Can mixed relationships work, be it colour or religion?

Question

I am catholic from England, my husband is protestant from Northern Ireland, his mother will not accept me, it's a pity but I've got used to it after nearly 30 years of marriage, when my husband 'phones to see how she is if he mentions my name, she changes the subject, she never enquires about me, does this happen in India?

Answer 1

if you are religious that means you are close-minded and restricted through beleif

Answer 2

This is happening everywhere and in every religion.
This is due to lack of sense, common sense and logic.
We need not worry about many things happen thousands of years.
I very much dislike differentiation by religion. I came to know I am a Hindu only after birth and after many years. I was unable to understand why we need these religions and castes and unwanted differences. Who is interested, when we are struggling to make both ends meet. Who is having time on such insensible things. Life goes on only if you have sufficient money to spend for your daily needs and required comforts. The happiness comes only when we share and care, give and take and understanding each other - wife and husband, and lastly by understanding the reality life i.e., unwanted birth and expected death.
We have to live like human beings - that is all.
If your mother in law hates you, better ignore her mind your husband. Never pity such foolish and idiots. Is he ok for you, then there ends the matter.
Have universal thoughts in your attitude.
After all life is short and make it sweet. No religion will follow you when you die. It was a difference of opinion between the people.

Love him and be loved by him.
Stop worrying and start living - by ignoring senseless people.

Answer 3

I totally say mixed relationships can work out, but when you add religion that is a whole other ball game. Because many are strong in their beliefs. But since the real problem seems to be his mom, then you are just dealing with the typical case of mother-in-law hating. I don't know if its like this in india but it happens pretty much all over that the mother-in-law doesn't like the new woman that has taken her place in her son's life. I say don't think about it, even though I know it may hurt to do so, but she won't change her views and restricted herself in that way, don't let yourself be closed minded and the same way, continue to say hello to her even if she doesn't say it back. Because in the end she is the one that is in the wrong not you at all.

Answer 4

Yes I am sure they can!

Your marriage is one that has crossed very deep and old divides both politically and religously. They are sad, man-made and they can strain and break relationships.

Right now you are living in that divide.

All across the world deep and abiding divisions are created, kept and spread by those with an interest in such things.

In India caste is a source of division and control. In other places it can be color or religion or economic circumstances.

I hope you and you husband can keep a deep and good relatonship between you. In time your mother-in-law may soften and accept the marriage.

Your mother-in-law is the problem.

Peter

Answer 5

You are married to the guy from Ireland not his mama. As long as your husband loves you and doesn't give you a hard time about religion (after all you are both Christians) then everything should be OK. Keep religion out of your marriage as much as possible. It is a senseless discussion because no one can win.

Answer 6

i don't think religion or color have anything to do with love! Love is a feeling between two people not between two races or two religions... His mother is the extremely traditional type and surely would have wanted her son to marry a protestant woman from Northern Ireland, but it's not for her to decide, and if you have had a happy married life together for so long then it shouldn't bother you anymore, seeing that you are married to her son not to her...

Answer 7

U have passed 30 years with ur husband why r u thinking of her if u have any circumstances just try to convenience her and try to get her love for u so that ur husband will be happy about u and the love for u in in his heart will increase even he can forget his own mother so try to do like that. Even she does not want to speak to u .

Answer 8

dear ma'am
one good thing about relationships are that they dont have conditions or stipulations. if u believe in the person u love and if u believe in the love that u two share, no force in this world can shake ur relationship. this also happens in india. though people pretend to be broad minded and liberal. dont worry about your husbands mom. when things get tough, just smile and say, "this too shall pass."

Answer 9

Acceptance and non-acceptance has no geographical linking. It is the mentality of the individual that projects such unholy issues.
You too can have a reverse action in resolving the situation.

Answer 10

yea mixed marriages do work! my family come from different backgrounds and i have variety of relatives with different religions and races.. its interesting anyway as i get to experience different festivals everytime! colour doenst matter...it really depends who u'll end up with and if its those fanatic religious type then it would be difficult.. as for india i heard there's alot mixed marriages where each spouse are free to stick to their own religion while their children can choose who they want to follow,father or mother.

Answer 11

yes it does work, u r da xmple, u r married with dis guy more dan 30 year's now..u r lucky she is n't living with u here. if she dosen't wanna talk abt u den u ask yr husband abt her health...dn't do da same she doing 2 u...yes it happen's in india, bcoz Indian's r very religious....but thing's r changing now day's