My daughter is 12 mo. old and makes me happy, especially when she giggles, smiles at me, or crawls on me. My husband, too, is wonderful and we have a rock solid marriage. Why am I so upset and miserable all the time? I work part-time and called in tonight since I couldn't put on my happy face and go in. I just moped around all day and did what I had to do for my daughter's sake. Any suggestions?
2006-08-16 16:50:28 · 12 answers · asked by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
On the nights that I don't have to work I do go out by myself for awhile, but it's usually to grocery shop or get stuff for the baby. My husband helps me out a lot...cooking, cleaning, dishes, etc. I still feel really down sometimes. To get over this, I spend money like crazy thinking that it's going to fill the void. What do I do?
2006-08-16 17:23:04 · update #1
I have 2 children, a 4 year old daughter, and a 9 month old daughter. With my first child, I never had post partum depression. But with my 2nd baby, I had it bad. I cried all the time. And I still am not happy. I try to act happy, but I'm not. I love my children, and I love my husband. But I'm tired all the time, and I've become lazy. We just moved into a new house, and I don't feel like doing anything, but sitting and watching TV. I'm 25, and I feel like I'm 70. All I can suggest is to find something that does make you happy. Have you tried family outings?? Maybe trips to the park, the beach, anywhere?? Maybe you just need to get out of the house. Do you know any other mothers of young children? Try support groups, playdates, mommy-and-me classes, something like that. Good luck, I truely do feel your pain!
2006-08-16 17:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend experienced rather severe post partum depression soon after the birth of her first child. She benefited greatly from some counseling and antidepressants. Did your unhappy feelings start soon after the birth of your child or several months later? If later, perhaps you're suffering clinical depression and not post partum depression. Either way the pain is real, and nothing to be ashamed of. It sounds like your condition is having significant negative effects on your life and perhaps your job.
I would suggest that you see a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist and have this potentially very serious condition investigated and treated.
Congrats on your new daughter and supportive family.Best of luck.
2006-08-16 17:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Richard H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Try focus on spending time with your baby. There are many little things we as parents can do to cement the parent-child bond — a process that takes place over years, not just the first few months of life! Rest assured, your loving presence today can more than make up for any time you may feel has been lost. For example, your baby will be delighted when you give her lots of smiles and talk in cooing tones when you diaper her. Share all the newness of the world with your infant — to her, everything is fascinating! Hold her in your arms and look out the window on a rainy day, or marvel at the birds that land in the yard in search of food. Try playing a CD with slow, dreamy waltzes and dance your baby around the room. She won't want you to stop! Take time once in a while to just sit and watch how your little one plays with a toy that interests her. Rejoice as she gains more control over how her fingers manipulate a toy, how she carefully explores by banging it or putting it in her mouth.
Fresh air can do wonders for you and your baby. A ride in a stroller to the park, or to watch ducks swimming in a pond, is a great adventure for an infant. Getting outdoors, even in brisk weather, will lift your spirits, too. If there are some birds to feed along the way, take along some slices of bread. Your baby will enjoy mushing the pieces you give her to feed the "duckies"!
As you continue to enjoy simple, daily pleasures with each other, I hope your feelings of being just the right parent will grow. You will feel more at peace with who you are as a loving mommy for your baby. Remember, too, that it is highly unlikely that your child will ever remember the time you were away from her. Trust yourself that with the passage of time you will continue to heal, and that your feelings of being in harmony with your baby and your growing in love together will overcome any residual feelings of guilt or loss."
Quote from http://www.scholastic.com
2006-08-16 19:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by mybaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call your OB/GYN asap!
I suffered from it as well. I have included a cpl links below so you can do some reading up on it. Just understand that you are not alone, the dr will understand your emotions, as long as you share them with him/her. Please do not hurt your baby... if you fear badly that you will please ask family or friends to come visit with you or help you with the baby... for you and your babies safety.
The dr can treat you where you will not feel this way...don;t be afraid to tell your dr!
I also suggest getting ahold of Brooke Sheilds' book Down came the Rain, a story about how she overcame PPD. It is a good book, I got a copy of ebay for a few bucks including shipping.
HUGE HUGS to you...
2006-08-17 06:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Massage therapy is very beneficial for post partum depression. Find a prenatal massage therapist in your area by going to ABMP.com or by calling a massage school and asking for some resources. Best of luck!
2006-08-16 17:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just doin't have enough time to yourself,not meaning nothing bad everywhere you go you have to have a baby on your hip,men just doin't understand you need your time just like he gets free time.they just walk out and say i'll be back in a little while.and you your day never stops so make him watch the baby if it's only one day a week so you can get out and go shopping or something.and too if you both work make him help with the house it's nothing but right,if you cook make him wash the dishes,so that it isn't so hard on you.
2006-08-16 17:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to your loss. particular, it rather is feasible to be stricken by submit-partum melancholy. You gave beginning, so your hormones are a sprint loopy. I think of it rather is complicated to cut up the unhappiness over the lack of your toddler from feasible melancholy. communicate on your well being practitioner. sturdy luck.
2016-09-29 08:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it usually happens females have to go thru a lot of harmonal changes that makes them feel the way u r feeling,its nothing abnormal..look at the positive side of life...ur beautiful daughter and ur wonderful husband and think about the people who dont have anything...u have evrything dear so pls cherish it and be happy...
u r very lucky..so thank god evryday and enjoy ur life.
2006-08-16 16:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor. Meds and counselling can work wonders.
2006-08-16 17:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by CCTCC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds more like seperation anxity to me. if you can afford it talk with your hubby about you staying at home till your child goes to school.
eiter that or your pregnate again.
2006-08-16 17:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by naightengale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋