In my first few lesbian relationships I was much more the receiver/submissive partner. Then after those I seem to switch roles to where I was more the giver/dominant one.....and I seem much more comfortable with that side of my sexuality. I'm curious to know if this is considered normal and how often it happens in the lesbian and gay community.
2006-08-16 19:53:16 · 8 answers · asked by jax1962 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dang, dwali, I never even thought about that, but I'll bet you're right. Good insight. Thanks.
2006-08-16 20:05:08 · update #1
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2006-08-17 06:40:19 · update #2
I would assume that with Gays the opposite is true. "Receiving" can be a painfull experience if you do not know what you are doing, and I would assume that most gays either do not poerform penetrative sex the first time, or the more experience partner 'receives'.
2006-08-16 19:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first time with my first gf this past sunday, and we both switched between giving and receiving. I think it comes down to the person. (No pun intended.) Some people aren't sure of what they're doing and take the "easier" role towards the begining until they're confident. Then they take the more dominant role. Some people are dominant from the begining. Some people are very submissive in the bedroom, or wherever. Then there are also us switches out there.
2006-08-17 03:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my first lesbian experience, I was with a girl who'd never been with another girl. So we were both pretty dominant. When one of us started to wonder what to do next, the other would take over. We switched back in forth. It was the same in every lesbian relationship I've had since. I'm bi, though, and tend to be submissive with a man. I think it's pretty common to switch from being submissive to dominant then submissive depending on your partner. We tend to adapt to others needs.
2006-08-17 19:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mama23Girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first time, I "gave" my Bf at the time....it was a little awkward but he didn't complain, my first time with the same Bf where I "received", again was kind of awkward and a little painful but he was very gentle & understanding. I'm strictly the "receiver" in one way and love to be the giver in another.
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2006-08-17 04:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Desiree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to received as much as i like to give. My boyfriend and I switch it up how we make love. If we do an all day long thing then we both get it numerous times before finally "letting go".
2006-08-16 20:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by mat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the active during the first few times.
2006-08-16 20:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Imanobody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strangely, I was the giver the first time. I was too scared to wait and let her do it.
2006-08-16 21:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by theobromo77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Submissive myself, always have been
2006-08-17 04:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by kristycordeaux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋