My husband wants sex all the time and I don't.?

Question

He gropes me every chance he gets, or makes sexually charged comments. I hate it and want him to stop. The more he pressures me for sex the more I don't want to. I've talked to him til I'm blue in the face and he just doesn't get it

Answer 1

Have sex with him everyday, until he is exausted and then Criticise him when he doesnt want it anymore. Overdo the whole thing and then prove to him its not good for the relationship! Or do it really well so he is pleased and doesnt require it as much! Make it really interesting so he thinks your fantastic.

Answer 2

I'm male, and married, and I'm always in the mood myself. However, I think your husband needs to give you some space, and the constant groping really does need to stop. If he loves you for more then your body, he needs to respect your desires. I assume you enjoy sex with your husband, just not all the time. The next time your in the mood, assuming he isn't pressuring you, try to give him the best sex you ever have. Then, let him know it could be like that everytime, assuming he doesn't pressure you, and respects your wishes. If not, then he'll get your "less then best" if he even gets that. Most couples on average have sex about three times per week. He may have a much higher sex drive then you, but that doesn't excuse his behavior. I hope you guys can work out. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Men love sex because that's how God made them. Sometimes saying no to the groping and comments and to the sex - is causing so much built up frustration for him it has caused this behavior to increase?? His brain is getting clogged and he needs to release some of this negative energy...in a possitive way...Think about it...Or.....

Maybe you just don't love him. I didn't love my ex and I was like you and I almost always said no to sex, I just didn't know that was my problem at the time... I thought it was because he wasn't romantic enough. I think deep down I just didn't care about him or his needs.
But, if you really do love your husband and want him to be happy and healthy, give it up every time he wants it. Hopefully it's good enough sex that you will feel good after too. Try to think of something possitive when he approaches you - like if nothing else - just be glad it's you he wants and not some other girl. Even if you are not in the mood, go freshen up and get into it. Remember why you fell in love with him...The motorcycle... the spectacle mustache... =) ...You might be surprised how good this works...it might spark your love for him again...
Us women can have a hard time getting in the mood even if we really do love our man - so sometimes you got to step out in faith and go for it.
I'm lucky, my guy is great, but my brain is not in the gutter all day long like his is...* =) * So, gotta indulge him once in a while...
That's true love, when you do something for the one you love and you don't really feel like it...

Answer 4

Unfortunately the longer you resist, the more he is going to pester you. Ask him what he thinks is reasonable for how often, tell him what you think is reasonable. Every ones libido is different, and age makes a difference, especially if there is menopause involved. Compromise if you can, once and a while even initiate it. If you can't, seek counseling as soon as possible, before human weakness on his part will result in unfaithfulness.
Remember women tend to feel love through feelings, guys have to have physical contact to feel loved. If he doesn't feel loved eventually it will stop because he won't be there anymore.

Answer 5

Dear jaymes!! Is there a little overages added to the question? From your profile, I surmise that you have three babies, which makes amply clear as to your family life. Is it that your vigour, vitality and urge for sex has weaned after these births and you are more of a mother than a wife?? If your husband is in his prime, he collects a lot of sex signals while he moves around and faithfully expresses them with you when he comes home!!If you ignore them or express dissent continously,problems can arise!! Divide your attitude as that of aife and as that of amother and share it equally with all.True, the more he urges, the more irritated you will become, but do not give him a cold shoulder always. A lady has to act sometimes and has to fake urges, you practise them and slowly bring him to control his urges also.Make him understand the responsibility of parent also..

Answer 6

Well this situation can be create serious problems. You need to identify the reason as of why you dont want sex. Is it relationship, medical, or maybe psychological problems? If after seeing a doctor your fine and you just have a low sex drive, you guys have to engage in a serious talk to set some rules and decide so both are content, otherwise this could be the end of your relationship.

Answer 7

Well maybe you should sit him down and tell him that you will have sex with him more if he lays off a little. I mean marriage is 100% both ways, and you two need to compromise. Yes, I heard that you have talked to him til you are blue to the face.

Hm, did you try that on him? He may love it too much, but it may make him think also? I mean gropping him all the time and so forth?

Answer 8

you should consider yourself lucky that he is still attracted to you. Most married people have sex 3-5 times a week and you get the chance 3-5 times a day.

For him sex is something important, you cant take that away from him. If you do, dont be suprised when he cheats on you.

Answer 9

I'm sorry but, you hate your man....gropes... and wanting to give it to you? all I can say is that #1 he don't turn you on...#2 you don't want him.... because ...I think it is great ... getting it.. like that... I love giving it to my...husband ... and he loves... giving it to me..14 years....and I love .... every.. touch... and every.... grope...but, my husband hit it right every time...okay almost everytime...lol ..maybe you should get some counseling? or another husband,,, because obviously he wants you and you don't want him.... but you need to be honest with your husband...if it is bothering you that bad...he is your husband....he is suppose to desire... and you are suppose to desire him....

Answer 10

It sounds like he may be a sex addict. Have you tried going on the S-Anon and SA web sites to get some information and see if this applies to you and him??

Answer 11

Are you getting a climax with sex each time? Start making sex enjoyable for you and you will find that you want it more.