ok my mother in law wont take my sister in law in for a pap smear and definatly wont put her on birth control and she been having sex for like 3 or 4 years now she was concerned about stds and wanted birthcontrol so i took her to a clinic and did it now my mother inlaw is pissed and i wanna know am i in the wrong or right FOR DOING THIS ???
2006-08-16 16:29:18 · 9 answers · asked by americanhousewife 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
you are right u have a right to take ur sister in law to check up pap smear since her mom wont accpet it but its need to be very carefull getting aids vd many many ways to get preggy so u got a good great heart becuz u love ur sister in law and care abt her good luck
2006-08-16 16:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Paula G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question. Makes me wonder if the sis-in-law is a minor; if so, then you've got all the state laws about parental knowledge and consent to deal with. Realistically speaking, it's much better for your sis-in-law to have accurate information, and since she's already sexually active, protection from STD's and unwanted pregnancy. Speaking as the mother of a 21-year-old daughter, it's tough to put aside what we think "should" be true, and take a long, hard look at what is really happening. You cared enough for your sis-in-law to take her; that's great, and I'm glad you were there for her. However, it sounds as if you and your mother-in-law might have had more than a little trouble seeing eye-to-eye before this issue came up. The most important thing is to accept her exactly where she is. You might not agree with her, she might drive you crazy every time you're together, but accept that she is the way she is, and nothing will change her mind until and unless she's ready to see things differently. Don't even waste your time trying to change her or change her mind...the only person you can control or change is yourself. Sometimes it's not about who's "right" or "wrong". In this case, I'd say it was about the health and well-being of your sis-in-law. In that case, your heart's already given you the answer to your question, and you have peace of mind knowing your sis-in-law is protected.
2006-08-16 23:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? i think that you did the absolute right thing~morally.
i mean your mother in law acting like an ostrich and hiding her head in the sand, is not going to make the fact that baby sis (in-law) is being sexual, go away.
somebody has to teach this girl about this stuff, and if her own mom won't even acknowledge it, then where will it come from?
YOU GO GIRL!!!!
she needs to be reminded that if her daughter doesn't take care of her body, other things can happen like grandbabies, or heaven forbid~disease. what if her girl had cervical cancer? how would she know without a pap? or what about HPV, which i hear you can get from toilet seats, and causes cervical cancer? or AIDS?
or how would she like it if she wound up with about 10 grandkids because no one bothered to teach her daughter about birth control, safe sex, or ABSTINENCE?
if you are married to her son, (?) then you are probably going to be related for a long time to come, and she will get over it.
maybe she will even thank you one day when her baby girl has a future because she learned the important stuff from her big sis. (in-law)
2006-08-16 23:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by breezy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to parenting skills that teach your children to not have promiscuous sex therefore exposing themselves to an STD? She shouldn't even need birth control pills.
The PAP smear is a different story. If mom wouldn't take her then it was okay for you to do so, it's in her best interest.
2006-08-16 23:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer would depend on how old your sister in law is. If she is still a minor, you may have over-stepped your bounds. However, even if she is still a minor you may have done the right thing in trying to protect her. If your sister in law asked you to help you did the right thing. Apologize to your mother-in-law by telling her you are sorry that this happened...that's all, that you are sorry that it happened.
2006-08-16 23:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the right one assuming your sister in law wanted to go. Your mother in law needs to be responsible and allow her daughter proper medical care. Thank you for acting as a mature party and helping your sister in law.
2006-08-17 01:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by ms mystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister in law is legally an adult then what you did with her consent is in her best interest and though you should try to convince mother in law ( if you intend to remain married to her daughter) but you do not need to worry about anything otherwise. However if she is not legally adult then that may cause trouble for you!
2006-08-16 23:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by WISEMAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are being the bigger, more responsible person here! Good for you for taking a proactive stance on your SIL's behalf! She'd rather have her daughter catch some hideous disease or get pregnant?? I don't think so! What a dumbass she is! Tell your MIL to go piss up a tree.
2006-08-16 23:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what she should be glad that you took her because theres allots of stds going around specially HIV. There's allots of mother that they to not understand you some times. To not worry she would thank you some day, lets hope
2006-08-16 23:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋