Is it true that people's personalities change drastically when they become parents?

Question

(ie. they turn into *******?)

Answer 1

I have no interest in reproducing, but I could see how it would change. They end up "living fot their child", which could be a form of saying "Pushing their expectations on them" which is never a good thing. Everyone is their own person, Simply give them choices and a child will decide for themselves what they'd like. As a parent it is a matter of guidance, and making sure you pick nice safe options that your children can choose from that suits parents needs as well. Since children learn from seeing what others do, such as parents, it'd be better to act like how you'd wish your child to act when wishing them to acquire a certain taste in something, if they don't pick up on it, chances are it wasn't for them and they never would like it. Telling a child to do something seems like a dictatorship, which always get overthrown.

Answer 2

I'm thinking that their PRIORITIES change, not their personality. You know, the little ones come along and are supposed to be your major focus (my opinion), needing to change diapers, feed them, hold them.... all that stuff. With fathers walking away from the responsibility of adulthood, fatherhood and sometimes even marriage.. I think we've both seen that. I'd prefer to label that as the ******. Mothers ignore their kids, leave them in their apartment for days on end so they can go party and have a good time... I'd prefer to label that type as the ******. I would rather not even give them the label of ******... more like clueless .
I've seen my friends fade away, but when I hook up with them in ten years time, we'll pick up where we left off, and have a good time for a night or two, then split off for another few years, to start again. That's the way I see it.

Answer 3

I wouldn't call it turning in 2 @rse-holes.
Having kids is a big responsibility & taking UR role as a Parent seriously, is 2 B expected.
UR not just responsible 4 URself U have other obligations 2 think about.

Or do U think every parent should B like this then 4 fear of being tagged an @rse-hole?
Coz I don't .
Some parents R the PITS!

Jail for mother who gave son heroin
A drug addict mother who gave her son heroin and crack cocaine from the age of nine has been jailed for nine years.Emma Kelly, 31, gave her son heroin at the school gates, Hove Crown Court heard.Judge Anthony Niblett told her she had betrayed her son. Kelly showed no emotion at the sentencing.Judge Niblett told her: "There can be no greater betrayal of a mother's trust and duty towards her child."Kelly realised that her son had been helping himself to her own drugs yet did nothing to wean him off drugs, he added.The judge said: "You told a child psychiatrist that you realised you had a choice of informing social services of your son's increasing opiate dependency... You allowed the situation to continue."He said she had lied to both social worker and schoolteachers."You did nothing to help him and everything to harm him," he said.The boy spent a week in hospital withdrawing from his opiate addiction after he and his mother had been picked up by police for shoplifting in January last year.Judge Niblett said: "On May 5, 2005, you went to his school and you supplied him there with a wrap of heroin. This was, in my assessment, an act of pure wickedness. You offered no explanation or excuse for it, and there can be none."

Answer 4

Honey, everything changes when you become a parent!
And yes, I guess you become a little bit of an ******. That's only because fun as you had known it goes completely out the window, right along with your money.

Answer 5

I went from being an ****** to a big softy. I used to look at the world in a harsh way, as soon as my son was born, I wanted to change the world for the better.

Answer 6

I think just the opposte is true. I know this is only anecdotal evidence, but I know of a lot of former ******* who turned into caring, loving parents (and people) after their first-born was born.

Answer 7

Well, as a parent myself, I haven't changed a whole lot as far as my personality goes. I am still easily amused by the simplest of things, I still like heavy metal music, and I'm still a hardcore gamer.

That being said, I have changed in this way, though. I have learned how precious life is. Whereas before, I've done some really stupid crap. But when my sons were born, I realized that I love my boys with all my heart, and would never do anything to put them in jeopardy. It was then I realized how stupid many of my old actions were, and stopped doing them (knowing that the stranger that passes me by is someone else's son or daughter, and that my stupid action might hurt them).

I also want my boys to learn from my mistakes, so they don't have to go through the hardships and pain I went through. I want them to get a good education, so they can live a life better than what I have, and so they can offer their children a better life than what I was able to offer them.

And for that, yes, I may seem like a pain in the butt to them... that it's not fair that their school night bedtime is 9:30pm... but that's to ensure they're not cranky tomorrow, but are happy, and are able to learn more efficiently. It might not seem fair that when they argue, I take away their video games... but that's because arguing solves nothing, and I want them to use other means of problem resolution to work things out. It might not seem fair that they can't run in the house, but a broken bone is far more painful than missing out on the first minutes of One Piece. It might not seem fair that they can't eat candy before dinner... but I don't want them to be disappointed when they find out I've made lasagne for them (one of their favorites), and can't eat it because they're full. I want them to be happy, healthy, and educated in the long run... even if it means seeming like a pain right now.

The thing is, and most kids (and teens, btw) don't realize this... (pft, I didn't realize this until I became a parent a decade ago)... is that kids tend to think for the moment, "what I want now", because the days and months ahead are yet unknowns to them. They haven't lived long enough or experienced enough to realize the outcome of their actions, and how it will affect them days, weeks, months, years, or their lifetime, down the road.

It's like a game of chess. You don't move for the moment, you think, "if I move there, then my opponent will move here, and I move there, and he moves there, *then* I can take his piece". Kids and teens move for the moment, parents have learned to think ahead. Because of this, we move accordingly... and what might appear to be a stupid move (such as putting the Bishop in a wide open area) now, two or three turns later, will net us their Queen.

...and what might appear to be a stupid decision now (such as not letting you hang out with the guy who looks like he just got out of prison), will, in the end, really be a wise decision that was meant to keep you safe (only to find out on the news later on, he was just arrested for drugs).

If a parent who does what he must to ensure his child's happiness and welfare makes him an '******', then so be it. Parenting makes people '*******'. But we become such, so that you don't needlessly suffer.

Answer 8

Yeah! but that kinda change is only applicable if that person in particular really feels and devote their lives in being parents,,,

BUT for those people that are only forced to be parents, unplanned family, - not applicable

Answer 9

Yes (but they do not turn into *******, from being ******* they become more responsible)

Answer 10

kind of, u see, it's wuite ironic, when people become parents, they tend to be what they are not before they have a child and some even say they most likely resemble their parents characters. lol...kinda scared, my mum is quite naggy hahah