My boyfriend is a virgin and tonight we tried to have sex. He was embarrassed because he wasn't able to keep an erection in order to have sex. He said this wasn't really a problem of his that he was just nervous because this is his first time. We weren't ever able to have sex because he couldn't keep an errection. I assured him that everything was fine and not to worry. I know it bothered him really bad that he couldn't keep an errection. Is there anything I can do to help him the next time this happens or just enjoy the foreplay and not worry about it? Do you think this is a problem of his that he is embarrassed about and that is why he is a virgin or is does nervousness from being the first time cause a guy not to have an errection?
2006-08-16 16:41:19 · 10 answers · asked by computergirl 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Just try again, hes nervous!
2006-08-16 16:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by cynthetiq 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try not to think about sex but a time to enjoy the moment together (if he just can't relax) let nature take it course from foreplay hope that would help
2006-08-16 16:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by spsgbu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy,
This is a new thing for him..
Don't bug him about it,
And not to worry, there are alot of really experienced men out there that don't make it all the way...
Make sure you always use protection!!!!
Good luck to you guys..
2006-08-16 16:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by girlscanfishtoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be just nervous, or maybe he has other sexual preferences and isn't turned on by women? He may just have a problem and needs to see a doc. What age is he? He may just not be ready.
2006-08-16 16:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rhonda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That more he worries, the worse it will get.
Tell him that this time you will play around and rub things and he can do the same, but this time you will not have sex. He won't worry, and...
2006-08-16 16:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you just want to play around and that you don't care about having intercourse. Act that way when you are together. Then he will not feel the pressure to perform.
2006-08-16 20:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by gp4rts 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal for him to be nervous his first time. next time try making him feel more comfortable by getting on top.this position will help him get and keep his erection.good luck,
2006-08-16 16:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal i heard of that happening before just try again he was just nervous...
2006-08-16 17:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just not ready to have sex. It is probably the best thing not to pressure him.
2006-08-16 16:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy foreplay, be very gentle to him, fondle and massage is penis, but very relaxed, be patient!
2006-08-16 16:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋