Does being honest make me a bad person?

Question

Seriously.

I tell people what I think most of the time, depending on the person.

The other day me and my friend were being "honest"/ and or making fun of someone, and they started to cry.

I wasn't doing it to their face though.

I'm guessing we were talking loud.

I guess it was pretty loud?

I felt bad for a second, but I got over it.

Well, today that person didn't show up for school.

And I felt bad again, automatically thinking it was my fault for her absence.

I really don't think I should feel sorry, but I do.

But whatever. I'll get over it again.

Conscience=Gayness

Um, Gal.

I definitely don't have low self-esteem.

Talking about people is like a sport to me.

And um, I talk about my friends behind their back.

I expect the same, it doesn't bother me.

I expected people to be rude, but whatever.

Calling me a jerk for being "honest" about someone, but then you turn around all call me a loser?

Hypocrite, much?

Answer 1

I wish everyone would be honest to me

Answer 2

You can be honest, it's a good thing. But do you really have to be "honest" when you are degrading a person, even if it's behind their back? Having a conscience doesn't mean you are gay, weak, or a sissy. It means you are a good person.
The next time your friends want to ridicule someone, before you add your thoughts, ask yourself, "How would I feel if I heard someone making fun of me?"
It's not a good feeling. No matter how great you think you are, there is someone out there that doesn't agree. I'll bet that there is at least one person in your school who has made fun of you. You just don't know it yet.
Her absence probably wasn't just because of you, but you shouldn't absolve yourself of all guilt because you will get over it.
If you don't want to apologize, which is the right thing to do here, because you think that person is a loser and you will get labeled a loser for doing so, that's your choice. Just don't expect to get one when somebody makes fun of you.
If you and your friends don't have anything better to do than to talk $h*t about other people, then you must be very insecure and you probably don't have much of a life.

Small minded people talk about others.
Average minded people talk about events.
Large minded people talk about ideas.

Answer 3

Conscience=Gayness?

Well, if you're so honest, now be honest with yourself. You DO care or you wouldn't be online asking a bunch of strangers if you're a bad person. You clearly don't like to feel "bad," so why would it be OK to make others feel bad? Maybe you will get over it, but what if the people whose feelings you hurt don't get over it?

Rice Puppy is right. Although "honesty is the best policy," you don't always have to say what you feel. Sometimes it's better to just say nothing.

Compassion, sensitivity, exercising good judgement and caring about OTHER people's feelings are pretty good policies, too.

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GROW UP!

Answer 4

There is a huge difference between being "honest" and just being plain mean. Being an honest person doesn't mean it's OK to go around making fun of people, that has nothing to do with honesty. That's just saying that you, for some reason seemed to have decided that you are better than everyone else and have a right to be a jerk. My honest opinion.

Answer 5

Well if your being "honest" when someone is not around then that can cause big problems ( as you already know), and when you talk strait to someone it's good to be tactfull.
As for the feeling bad thing you can tell the person your sorry and that will help, if not just wait for a few days or so and move on.

Answer 6

Being honest is a good thing.
You just have to be honest in a way that does not hurt other people by talking like you did.
If you are going to be brutally honest with a person then you should do it in private and not where they can be easily hurt or embarrassed. What you did was rude and wrong at all kinds of levels. You should feel ashamed and apologize immediately.

Answer 7

No, what you have is called brutal honesty, which is honesty without any thought for the feelings of the people surrounding you. If you weighed 350 pounds and I walked up to you and said, you have a fat A**, I would be technically correct and "honest", but I would be a jerk for saying that. And you got over it, but the 350 pound person heaves a heavy sigh, because they know they're overweight, but it sure doesn't make the words hurt any less.

Answer 8

There's a difference between being honest and being tactful. Sometimes it's best in situations to not be bluntly honest, obviously you haven't honed this skill because you made a person feel so badly that they couldn't come to school the next day. And you say conscience=gayness?? Have you ever heard of antisocial personality disorder? No? I think you might have it, my friend.

Answer 9

I don't understand this line. Are you saying that if you care about how someone feels then you're gay?
I hope that's not what you're implying then most of the world, not you of course, would be considered "gay".

There's a huge difference between being honest and being a kind decent person who doesn't say whatever comes into their mind because they DO care about the feelings of others.
If you can't learn this you're going to have a VERY lonely life.

Answer 10

You weren't being honest. You were being mean. No one is perfect and you'll find that people who talk about other people behind there back have low self esteem and are usually being made fun of by people that they believe to be their friends. You should apologize and then grow up. You should become a compassionate individual that other people can relate to. If not, you'll end up being thought of as a gossip that no one can trust.

Answer 11

Being honest is not the same thing as being hurtful, unkind or rude, nor is it appropriate to make unsolicited comments about others, particularly negative ones. Why on earth would you want to make fun of someone anyway? If I went to school with you, I wouldn't give you the time of day. You're a loser.