What percentage of child molestation is perpetrated by males brought into the children's home by the mother?

Question

I am a concerned father of two beautiful children. We are in a divorce situation and I am trying to assess the threat to these children when they are in the home of their 'socially' active mother. The statistics I have seen- 50% for female children and 35% for male children- have me panicking. Even more so when I consider that these statistics are for the general population: when applied specifically to the population of broken families the odds of my children being molested are truly frightening. This is a built-in inequity of divorce: I realized that while I agonize over this very real threat to my children in my ex-wife's home, she has no reciprocal concern at all - very little molestation is done by father's and less done by non-family women in the children's home. Why is this insidious and pervasive tragedy not being kept in the consciousness of the nation? Why are there apparently no laws that protect millions of children from this inherent divorce threat?

Answer 1

Over 70% of child molesters are know to the child. Biological fathers are as statistically significant as the mother's boyfriends in the molestation of children. Your divorce is coloring how you look at this issue. Try to work with the mother instead of against her. It will work wonders for your children's self esteem.

Take it from someone who is a child of divorce. My parents divorced when I was a young child. Being able to stay in touch with my father and his family, as well as with my mother and her family helped me to accept the irreversible nature of my parents divorce. By the way, none of my mother's boyfriends, and later on my step father ever had any attitude that could possible resemble child molestation. Unfortunately, an uncle by marriage did. Just keep your eyes open without being prejudiced against anyone in particular.

Answer 2

This threat is so horrifying and no child is safe! My ex husbands very religious wife and children are suppose to the the "perfect family" they had me feeling inadequate about my family values and I was at a point of being a single bar tending mom that I let them spend the most time with her family functions and holidays I thought they had more of the family stuff to share with her. I later discovered that the "perfect son" was molesting my 5 year old daughter and the "perfect wife" was covering up for it!! The kicker is because the son was such a "good upstanding Church boy with good grades" he got 1 year of consoling even after he admit ed it to the lawyer! This is a scary world and No one is safe! Stick with your instincts, educate yourself of the signs and signals of abuse and Keep a close eye on the situation!! Knowledge is the best defense but instead of focusing on stats., try learning about the warning signs and if it happens to someone you love keep a level head so you are there to be by their side in their time of need and not behind bars! No matter what the children come first! They need you to do what they can not do for them selves and in such cases they need you to hold their little hands and tell them and show them how much you love them and that they did nothing wrong and that you will be there no matter what! I am a voice of experience in this pain full arena! BEST WISHES

Answer 3

This is the very reason I waited to get married after my last girl moved out and only dated if the children were at their dads. No one met my 3 beautiful daughters. 13yrs was a long wait but it was well worth it, maybe offer to have the kids come to your house, its a big sacrifice but you should be willing to do everything when she has male or even female company over. I hope this helped, but also watch your buddies, my ex did not have friends over when the girls were there. This may sound very wierd to you but our girls are very well adjusted, I can't say the same for my grown stepchildren who's parents were very social around their children, everyone of the girls were abused in one way or another. My children thank me all the time for putting them first above all.

Answer 4

you're patently very unhappy and disillusioned about this difficulty. i imagine your suited selection is to leave abode no matter when you're or are literally not actually being molested, and that i visit't tell when you're fantasising or no matter if there is actual reason for challenge right here. you ought to get a lot more effective assertive and if every person tries to the contact you, verify or every person else, tell them to get the heck off of you (in no unclear words). save bodily away and do not enable him seize you in something except complete clothing. in case your siblings are being inappropriately touched you may want to tell social amenities or a police newborn threat-free practices officer. Now you're 18 you're acknowledged as an individual and also you may want to take responsibility for ensuring their protection besides as your human being. yet make constructive of your info because once you contain authorities, issues will flow very truthfully and intensely quick and also you heavily isn't able to undo it.

Answer 5

i dont blame you for being concerned over your children. on this matter a woman only see,s the man she brings into her home and never really takes the time to check his background at all in my opion you have a right to be concerned about this i would say about.65.percent are perverts and that is way to high to not be concerned over your children please . your self get there names and check them out yourself a woman belives what the man says and sometimes that isnt good in my opion?

Answer 6

i dont know the percentage ...but i would say a higher number ...dont blame you for being concerned ..keep a eye open and dont hestitate to ask questions ...

Answer 7

if u talk about % then it is around 15