I get married again soon,,, to a virgin, I have never been with a virgin, she says that first time it will hurt - her relatives and friends told her so.
I'm not into inflicting pain, I think if I am kind and considerate and take my time, I can get 'in' without hurting her,
come on girls, am I reasonable in expecting that? or is it gonna be painful anyway
2006-08-16 20:24:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lube is not a problem, I lube quite a lot on my own, aside from what my new wife has to offer, the warming gel is nice though
2006-08-16 20:35:29 · update #1
Hey, I have been married before, I know how to please, everyone is good at something and that is my one claim to fame as I pay attention to what a lady wants.
I was just wondering if it is possible to get in first time without hurting her
2006-08-16 20:50:20 · update #2
If it's going to hurt her, you can't get around it. The pain is caused by the hymen tearing when you enter her. It's different in different women. A lot of girls tear their hymen with normal activities... gymnastics, horseback riding, and other stuff like that. Some girls don't even have a hymen. If your fiancee has her hymen, it still may or may not hurt when you tear it, but if it's going to hurt, it's going to. However, if you give her pleasure before, during and after the initial penetration, it shouldn't interrupt your lovemaking.
2006-08-16 20:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time will always hurt, because it's something new. In addition to that im sure she'll be very nervous, and quite tense. Just try to make her relaxed as possible and be very gentle.I would recommend using a strong lubricant such as Astroglide(excellent product), can help make things a lot easier. You could also perform oral sex on her to make her a little less tense. Let your wife know you love her and you don't want to hurt her,so make sure she communicates with you, don't worry yourself. If you follow the above advice, she will be eased and comfortable. Have her tell you what is painful for her and what she enjoys (during the sexual experience). As long as you communicate well,everything should be fine and romantic. Much luck to you both.
P.S.DONT FORGET THE ASTROGLIDE (I promise she will thank you for it, while your at the drugstore pick up some KY massage oil and give her a massage, that should help her loosen up also)!
2006-08-16 20:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cutelilthing831 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might help her to see a doctor first, who can check to see if she needs to be concerned. A doctor can even make a little cut if it seems necessary, or to ease her fears. But it's not always necessary; different women naturally have different sized openings as virgins - from almost closed to totally open. This is not generally known, but true. You both should get advice from a doctor, though. It's kindest.
2006-08-16 21:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by galaxiquestar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it slowly. Try not to inflict pain or she might scream! Use lubricant for easier access. Got it?
2006-08-16 20:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Arianne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be slightly painful, if her hymen is not yet broken. This is unlikely becuse it could break doing something like riding a bike, or horse. dont stress. Be gentle, sensitive and understanding. remember she is going to be as nervous as hell, so be sensitive to her feelings.
2006-08-16 20:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tease her, touch every part of her body sexily 2 get her being wet enough down b4 getting in, i hope it works.
2006-08-16 21:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by sirawa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm..every girl's body is different. it didn't hurt for me when i had sex the first time, nor did i bleed. i know from experience though, that more lubrication means easier insertion. i hope this helps.
2006-08-16 20:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by ducky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not inflicting pain, it's true that it will hurt her for just awile, but it would dissapear. just do it gently and ask her....when your doing it...be gentle
2006-08-16 20:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by flower_roxy101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋