well you see, i invited my friend to this annual "family day thing" in my community. and she totally ditched me like an hour after she got there. she went off with a bunch of her guy friends to this island on our lake. she didnt come back for at least to hours, and the rest of the time she ignored me. i was extremely pissed at her, it lasted 2-10. so now shes begging for our friendship back, and i dont know what to do! HELPP!
2006-08-16 18:45:55 · 39 answers · asked by idk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
okay let me rephrase. IM A GIRL. shes my friend. not my girlfriend. oh and she apoligized but when i say im not sure if i can forgive her, she just flips out on me and is like WTF! so yeah
2006-08-16 18:56:34 · update #1
okay let me rephrase. IM A GIRL. shes my friend. not my girlfriend. oh and she apoligized but when i say im not sure if i can forgive her, she just flips out on me and is like WTF! so yeah. i expected to have a blast with her, we were good friends.
2006-08-16 18:57:46 · update #2
Wow. im going thru the same thing right now! she clearly does not value or appreciate ur friendship. this is a complete & total lack of respect towards you and your feelings.
imo, there's no excuse for treating a friend that way.
it does, however, appear that she is willing to make amends. if she personally apologizes, & acknowledges how her actions were unnacceptable, & u feel it is genuine, then move forward with ur friendship with her, but explain that the trust will need to be regained.
i wish u all the best.
2006-08-16 19:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you have found out that this is not really a friend at all. She is a user. She wanted a special day and the way to get it was to come with you and then she proceeded to ignore you. Let's see ... perhaps she wants your friendship back again so that she can use you again to go with you to another special place, do her own thing and ignore you once again.
Tell her you can be friends but be careful not to let her use you again as she did before.
2006-08-16 18:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive her if this is her first offense. If you don't forgive her, you may never be at peace with this. If this becomes a pattern of behavior, I would expect you to be less forgiving in the future and would consider ending the friendship or at least distancing yourself from her.
Some people just lack common courtesy or common sense. They are truly unaware how their actions make other people feel. It is up to their friends to open their eyes, and ultimately, it is up to them to change.
2006-08-16 18:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say ask her why she did that to you, and if the reason isn't good enough for you, then yes I would totally get her. You can always get new girlfriends, and there's alot of great friends in this world. And anyone who ditches their friends, for guys... well we have this saying.
Dick over Chicks! LOL, k good luck!
2006-08-16 18:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Summerbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could be very casual friends but probably not more. BY that I mean you can say hi to each other and be together in groups or even talk about something interesting but you should probably find someone else to date.
If she starts out by disrespecting you, that is a very bad start.
2006-08-16 18:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you were "extremely pissed", you should give her a chance. she probably just goofed up and made a mistake. just think about it, would you want to lose a close friend? well, if she isnt close, i dont really know what you should do, but if she's been your friend for a long time, i thin k she deserves a second chance. (just make sure you tell her what a huge mistake she made!)
2006-08-16 18:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's messed up. I'd have to know more abt her to determine for sure if she's worth keeping as a friend or not.... but so far it doesn't really look like it. Was this a 1-time thing, or does she do it all the time?
2006-08-16 18:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how important your friendship with her is. I would tell her how I felt about the way she acted and how rude it was of her. But if you forgive her or not is up to you but Jesus said we should forgive 70x7, Matt. 19:22 . which means we should always forgive.
2006-08-16 18:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real friend would've hung with you, or at least invited you to go to the island--anyway--time to go get more friends. Sure, talk to her and be friends, but don't count on her to be there if she gets "a better offer"
2006-08-16 18:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a talk with her and tell her how you feel/ sounds like your just ignoring her without explaining why your upset~sure you would expect people to know better, and have some common sense. but some just dont, friends deserve chances if you really want to keep her as a friend then talk to her........
2006-08-16 18:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋