My 5yr old daughter has been asked to go away with her friend,I know her mum, her husband and her husbands son. But its tearing me apart. Its the first time my baby will be away for 4days with them, they are going to wales.My daughter has stayed out at her aunties house for the weekend and I don't have a problem with it, so why now. I know if I don't let her go she will be upset and will I always feel like I do. or do I let her go and fell Iike ****. Please help, any parents who have gone trhough this and how have they coped. I feel like taking anti- ds to cope with this, is this normal.
2006-08-16 20:58:52 · 12 answers · asked by lady_di_ar125 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've also got a five year old girl whos going camping to Wales next weekend, with her school friend and her family.
She's only ever been overnight to my parents home before so i'm obviously going to worry about her - but she's going to phone me every evening.
I'm sure we'll both miss each other very much, and appreciate each other more when she comes home.
Let her go, she'll have a great time - and you make the most of the four days you have to yourself.
2006-08-16 21:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by NJP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u mean, i have 2 young boys. i'm with them every second of every day basically and i cant imagine ever letting them go anywhere, right now nursery is my biggest worry when i have 2 leave my eldest 1 there next yr.
but if u know the family, trust them 2 make good desicions if any problems should arise and have a contact number 4 them so that u could maybe phone and talk 2 ur daughter regularly then think u just have 2 go with it. i know u'll be worrying but as long as u feel she'll be safe it should be fine.
2006-08-17 06:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the sounds you have got yourself in a right old state. If it helps though I to would feel just as you are feeling. I can remember feeling like that the first time my 4year old went to her first b-day party on her own... It was only next-door! I think if you trust the people and know them well then whats the harm, but maybe if your gonna get into an awful state then just be honest wiv them and tell them that you feel at the moment she is a little young to go away without you. As parents I am sure they will understand and respect your decision. Good luck with whatever you decide, I'm sure it will be the right decision as mummy always knows best! Mother of 3!
2006-08-17 04:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by Estelle L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
4 days is along time to be separated from one so young, you are the parent if you are feeling so torn then you should follow your instints and say no. even though you feel you know the parents well you should go with your feelings. i have had five children and never let them go away for that length of time unless i or their mum went too.
they may be having a great time but they'll be a time when your child really needs you,regardless how you might trust them.because you feel so torn is a sign ,better to have peace knowing your child is there with you than far away where you don't have peace. kids are vunerable and at that age i wouldn't let them go away at such a young age. remember you are the parent
2006-08-17 05:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by lloydpaul2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always going to be difficult but this first time will be the worst. You have said that you are happy with the people she is going with & it is only 4 days. My advice is bite the bullet, let her go & spend the time she is away pampering yourself for a change.
Meet old friends you haven't seen for a while, go out for long lunches, shop till you drop.
The break will do you good & it can only be good for your daughter to gain a little independence from Mum.
2006-08-17 04:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I went through this everytime someone asked if my kids could go stay with them, I hated it, I think we just have this idea that no one can look after them as well as we do. If you really feel that bad about it, then explain it to them. I had to because I literally felt sick sometimes at the thought. All I ended up saying was, 'to be honest I'll miss them so much and just won't settle while they're away, maybe when they're a little older'...
2006-08-17 04:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by Just Moi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go!
It is hard being away from your child for a while when its their 1st time away but when they are with people you know, at least they are safe!
You will miss her like mad!!! but this is simply the FIRST time and like most things, 1st time is always the hardest.
I had the same with my son :-)
otherwise.... when WILL you let her go for a few days? when she 10, 15???? longer you leave it, the more she'll resent it and the worse you will feel.
Let her go with them.
2006-08-17 04:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by Baz94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal feeling. Don't take anything to make you feel better. I've gone through that feeling I at first I don't like it but as they grow older, we need how to deal with this situation. Take it easy. You'll be fine.
2006-08-17 04:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal to feel that way, if you trust them them let her go and enjoy the peace and quiet , get a little time to yourself ive been through it myself, dont worry!!!
2006-08-21 12:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry.. no hugs here, you know the answer. if its safe, you are being a bad parent if you dont let her go, resentment starts at an early age, after 12 i never ever spoke, or even swore at my mother...
2006-08-17 04:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by yeah well 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋