PLease see pt 1&2 to understand.Today my husband told me that his parents are moving to a different part of the city.So he told me he probably wasn't going to go back to school once he moves back home(the state where I am now for)(we're going back to college).Anyway I told him I would look for apts. in another city where he had talked about going back to school. Now he drops,i'll work with my dad. N he said "honey you need to stay at the school you are at i don't want to go away to school any more"so i said okay ill look for apts. in the city where i live now and go to school.Thats when he says he dosen't want to live in the city.So i said where do u want to live?and he said the place where his parents are moving,so he can live with them(big suprise). I told him he was selfish,then he said"im not,im willing to give u up so u can get a better education"It dosen't make sense to me.I followed him out of state for his job, and now he's not even comitted enough to live with his WIFE. HELP!!
2006-08-16 20:22:17 · 7 answers · asked by Cutelilthing831 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've asked if he wanted a seperation or a divorce, if he wants to be baby'ed by his mommy. He says No, so i ask why the hell would you want to live with your parents when your 26 and married.THen he says, and I quote " my mother will take care of me and they don't believe that you can ( he's mildy- physically handicapped)". I am capable of taking care of him. If he wants a divorce,then do it stop stringing me along, i love him but i can't deal with all this up in the air BS.
2006-08-16 20:51:42 · update #1
OUCH--sounds like hes to young for marriage!
2006-08-16 20:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by katie k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by simmers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a twisted reason for you to "get an education". There's definitely something bigger going on here. Why does he all of a sudden, feel compelled to return to the nest? To tell you the truth, I think that's just an excuse to get you out of his life...for good. He's just trying to break it gently...although his "so called" excuse is just as lame as the day is long. My suggestion: At this point, you have to start looking out for yourself. You're right, he's very selfish and since you've done telling him about this, I don't know what other options you have other than to let him go. I'm very sorry for your situation. I wish you luck.
2006-08-16 20:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like his parents are enabling him and encouraging him to go live with them. He should be living with you. If you want to be wtih your husband, tell him that you two can live together in your own place or get a divorce and he can live with his parents. He is using your going to school as an excuse for you to live apart. You can go to school anywhere and he knows that.
2006-08-17 00:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you have big problems like this
until he is properly clear of the drugs he will not be himself
try to hang in there and be squeeky clean so his parents do not have any ammo
sounds like they want to split you up, don't let them in, and you can do your own putting off if you want to. the best approach is to always be positive, then he will see nice side of you
2006-08-16 21:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to go live with his mommy and Daddy I say don't let the door hit you on the way out....He's not worth it ,,,there are lots of guys out there..He's a wimp and wants to go home and live then I say Good Riddance
2006-08-16 20:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like my husband except we have been married 38 years.
2006-08-17 00:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋