My little brother (not so little anymore) has been dating this girl for a little less than a year they graduated and moved in together... he went off to boot camp for the military leaving her to pay the bills but his checks were being deposited into their joint checking account... i just found out that he wants to marry her when he gets out of boot camp and also that he fell in love. I also found out from her that no more than a week that he has been gone she has slept with 3 different guys and says that he wasnt her fault... ie she was high and didnt know what was going on!!! Right!!! anyway i know he is going to be broken and i dont want him to go thru that pain especially since he was in love. what can i do to help him.... She sent him the letter today so he will have it by next monday and he will probably want to quit the military and his chance to be somthing... how can i help him?
2006-08-16 21:40:52 · 10 answers · asked by Common Sense 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your information has been good but you see there is more, i just sent him a letter about being pissed off at my family becuz of things that happened to me (before i found out about this whore) and now i feel really bad because i told him and the rest of my family to f*** off
Now i know he is going to hurt i was mad when i sent the letter and i know he wont want my input
2006-08-16 21:54:42 · update #1
i also am not able to call him or email him... i dont think anyway... also i wish i could beat the girl but i live to far away
fact of the matter is i love my brother so much and i want to be there for him but i cant
2006-08-16 21:57:06 · update #2
Well Give him love and support when he calls on you about it.. He is going to need it.. Tell him that its not worth it to quit a great job like that.. for a woman who didn't deserve him in the first place.. That is wrong how she could do that.. But he will need your support because you are the sister.. Tell him its going to be ok.. and all of that good stuff... And he will find a woman who truly deserves him in time..
2006-08-16 22:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real sister with a motherly attitude!!!If you act in a haste, it may turn out that you are the villain in the whole story(in-law intolerance)!! She is having enough money from her won resources and also from your brother and she started spending these. She finds her consolation that she Was high but actually she would have done it intentionally.
I would advise you not to get directly involved in this affair. If possible, prepare him to face the worst by small small remarks (not specifically about her but in general).
I think your brother will be able to face this as he is disciplined. Of course, he mat be pained and it is at that time, he needs you. Try to bring her around by your interaction than preparing him for the shock!!!
2006-08-16 21:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't protect your "baby" brother from the inevitable : him knowing the truth.
Best thing for you to do is be there for him and help him realize that quitting the military for a no-good-slut is not really the best thing to do in this situation.
Tell him to grow up and do the most mature and responsible thing. Forget the girl and move on with his promising life.
2006-08-16 21:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him a call if you can and warn him. Tell him what you know as he does not want a huzzy for a wife. He fell IN love so he can fall OUT.
Then go slap her silly!
Be sure to write him a lot.............and casually mention her and what she is up to, but not too much...so he will see he is not missing a thing.........that witch! He has a future and she doesn't.
Tell him serve his time, take advantage of excellent schooling as GI and make her sorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry..............
2006-08-16 21:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by deed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a call, give him general counsellin on relationships and all th repacurssions make sure that u dont mention about his story rather relate to another story of someone u know. In that way u'll prepare his mind on th upcoming saga.
2006-08-16 21:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by smart_eluh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't take him & show him physical proof don't get in the middle of it.
Sometimes people need to go thru these things & learn from them.
Just be there for him & help him with his decisions after he finds out.
2006-08-17 02:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah, she's such a cow. i'm so sorry for your brother. get the booze ready. look, i dunno what to do in such a situation, but i reckon he will need someone to be angry at that isnt her coz he'll be gutted that he he fell for someone who just threw his heart away like that, and also, i you dont mind the record, get a few friends together and sort the chik out. thats so twisted, its coz of people like her that all the nice guys areturning bad. good luck, and if you a need a helping hand sorting her out, drop us a line!
2006-08-16 21:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by rumbz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what has been happening and the choice is his because if u don`t tell him if he finds out he will blame u and tell him this is not to hurt him bt u r trying to protect him frm the problems that he might face in future and might be worse by then
2006-08-16 21:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by crazygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
email him and tell him that the letter was from some peson who liked him and wanted him to break up with him for that selected person
2006-08-16 21:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by jpockets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do, its a precious lesson for him to learn...
2006-08-17 03:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋