I'm a preschool teacher, and I'm now hoving an issue with one of the parents. For you to understand you have to know the whole srory. Me and her used to be friend. We hung out ALL the time. She then started some mess with me and another parent. Well me and the other parent worked it out. I havent spoke to the parent that caused the drame since June. So now everyday since she's claiming that her son is going home saying that I called them Crazy. Her son is not even in my class and I dont see him for about 30 minutes out of a day. We now have a meeting on Friday. How should I handle the situation? I would love to curse her out, but she wants a reaction from me and I refuse to do it. So any suggestions on what to do?
2006-08-16 17:13:42 · 6 answers · asked by SLW135 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
The best reaction is no reaction. Calmly inform your superior about the problem between you and her. Ask what you should do to remedy the situation... that is what bosses are for. Handle it maturely and she will seethe, otherwise you can jeopardize your job and future.
2006-08-16 17:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Robb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you need to pull your supervisor aside and explain the whole story, as professionally as possible.
Then, during your meeting, you need to calmly approach the issue head-on. Don't accuse her of making this up about her son. Instead, approach the situation like you would with any other child who goes home saying something untruthful.
Make sure she knows that you want to put the past behind you, and your focus right now is to make sure her son is getting a good preschool education.
If this doesn't work, try asking your supervisor to have another staff member accompany you during the 30 minutes you're with him, and see if you still get the complaint. That way, your supervisor can confidently stick up for you.
Definitely resist the urge to curse her out...it could be a career killer.
2006-08-17 00:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by I'm_Bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attend the meeting on Friday knowing that you have no reason to defend yourself since you have done nothing wrong. Resist the temptation to jump into the conversation before your boss asks for your input. You have no need to defend each point made by the other person’s accusations, as doing so validates that particular point. Most people tend to over talk when the other party remains quiet. Patiently allow the other person to create their own discrepancies as they talk. By remaining quiet, you give your boss the opportunity to form her or his own opinion of the accuser’s integrity. Your boss already has an opinion about you, and you can only bolster that opinion by maintaining a calm and professional demeanor. In the end, your boss should arrive at the conclusion that the accuser is attempting to malign your professional reputation for purely personal reasons.
Good luck!
Will D
Enterprise AL
http://www.notagz.com
2006-08-17 00:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Will D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct. Do not curse her out. That will lower youself to her level. Keep a level head and stand your ground. Just get your point across at the same time you keep a level head. Good luck!
2006-08-17 00:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by jan3sons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your a bright young women so don't fall for her crap! just listen to what she has to say--then say your piece and be done with it. Your absolutely right in NOT giving her the reaction she wants. Just know that she wouldn't be so upset-if she didn't feel somehow inferior to you-or she's a little jealous maybe---WHATEVER her problem is --let her keep it! BE THE BETTER PERSON!
2006-08-17 00:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her. if you did nothing wrong, then you shouldn't have to put yourself up on the defence table or set up a debate in public.
if you must, give her a call and have a long chat. keep your cool, letting her know how you feel.
2006-08-17 00:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋