The fact remains it is a cop out for anyone to get a divorce from their lifetime ordained spouse who God picked out for that person to have for their whole lifetime. It is NOT a very brave thing to do at all . But people will say it is a very brave thing to do ..... well than call killing oneself a very brave thing to do too ............ but both of them are so wrong to do !!!!
2006-08-16 21:42:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask yourself this question: Would you stay with your spouse if he/she abused you mentally, physically, emotionally day in/ day out for the rest of your pathetic married life? Putting your dignity and the moral
aspects of marriage aside for a moment, would you be willing to stay with that very same person till you get to a point where your very life is threatened?
Speaking only for myself, I would do everything possible to work on my marriage BUT...everyone has their limits. There are just some things you DON'T tolerate, especially if the reasons are the above I mentioned. And since you and I agree that "killing oneself" is wrong, then you can agree with me that getting out of such a marriage is NOT cowardly. It is called having COMMON SENSE!
You just contradicted your own statement.
2006-08-16 22:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill yourself. Divorce is a much better solution. It's surer, less painful (as a failed attempt first time suicides usually are) and not even that costly when you consider the cost you're paying now. I don't really know your circumstances, but for you to seem so overwrought they must be bad. Get out of it. God does not ordain for us to live as the brunt of criminal behavior. The best you can hope for is that God will change the heart of the one who has hurt you. In the time being, get that divorce and save yourself. I believe God would not want you to do otherwise.
Even I have been there, actually, although what I suffered was mental abuse. A man can be abused by a woman, in fact, even physically. My minister advised divorce, I prayed about it and sought the wisdom of the Bible, as well as a good Christian book on healing a marriage, but in the end, it was my wife who pushed through the divorce. I was quite relieved when it came final.
2006-08-17 05:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU had ever lived with an abusive, over-bearing spouse who threatened your life, battered and threatened your children...then you may divorce too. Never judge unless you have walked in that persons shoes
2006-08-17 04:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of these marriages, GOD has not put the people together and that is why they are failing. Would you rather have the two people stay together and one of them wind up dead because they start physically abusing each other because they are so miserable together?
2006-08-17 06:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a vowel! God didn't pick anything one human decided to marry another human and humans make mistakes and change and screw things up everyday.
2006-08-17 06:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋