Gurlz and Guyz Help !!!!!!!?

Question

me and my boy friend had sex and i am pregnant cuz i am REALLY LATE and i forgot my birth control that day and then the condom broke cuz we were to rough any way i took a test and it came out positive, and i dont know what to do we are both 16 and our parents dont like us dating so how do i tell them and how do i tell my boy friend Alex omg i am so cunfussed on what to do Please help me also if you have any advice for me i would like to hear it

sry for any errors i am so cunfussed on what to do and Abortion is not an option cuz it is MURDER

I just dont know how to tell my boy friend

Any Advice For Me

Yes i have been to the doctor and he confirmed it that i am pregnant

Answer 1

do you have any adults that you can talk to? they should be able to help you talk to your parents. And just tell your boyfriend- he had to know it was a possibility with the broken condom....

Answer 2

Wow! I am sure you are overwhelmed. Being 16 and pregnant is really scary. Trying to keep it a secret will only make things worse. If you cannot tell your boyfriend that you are pregnant then that means you really should not have been having sex with him. He must know. I would however, speak to my parents first. Or another trusted adult who will go with you to speak to your parents. I could not imagine telling my parents that I was pregnant at 16. It does not sound like you are ready to be a parent. What are you views on abortion? If you are comfortable with that idea then get one. But do know that it will not come with some side effects like depression. It also could harm your body where you may not be able to conceive when you are all grown up and ready to begin a family. I would really reccomend that you find a home to go to that will give you the unconditional love that you need at this time. This can be a very hard time for your family. They may be angry and hurt. At one of these homes you will have all of your needs provided for. If you do not have medical insurance they will get some for you free of charge. you will get your education and have all the counseling that you need. There will be no pressure on you to choose adoption or parenting. It will be your choice based on the eduation that you receive while you are there. I know that there are places like this in the USA some of them charge and some don't. I do know of one that does not and gives you all the things I have mentioned and then some. It is called LIBERTY GOD PARENT HOME. It is located in Lynchburg Va. The only thing they do not provide is a little spending money for trips you take several times week, but they only ask that you have like $40.00 a month. They also do not pay for your trip out there. I am telling you this is a wonderful place. Very nice home, pretty much brand new. Girls of all ages come there. Some choose to parent some choose adoption. There is no pressure. If you choose adoption then you can have an open adoption if you wish, where the child will grow up knowing you. It is all your choice. Raising a child is a very hard task, and when a girl your age becomes a mother, it is usually a disaster unless your parents decided to take on the responsibility of the child. That is not fair to you or the child. A child deserves a mother and a father. Did I mention that you get to interview couples and make the decision on who you want to raise your baby? I am sorry that you are in this position, no matter what you decided it will not be easy. But anyway, you can look online for this place and give them a call if you like. IF you do you can tell them that Ciara's mother in Lynchburg sent you. Also if you want someone to talk to that undestands you can email me by clicking on the avatar link. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 3

First of all - NO ONE should tell you what is right or wrong to do. Deciding what to do about a pregnancy is a personal decision that only you can make, because only you are fully aware of your situation and the results of what you decide.
Regardless of what decision you make, be it adoption, abortion or becoming a parent at 16 - you and you alone will have to deal with the results of your decision.
Don't let someone else pressure you or guilt trip you into making the wrong decision - not your boyfriend, parents, friends, or people online.
Alot of states have crisis pregnancy centers with free counseling to help you make a decision - just beware of someone trying to force their beliefs and morals on you.
I would suggest making an informed decision - finding out all the information you can. Look online. Research everything you can about pregnancy, child birth, child rearing. Look into abortions - how are they done, what is it like, how much, etc. and get info on adoption - what is the process, do you have to pay for your own prenatal care, maintaining contact or not, etc.
What you are facing is not an easy decision for any woman to make, whether you are 30 or 16.
I know people who have done one or the other or both of the options available - had children very young and kept them, given children up for adoption, or have had abortions. They each say they are happy with their decisions because they made it for the right reason and they did what was best for them at the time.
Your thoughts and feelings are what you have to go by. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

First, you need someone you can talk to that you really trust. If its not your parents, then maybe a best friend or their parent or a relative. By letting someone know, you will feel better talking openly about it instead of keeping it all inside. Make sure you get a professional pregnancy test like from your doctor or health dept. and not just an over the counter test. They are pretty accurate but this way they can offer you counseling and/or suggestions. Once it has been decided that you "definitely" are pregnant for sure, talk to someone, get professional advice and eventually you will have to tell your parents. Hopefully they will be supportive and be there for you and their grandchild. I'm proud of you for not considering abortion. I too, believe that it is murder. Good luck! And Congratulations!

Answer 5

Yes abortion is murder but you have to put your life into perspective. You didn't necessarily make a mistake by getting pregnant, but where exactly do you plan on going with your situation the way it is?? I mean your 16 and I'm sure you will need a great deal of help from your family...that is not the way you want your kids to remember you. All I know is...you need to sit down and think about where you are going to be in 5 years then 10 years from now...if you can't come up with a good place...you need to make a very mature responsible decision about the situation you and your boyfriend have created...please think long and hard about your future...your worth more than a struggle!

Answer 6

ok well your 16 your going to have to make some big decisions in life now.ask ur self questions like ...does ur man want a kid? is he going to help?? your parents will be mad at first so where mine but i ended up alone 23 weeks pregnant now single ...being a mum is scary well im scard an by the sounds of things so are you.i won't say you bad 4 having sex at 16 because i'd say just about every 16 year old does it im 17 an in a similar position my parents handled it an are helping me out alot more now!!a baby could either send u crazy or make every day of your life worth while ask your self which would it do to u//////good luck with the baby an the decision you choose to make just remember your bf helped make the baby he should stand by u an help you raise it

Answer 7

RELAX! I would talk to someone you trust first, someone older. If you honestly feel as if you can't take care of a baby or don't want a baby then it up for adoption. I am a little older then you and I am pregnant as well because my birth control failed. Telling my boyfriend wasn't hard we have been together for a while, but he was happy about it and I was scared I didn't know when to do, but I got through it. When I told my mother she wasn't to happy and neither was my father, but they are thrilled now. Same as his parents they are very excited. I am not 36 weeks pregnant and having a baby girl. There is help out there. Options counseling helped me allot too. I was so scared and freaked out when I found out. If you have any more questions I will be more than happy to help.

Answer 8

I would just bring up that day that you guys had sex and the condom broke...and just be like well i didnt take my birth control that day and i took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. But telling your parents...that is way more difficult. My best friend got pregnant and she was 16 also she told her mom that she was pregnant by sayin that she didnt get her period and her mom knew exactly what she was tellin her but what you need to do is start thinking about what youre goin to do for your baby like gettin a job and just taking care of your baby.

Answer 9

Well if you are only 16 and on birth control your parents have to know that you are having sex! I don't know how you should tell them, but I do know that it is better for them to hear it from you and not anyone else! Just come out and tell the guy he has to deal with it because it is not going away... and please hang in there don't adopt or abort cause it will make an inpact on your life that you will not be able to over come! Just live lifed as it come and be the best person that your able to be!

Answer 10

ok well first you need to be more careful you are so young and so is your bf so be more careful in the future.

Second you need to tell your parents cause they will find out sooner or later and the same with your bf it isn't at all an easy thing to talk to him about but you have to be honest.

My advice would be to talk to your bf and let him know what is going on and then go see your parents together you parents will support and help you through it

My advice would be to keep the baby but give it up for adoption to parents that cant concieve and really want to have a baby.

You are far to young to be having the responsibility's of a child but abortion is not the answer

But the most important thing is to be honest and tell your family and get the support that you need.

And be carefull next time you have sex and ALWAYS take your birth control

Also have u been to the docter about your test results?

Hope my advice helps

Answer 11

just sit ur bf down and say honey.......im prego. ilove you and then smile as for how to tell ur rents there are several ways the way most ppl think about doing it ....get by the door and when your parents are far but in hearing distance screem mom dad im prego an run or the way i would do if i were prego coplain of stomach pains then when the doc comes in have him tell them that you are preganet or you can by really big clothes and hide it when you start showing like my mom did but frist you and your bf should dicuss that before you dicide your self what you should do and then when he is also sure of what he wants an you ARE TO THEN TELL MOM AN DAD and my opinon is you should keep it an take care of it because you an him caused it if need any thing email me anytime the eamail address is on my profile