Life needs a bit more spice as they say, been wondering recently about finding someone just to see regular for for sex, no strings attached, my marriage ok but become boring in that dept.
anyone doing this sort of thing , and any advice.
2006-08-16 21:48:38 · 14 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like its a NO NO
looks like a shopping trip to Ann summers
, thing is ill have to drag her in.
i aint some fat ugly git, im quite fit and work out maybe with having young kids she aint interested.
2006-08-16 22:07:44 · update #1
yea I think you need to go to counseling .. become honest with your wife. In addition if that area has become boring .. maybe you should check into finding ways to spice it up. There are so many amazing things out there that makes it even more adventurous. If you don't know how to do that, get some books in that area, maybe some dvds and especially some toys that you both can use. PS - your wife can easily read Cosmo monthly for new moves as well. Make it a point to connect with her, make it fun and keep her guessing. But cheating could end your relationship and if you do that, maybe you don't love her as much as you claim.
Hugs Mel
2006-08-16 21:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not doing it now but once was. It's not a good idea really, it doesn't really help and the reason I'm not doing it now is that it was one of the things that lead to the end of my marriage. There are many things you can try to spice up your existing relationship before even considering going with someone else, and just think 'how would you feel if you found out that your wife was doing it?'
2006-08-17 04:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Big Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And to answer your second question, your marriage is not okay. If you are SO unsatisfied in your marriage then maybe its not for you. Lies, deception and betrayal are not okay and never will be no matter how casually you try and put it. You sound like a really selfish person. If your life is in need of 'spice' then you shouldn't have made someone promises and fed then false hope only to try crushing their dreams with your simpleminded, self servitude. Grow up. Know your own mind and needs before you waste other ppl's time, emotions and life with your childish, all-about-me behaviour.
2006-08-17 05:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is seeing a married man, and i toatlly disagree with it. nothing can never be no strings attached, as now my friend who said the same now has feelings for the married man. It is dangerous grounds to stand on. If i was you i would concerntrate more on your own marriage and tell your wife how you are feeling. She may feel the same, and what if she was and she started seeing someone 'just for fun' it would hurt wouldnt it. dont put yourself or your wife through the trauma. you could also find a bunny boiler who at first wants the just fun but then gets a bit much and tells your wife. STAY AWAY from trouble.
2006-08-17 04:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dangerous.
Would say that you need to talk to your partner first about the whole thing to see if it can be restarted .. if you need to go elsewhere (or CAN) then I would suggest you have far deeper problems in your relationship.
You need to consider
1. What happens if your wife finds out
2. What happens if you end up wanting more from the new person
3. What happens if they end up wanting more from you.
4. What happens if you take a disease home (nasty I know but could and does happen).
There are a lot of issues to consider after the initial rush of 'why not' .. good luck in making your choice.
2006-08-17 04:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your wife you will forget this idea. Its a sure way to destroy your marriage plus the life of your lover for your own selfishness. Talk to your wife and share your feelings, remember the first time you met her and what it was like then do your best to recreate that. As we grow older we think we need a little extra spice not so. Build what you have dont destroy it!
2006-08-17 05:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Zip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself if your partner going to do the same thing you are thinking about, how you feel ? sort out the sex problem with your married partner not from someone else! Its may be partly due to your own mistake, both of you need to talk, heart to heart. good luck!
2006-08-17 05:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by ng 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not alone, having something personal and intimate and being at ease with it. just like a handshake exchange.
whatever it is, it must be mutual and at a mature level.
just dont bring harm to anyone during the relationship.
2006-08-17 05:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sort out the spice rack in the marriage chum, dont go shopping in other peoples kitchens
2006-08-17 04:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by rumbz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats sick!!!!! if you marry stick with that person you dont need anyone else... if you dont love the one you married then get a divorce and move on but dont cheat on them... thats lower than low and wrong in so many levels
2006-08-17 04:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋