i feel that using the word 'selfless' with love isn't justice. Love can never be selfless, even mother expects his son to keep her when she'll be old...so how can the love be selfless
2006-08-16 20:25:24 · 7 answers · asked by abdullahmpk 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Love is not about being selfless. It is about being gracious, compromising, and understanding.
2006-08-16 20:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by alexandria h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't. I have expressly forbidden my husband to even ask our kids to look after us jokingly when we are old.
I do what I do for my family because "I want to do it for them".
If when my kids grow up and they take care of us because they want to fine else we will manage like countless others are .
When you give without expecting anything in return it is selflessly given.
To answer you question:Parents have expectations from their children. All parents want the best and they do push their children to try and achieve it but if they dont it does not mean that they will love their kids any less than they do now.So yes, most parents do love selflessly.
2006-08-17 03:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "expect" something back...that isnt love. Love gives all freely..asking for nothing in return...has no alterior motives. Love is NOT conditional.
In NO way do I expect my son to "keep" me when I am old. On the contrary, I hope and pray to NOT be a burden to him..His life is his own..to live, to love, to laugh....
2006-08-17 03:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by turbosbabe96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i follow what you are saying....
when people do things "out of love", sometimes they're trying to prove what a good person they are, so even if one does a good deed for someone,even with absolutely no strings attached, he/she does it to 1) feel good about being so generous (which is not a bad thing) or to 2)gain a sort of acceptance from another person (which, as long as you're not putting yourself in a potentially abusive situation is not bad either).
conclusion-doing things out of love may be just a means to an end to a sort of self gratification.
but that does not mean we shouldn't love one another or ignore our mothers when they are old.
2006-08-17 03:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by scantron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Love can NEVER be selfless..." I beg to disagree! I rather suspect that your statement actually applies to you. Poor you. In other words, you only give love when you expect something in return, especially from your very own kids? tsk! tsk! tsk!
2006-08-17 03:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are rite, love is not selfless, u are giving and not taking, it is only selfless wen one uses it for the benefit for themselves
2006-08-17 03:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by anastaysia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big questions attract 'cloudy' answers
2006-08-17 03:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋