Why Cant I Get Pregnant?

Question

i have been having sex with my boyfriend for now 2 year without contracepton and i cant seem to get pregnant ??? is there anything that can make the process quicker ?? is there something wrong with me i am 23 ???please help

Answer 1

First of all, there are some simple things you can do to improve your chances:

Make sure you have sex every two days from about day 8 to day 16 of your cycle. If you're serious enough to be willing to spend a fair amount of money, ask your pharmacist about "ovulation testing kits" which can pinpoint exactly the best day to try to conceive.

If you smoke, give up. You really should give up when pregnant anyway, so why not start now? And it does significantly reduce fertility. Get your partner to quit too, as it can cause problems with sperm quality.

If you drink a lot, cut down. A couple of glasses now and then are fine, but binge drinking can also cause problems. Again, the same goes for your partner.

If you're on a diet, come off it. Your body knows not to conceive in times of "starvation", so you'll be less likely to fall pregnant. However, if you are seriously overweight (BMI over 30), you should lose this weight first before trying seriously. If you are very slim (BMI under 20) it may help to put on a few pounds.

Get your partner to wear loose-fitting underwear. If he sits down a lot all day, get him to move around more and open his legs - overheating of the testes reduces sperm production and quality.

If you've tried all this for a few months without success, see your doctor. There are dozens of reasons for sub-fertility, and most of them can be treated.

And remember, it might not be your problem - 50% of subfertility is down to problems with the man rather than the woman.

In the meantime, it may help to talk to someone at Fertility Friends (see link below), a group of people who are going (or have gone) through the same thing.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel, i have been trying for nearly 3 years now. Are you ok physically?After 2 years of trying with no success then your doctor will be happy to organise a few tests to check there isnt a problem, it could be something really simple like a mild infection. I have what they call sub fertility which means physically im ok but there is something unexplained. I have been seeing a counsellor as i started becoming depressed and luckily for me she has a lot of experience with sub fertility couples. She told me that worrying about it releases cortisone and this has a devastating effect on the body, stopping you from conceiving. She recommends i take omega 3 fish oils as they have a calming effect and drink green tea. We are also doing a daily diary so we can see what other stress i have which may be causing problems. I also take kalms (blue), zinc and vitamin supplements and spend lots of time spoiling myself! You hear about it all the time dont you? women give up trying and become pregnant, young girls with no worries in there life getting pregnant so there must be truth in it. Do you know when you ovulate and to concentrate on having sex around that time? I am determined not to become obsessed! You can E mail me if you like, i have read just about everything going on fertility!!Good luck xx
P.s whats with the marriage police?! I thought this was 2006!!!

Answer 3

There are the obvious possible promblems (low sperm count etc) but doctors tend to have this nasty habit of labelling couple who have been try for over a year 'infertile' which isn't true, it just means that is the earliest stage they will do any major tests. I wouldn't panic too much until you've reached the 3 year stage. It just takes longer for some couples.
Try the old classics like sittin with your hips elevated for ha;f an hour after trying, always use the missionary position and make sure neither your husband or you is drinking (at least not heavily), smoking or overweight. Make your diet as healthy as possible and take folic acid supllements. These are all things you have to do before concieving, not just during pregnancy. Good luck

Answer 4

It depends on your circumstances.
What contraception were you using before? that could have an impact on how long your fertility levels return to normal.

Are you overweight, Stressed, eating properly? Are your periods regular?

Go and see your GP, 2 years is long enough, The doctor will advise you on what you need to do next.

Ignore all those comments about not being married! Lot's of marriages DONT work out, you can be in a successful relationship without being married!

Good luck!

Answer 5

You have been try a while. It toke me nearly two years to fall pregnant. Your Doctor can help give you advice on what to do and might be able to give you some fertility treatment for both you and your boyfriend. There are different treatments out there and your doctor will talk to you about them. When you and your boyfriend have sex enjoy it and try not to think about falling pregnant, I know its hard as I have been there too. Good luck and I hope it works out for you. Why not look on a website called babycentre, some good information.

Answer 6

You are only 23 and trying to get pregnant what is the rush? if you are thinking about nothing else and really trying to have a baby maybe you should just give up for say a few months and when you stop stressing about it, it will happen.

Answer 7

get checked out by the doc, both ov you...its possible ya may have some sort ov minor glitch that needs a bit ov help...even if it more serious and you need more complicated help, its better to know now while ya young than carry on into ya 30's because it gets more and more difficult to help as ya get older.....investigate it now at the very least the doc can put your mind at rest. Also stop thinking about conceiving then if nature wants to take it's course it will

Answer 8

Well, I'm 15, but I love biology, and there are multiple possibilities that may impede your ability to get pregnant. First of all, is your menstrual cycle occurring regularly? Or have you been taking any meds that may have this side effect? Hormones? The best thing to do would be to ask your OB-GYN. If you really want that kid, doc will help a whole lot.
Good Luck!

Answer 9

I know how you feel.My boyfriend and i have been trying for nearly 4 years..2 years ago i had a stillborn baby and ectopic pregnancy within 6months.We were trying for 2years before i got pregnant,and it was when i finally gave up i got caught.
I know its hard but try and not think about it.It may happen when you least expect it.
They say it can take up to 2years anyway.
If your total consumed by please go to your doctors,you may be surprised on what they can do for you.I'm going as soon as the kids go back to school....Remember your not alone...Good Luck x x

Answer 10

it took me four years to get pregnant, go and see your doctor as it does sound as if something is not right, your boyfriend should have a sperm test as well.I found that when i forgot about getting pregnant and started making other plans i got pregnant, so maybe you should start planning something and stop worrying for a little while it might happen??? i had pcos, that's why it took me so long, i found that trying to get pregnant made me completely obsessed, that it consumed my life, don't get that way, it so stressful, best of luck do go and see your doctor xxxxx