well, weve been married for 18 years already. i was 16 and he was 20 then. its just that i have caught him thru text messages which led me to actually talk with the girl which he had seen only a day after i knew and it turned out that it was the first time they saw each other. my point is, i can understand that men can be like that but simply the thought of having girlfriends thru txt is a reality that he still want to have anything with other women. but, after each time we fight, he makes it up to mt the best way he could. still, it hurts.
2006-08-16 17:59:55 · 10 answers · asked by gianelli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Texting may not be considered cheating, but it can definately lead someone to start. It's easy, it's very discreet, deletable and the spouse is none the wiser...unless they slip!
Other signs of infidelity are these...
dressing better
showering more often
wearing more cologne
always late coming home
going out more than usual
accusing you
and not giving you any more than they have too
hiding cell phone, immediately turning it off when home
hiding computer screen (online chat, email)
It hurts, because he is cheating. Maybe not physically, but in his mind he wants too. You both need to sit down and talk openly and honestly. You know that he doesn't want you to leave if he "makes it up to you", but you are being weak, by letting him do it to you.
Put your foot down. 18 years of marriage is hard to waste, but do you really like the way you are feeling? Put a stop to it, even if you have to stay at a relatives for a few days to let him know you mean business. Be Strong. Then it won't hurt so much, knowing you did something about it!
2006-08-16 18:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's a married man, there is no good reason why he should be having this type of friendship with another woman. Putting it simply: It's inappropriate, whether he's just chatting with her or actually sleeping with her. You have to decide if this 18 yrs. of marriage is worth saving and I'm pretty sure you know the answer to that one. Since your marriage is still salvageable at this point, don't you think it's time to do something about it NOW? I wish you luck!
2006-08-17 01:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This answer was posted by Shae (level 6)....
) He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
2) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
3) You find a long blonde hair on the seat of his car.
4) You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back.
5) He suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
6) He works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
7) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's home.
8) His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume.
9) You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.
Signs of a Cheating Spouse
1) He/She shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
2) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
3) He/She has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
4) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer when you are asleep.
5) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
6) You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse.
7) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy"
8) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
9) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
10) He/She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
11) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
12) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
13) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
It's one of the better answers i've seen on yahoo. It's not mine. Shae is way smarter than me!!
2006-08-17 01:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a man begins to cheat, her will never stop. He's given himself permission to stray, and nothing will hold him back. I suffered this humiliation repeatedly with my (now ex) husband, and finally told him that I just wasn't going to believe in any of his lies any more. After 16 1/2 years it was damn hard giving up on the relationship that I (at least) had put so much work into.
There really is no way that he is going to change, unless he's in a massive car accident and suffers brain damage.
2006-08-17 01:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually your instincts are right. If he did not tell you he was talking to this women or text messaging her then he was hiding it which makes me believe there was more going on then just text messaging.
2006-08-17 01:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let just get real here. A married man shouldn't be texting any other women, ever, period. Even if he says they are just friends, I am sure, is she your friend? doubt it. That is just unacceptable and you have to nip this in the butt fast.
2006-08-17 01:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by moreblondforyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know if he is cheating? Girl.. he is. Face reality and decide what you are going to do
2006-08-17 01:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by fingerpuppytoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is going out side of the marrriage for any kind of comfort then the two of you need counselling if he has cheated then you need to leave him
2006-08-17 01:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gut instinct is telling you.
2006-08-17 08:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's bored with your pu$$y, he wants something new. Sorry.
2006-08-17 01:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lothario 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋