How to have fun and be happy?

Question

I used to do alot of partying, now 2 years after stoping i feel like i just dont get it. I see all these happy people, and i dont understand how they are happy. I have 2 children and dont know how to enjoy that either. I stay fully involved in there lives, 50% custody. but i dont understand how people find happyness in a life like mine. School kids, school kids... etc
any ideas or did i just kill my brain with ecstacy and such?
also i was maried at 18 and divorced at 24... i also dont get the dating scene since i realy only dated my exwife in highschool.
any help is apricated. I know many of you will just have rude things to say so let me have it....

Answer 1

Well you got kids sometimes its good to feel sad or depress it lets you think what i am doing wrong thing, Your kids are part of your life even though you dont have any fun and happy you can still be happy and fun because seeing your kids grow up in many ways seeing them happy is good this childhood might be hard in time but its good to see that, fun well you can play with them if they are older do some baseball or sports, if they are younger play with them it brings a smile to them and you, Though you dated your exwife for along time after divorce you can try walking, bird spotting, cooking is a way to give off depression, right some words in a note book you know write the things you are sad or depressed about, or go to the park a way to see the stars pass by the moon glinting from afar

well thats all i know
but i believe i didnt give you anything bad

Answer 2

It's true you do need to take time out for you. Instead of watching TV when you don't have the kids go to the gym. Hang out at coffee shops. I know they sound dorky but the idea is to be around people. The more you are around people who are relaxed and happy the more you'll learn to become relaxed and happy. I know it sounds silly but it really does work. You meet interesting people.

Although I'm not a church goer many people seek comfort from their religion. It's just a thought.

It just doesn't sound like your ready to move on and find someone new yet but there are on-line dating services like eHarmony.

I love my dad but my dad's a workaholic and that's no fun for a kid. The things I remember from when I was a kid that my dad seemed to enjoy spending time with us kids was when he shared something he enjoys. My dad's a major history buff. Now granted most would find seeing historical sites all over the US as being boring but it was fun cause my dad loved it. So weather it's seeing a Pixar film or going to the park you will have fun with your kids when you share your interests and things you enjoy with them.

Answer 3

Wow, I can feel and relate to your pain. You probably don't need anymore well-intentioned advice from others nor want to be subjected to the critical opinions of others. Perhaps what you need are more choices, options, and opportunity in life. Only you can make the choice to unleash the power within...
You can choose to get professional help or choose to self medicate...
You can choose to dig deep to discover the source of your pain or you can choose to play hide and seek with it
I know that is easier said than done. Can you search inside to answer these questions? What do you see as your strongest assets? What do you fear? What activity are you doing when you feel the most energized? What people places and things really drag you down? What are your priorities dreams and ambitions? Are you open to renewed passion for life? Not being able to enjoy your children is so very sad and I hope you'll be able to choose a path towards joy . If you only had 24 hours to live what would you do? Can you choose to try living every day like that? I hope to see a renewed and joyous wonderful you...
I hope you can live... love... and laugh again
Finding self truth that only you can
and live for each moment instead of back when
Bless your eyes with visions sweet taste
To give you hours of heaven take from you Hells waste.
Good luck my friend...

Answer 4

I have the same problem, its because after that life of parting and playing, the rest is just so boring, I havent really found a way to make life any better or more enjoyable but I'm gonna keep on looking and trying, cuz that drug life which seemed fun, isn't the way to live....it was dangerous and just false friendships and users, lyers and cheats....so stay sober and keep trying, someone special will come along and make life worth living again soon....

Answer 5

Well, you said so yourself...school, kids, school kids. Break out of that same routine and do something different. Get a new hobby, new activities or skills. Do something for yourself for a change. The possibilities are endless. As long as you keep your responsibility to your children, what's wrong with looking out for yourself every now and then.

P.S. nothing rude to say here.

Answer 6

It is more work to hold onto bitterness than happiness. Only you can make you happy. I was a 37 year old, divorced mother of three and took the initiative to go to college at that age. I was working part time also. I was very happy. Happiness is in yourself and you need to allow yourself to be happy. It is not found in another person.

Answer 7

That's how I felt when all I did was partying with my friends. We would all go out and party and they would have fun and I would not. I was more like their mother saying no more drinks for you, no you can't go in that room with this guy. That is how I was till I met my husband, he showed me how to live again and have fun. I think once you meet some one special you will get that spark back in your life.

Answer 8

Try this ......GET OVER YOURSELF!
You got kids to raise so shut-up and do the right thing until they leave the nest. Then you can wallow in your emotional cesspool all you desire.

Answer 9

you need too make time for just you and have fun again just do it get babysitter and go crazy