umm my boyfriend is realy nice and he moved and he wont be back till next summer he barly calls and the only way i hear anything aout him/from him is on myspace ether he e-mails me or his cousin tells me how he is doing and i told my friends this and they all were like what if the reson he dosent call is because he has another girl over there... and they are always telling me to dump him and i donno if i should listen to them...befor he left for a year he said he loved me and he said he would understand if i dont want to go out with some1 when there so far away and i told him im not ganna dump him just cuz he is movin and even my family says dump him i just donno what to do... i dont wanna lose the person who truly loves me just cuz i listend to what other ppl told me but i also dont want to wait for a person who says that he loves me and realy dosent give a ****... and who has another girl... what should i do should i listen to my friends and my family or what??????
2006-08-16 18:25:40 · 16 answers · asked by te_amo_7772 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what is with ppl answering this question with somthin like folow your heart..... im confused and i donno what my heart says.... and he barly ancers my e-mails he gos on but dosent reply to them
2006-08-18 05:59:43 · update #1
what is with ppl answering this question with somthin like folow your heart..... im confused and i donno what my heart says.... and he barly ancers my e-mails he gos on but dosent reply to them
2006-08-18 06:00:08 · update #2
what is with ppl answering this question with somthin like folow your heart..... im confused and i donno what my heart says.... and he barly ancers my e-mails he gos on but dosent reply to them
2006-08-18 06:01:12 · update #3
girl listen to ur heart.....what if he has not seen another girl and has trust in u? thinking she still cares about me...anywaz...some guys also cheat...in ur scenerio u guys really need to patch up...find out what is going on from his side...dont yet listen to ur family or friends...u are the one in love not them,.....u better should understand ur partner then them,...but if u feel he has a g/f in there do ask him that..get hold of a number of his phone contact and ask whats exactly going on...express how u feel to him....true love survives all odds..he should have a answer for u dolll...................good luck
2006-08-16 18:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Maybe he is unable to phone you due to some financial problems. Atleast he does send you e-mail to let you know how he is doing. Don't take any hasty decisions. I think that you know him much more than your friends and family do. So it's better for you to take your own decision. This is a decision that should be taken solely by you. Have a serious conversation with your bf and ask him what he intends to do. If he is not calling you, this doesn't mean that he has got another gf. Maybe he is just busy. You should trust him my dear. Afterall in love there should be trust and understanding. Why don't you ask him the reason why he is not doing so? Or better call him yourself. Am sure this will please him a lot. Think well before taking any decision. And remember to listen to your heart and not to anyone else. Pray to God and ask him to set everything right for you. He is the only one who will be able to help you. Wish you all the best and don't lose hope so easily.
2006-08-16 18:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by mehnaazishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, not your friends and family. It would be different if he had or has done something wrong. It sounds to me as if he truly does love you. He was willing to let you see someone else so you wouldn't be lonely. You said he keeps in touch with e-mails and by myspace. You could worry if he didn't make any efforts to stay in touch. Being in a relationship takes effort on both sides. You both have to give & take. What happens between the 2 of you is both of yours decisions. No one can make those decisions for you. In your case you need to weigh the pro's & con's of this long distance love. If you feel your not waisting 1 year of your life to wait for him to come back again go with what your heart tells you. Your friends & family need to realize their comments are only confuseing and unsettaling to you. If you let them know that then maybe they'll keep their opinions to themselves. And in the end if the relationship does end and your upset, that's when they should step up for you. Not to say I told you so, but to give you support and a shoulder to cry on. Follow your heart.
2006-08-16 18:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Nellers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Te amo tambien. Long distance relationships suck. Really. But try telling that to someone who's in love. Are you in love? I think time will take care of it. It seems to me if you by chance meet someone else and love blossoms and you start seeing each other, and desire each other's company 24/7, you will "dump" your distant romance in a New York minute. If you don't, and he comes back into your life somehow, well . . . stranger things have happened. I'm not really answering your question, am I? Well, maybe I am sort of -- my advice is leave him when a better option comes along -- and I don't mean this to sound callous. I think you are entitled to happiness. When I was drafted into the army, I was very much in love with someone. When I got back, we got back together but things had changed. She had other friends, other interests, and we were somewhat estranged. We tried to make a go of it anyway, but it never really worked out. Just as well -- I would not be with the loving person I'm with today. Good luck!
2006-08-16 18:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he isnt contacting you that isnt showing you very much love is it? You should ask him why he hasnt been talking to you as much. Remind him that for a long-distance relationship to work you need to communicate. If there still is no change move on and find someone actually worth your time. Im sure you deserve much better than some guy who wont even spare you his own breath to call you and ask how you are doing.
good luck, hun.
2006-08-16 18:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is telling you that its ok to get into another relationship with someone else, what is going to stop him from going into a relationship with someone else or take girls out on dates? I would talk to him about it, I wouldn't feel comfortable only having small internet talks with him and after awhile your going to feel exactly the same. Also, why does he have another girl over that is preventing him from calling you when you are his girlfriend?
2006-08-16 18:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by thehereyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darlin' you shouldn't have to find out your bf's business over myspace or from anyone else. have you talked to him about it? maybe he doesn't see that direct communication on a regular basis is important to you. talk to him and see what he says. if he continues to be this way then i think you should consider leaving him. if this continues.. in the long run you'll be unhappy and you two would've grown further apart.
bottom line.. talk to him first.. if the problem persists then leave
2006-08-16 18:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by sweetxirony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends if hes an ***.if he is and you know that he is and he is not giving anything good in your relationship then dump him straight to the trash.. hes not worth it if hes that kind of guy. dont listen to what your friends says when it comes to your own relationship..its between you and your bf.not them..we always have boundaries no matter what,your friends should know that if they think they know better.
2006-08-16 18:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by cris j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to other people. Listen to your heart and what you feel is best for the both of you.
2006-08-16 18:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by princess<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life and don't rely upon him. There is an old saying and it holds true...
Out of sight, out of mind.
2006-08-16 18:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by marnefirstinfantry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋