you're just beating yourself up over nothing. I don't endorse anyone to chase someone 10 years younger than they are since it's really hard to make a relationship work with that kind of gap but it it's just for sex and especially if he was the agressor you have nothing to feel bad about. In fact you should puff out your chest a bit for snaring a hot young twink.

Answer 3

he's 18 and an adult that can choose to shag who he wants to.

he obviously wanted to shag you and so did so.

if your feeling like you did something wrong you could always give him a quick call and ask if he was feeling ok about the whole experience.

it sounds like your feeling guilty because you dont usually go for guys of that age group. ....... therefore it feels like something that perhaps stretches what your idea of acceptable is for a shag type experience

you didnt do anything wrong legally. and no matter what morals other people have it really only matters how you feel the experience matches up to your own morals.

Answer 4

Well, if you used protection, then it's a moot point as to whether it was a good or bad idea. If you believe the guy 'knew what he was doing', then obviously you didn't corrupt him. I think you should focus more on, 'is this a path my life should take?' Don't beat yourself up over it, and by the way, you are not responsible for the actions of another person. You don't need to feel guilty because of what he does. You're okay.

Answer 5

Being the older guy, I think you should not have done it.. But if both of you enjoyed every second of what you did then why feel guilty??? The only reason that you should stop is if somebody will get hurt if they found out that you're together.. =)

Answer 6

depends how mature he was, an 18 year old can behave alot older or younger than their age. The fact that you're questioning it suggests you have doubts as to whether he was mature enough to handle it, in which case you shouldnt have done it. And I hope you used protection if you're intending to meet strangers for sex.

Answer 7

It's common for 18 year old girls to date 28+ guys, why should it make a difference because its a guy. Go ahead have fun enjoy life - I hope it works out for you.

Answer 8

Well if you were uncomfortable with it maybe you shouldnt have done it....but saying that he is an adult and so are you....there are girls who are 18 and go out and do things with guys who are your age and there is no problem in that so just cos you are both guys that shouldnt affect it.

Answer 9

Well he was of legal age so you done nothing wrong,age is only a number after all,your only as old as the person your feeling!!

Answer 10

Well hes an innocent young guy, hes probably still exploring his sexuality your experienced to you it was prob bit of fun to him he might think a realtionship. Leave him to his own age let him grow.