my mother in law is rude by nature! she enjoy being rude to people , so i dont know how to deal with her, shall i answer her when she is rude to me or should i ignore it , but at the same time if i answer her ,i dont want to hurt my husband feelings . HELP!!
2006-08-16 21:56:18 · 15 answers · asked by 55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I simply ignore mine .. I swear she is insane but right now we live in another country so lucky in that area. I think your husband should be handling her so there is no hurt feelings and no stress on you.
Hugs Mel
2006-08-16 22:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One can only ignore MIL for a while. Sooner or later you gonna lose it. Your husband should stand by you. I have a friend whose inlaws including a sister in law that wants to have a family get together at least once a month. She always ended up doing all the cooking and baking and then too they were ungrateful. You should have done it like this. Or next time try adding this spice etc. They were just downright rude and arrogant. The MIL would buy clothes for the children and then plead poverty to her son. When he asks what did you do with the money (he gives her an x amount monthly) she says I bought clothes for your children. Her husband would always say Never mInd it is my family. For the sake of peace do it. Fianlly she sat down and spoke to her hubby about it. She asked him to be her for a moment and see how he would feel. Thank God he saw the light - how manipulative his sister and mom were. Now when they go to this gathering they rock up after Lunch. They will stop at a restuarant and have their little private lunch and then visit the MIL. They are much happier now. Mother in Law had to accept it cos the son stood up for his wife and told them they always complained about the wife's cooking and baking. Talk to your husband. She is not rude only to you but to everyone. If this is her nature then she can stay in her home. If she is in yours she has to respect you and your rules. How about children. Do you have any? What will they think of Gramma. Bring this to hubby's attention.
2006-08-17 05:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by zaazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with, I personally think your husband should be on your side regardless. He should know that his mother is rude by now and if she hurts your feelings, he should be able to sympathize.
And secondly, ignoring her sounds fun because it would probably get on her nerves, but it isn't very nice. I am a big fan of kill 'em with kindness. For someone like that it's the most annoying thing you can do. If that wears out or doesn't work, go back to ignoring her. Just pretend you didn't know she was talking to you or that you didn't hear/understand.
2006-08-17 05:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by snshnbtrflis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever fight with your mother in law of all people! Your husband will get mad, Im sure. Be always polite and never rude no matter how much you want to kick her in the face and you want to forget that shes the mother of your husband. Let ur husband get mad at her for not treating you right. Make him see for himself that she is rude to you, so that he'll be the one to show anger directly to his mother for treating you not right. And when he got mad, you will pacify him and tell him and that it is wrong for him to feel anger toward hes own mother. That way in your husband and m-i-l eyes, youll be a saint!
2006-08-17 05:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by debbie girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I have for 25 years. I have learned to let her rudeness roll off my back. She is still my husband's mother and I try to respect that. If things get really bad, have your husband talk to her. She will be less defensive if it comes from him.
2006-08-17 05:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by starrynight1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain your problem to your husband in a well planned for conversation when she will not be around.. then, turn your husband into your own accomplice, and you both verbally assault your m-i-l first, next time she comes walking into your house, although you may not avoid the resulting argument, she will be sufficiently appaled by the whole thing
2006-08-17 05:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is this way in front of your husband it is his duty to correct the way she is to you and if he is not man enough to do so then you must be the one to politely say to her that she is speaking to you inappropriately and that you will not tolerate that from her or anyone else. perhaps even your husband is intimidated by her i dont know but regardless she should not speak to you nor should anyone else for that matter. good luck
2006-08-17 05:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by makailaplay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for her to be rude..Ask your husband what he thinks...I would ignore her myself is she were rude to me...I have no tolerance for rude people....There is no reason for anyone to be rude ever
2006-08-17 05:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take everything she says to you and whether it is negative or not and aggree with her through reflection of your own words... first off it will really piss her off...then it will show and make it obvious to others how rude she is... and if you only throw possitives at her..especially about what SHE said it will be hard for her to be rude
2006-08-17 05:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by drew t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I had a mother law like this once, and I couldn't stand her, so I told her and in front of her son!
Be bold and she will respect you my dear.
2006-08-17 05:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by cheeky_beth_62 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋