My husband knows that I had an affair, but he cannot get up to have sex with me. He loves to masturbate, but he will not go to the doctor to get any medicine for his situation. What should I do. Should I continue to be with my lover, or should I try to work this out. I am in love with this other person, because my husband and I do not make love or have any kind of sexual contact.
2006-08-16 16:12:05 · 8 answers · asked by magically45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's punishing you in a way. Look, if you're not in love and your other partner makes you happy...emotionally and physically, then it's time to take stock in what you have and what you could have, and probably face the fact that your legal relationship is dead. It's ok...it happens. Don't beat yourself up. Do not live in misery (and you're going to get all these holier than thou answers on here...TRUST ME)...do what feels right for you and your happiness. He seems happy to be alone with his dick. So let him!
2006-08-16 16:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't everything in a marriage. Maybe when he found out you had an affair it affected his sex drive with you. If you no longer love your husband and sex is so important to you then maybe your should just leave him alone. Don't come crawling back to him when you lover finds another lover and is finished with you. What comes around goes around!
2006-08-16 23:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't blame him.....you should be the one going to the Dr. and getting tested for STDs. I'd be afraid to make love to my partner if I knew he cheated too!!!.. Also, is it love or lust for this other person. You need to both seek couseling and get some kind of trust built back up if you want this relationship to work. There are several ways for you and your hubby to experience pleasure in the bedroom if your heart is in to it but you got to lose this other person. He obviously cares alot for you to wanna stick around after knowing about your affair. How would you like it if it were the other way around. "Honey, I'm home....lets get it on so I can think about this other person I love and give you herpes at the same time.................." ewe!
2006-08-17 00:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by onecharliecat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being in love withsome one else has nothing to do with your husbunds competence dont use that as an excuse because you have cheated and still are,if you really loved your husbund you would never have cheated and regardless of his condition you would never have strayed you are just afraid to loose him because you are unsure of the life you will be provided after wards,i know you dont love your husbund you should leave him and move on and be with the other man if you beleieve you are in locve with him,do it now before to much more dmage is done if your not in love with your husbund then no need to hurt him even nmore,time to call it quits and both of you can find your true soal mates
2006-08-16 23:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by treatau 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage without sex is a no no. Split up with him and get on with your life. If your lover is reliable carry on with him.
You cant be going thru the motion day in day out.
Lifes too short too waste.
2006-08-16 23:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by the Don 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if he didn't masturbate all the time, he'd be able to get it up.You say you are in love with someone else. I would advise filing for divorce since your infidelity seems to be the cause of his unwillingness to resume having relations with you.
2006-08-16 23:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what you should do is first realize that you have screwed up by cheating and not put the blame on him. then he should next, leave you and find an honest woman that will not cheat for sex. i don't even have to tell you what category you are in!
2006-08-16 23:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by bbiggs5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would he want to get it up to have sex with a whore like you?
hopefully he'll get up the nerve to divorce you and fine a better class of women
2006-08-17 00:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋