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My eldest daughter is almost 10 years old and talks about crushes in school and begins to ask questions why babies grow in women's body only and like who puts it there..... reacts everytime she saw us parents kissing....

2006-08-16 16:06:22 · 41 answers · asked by (◕‿◕✿) 5 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Before they hit double digits - girls are maturing earlier and earlier and it's not uncommon for 10 year olds to get their period...it's frightening for a young girl to get there and have no clue what is going on!! Some girls have thought they were dying and didn't know. You also need to protect your daughters against inappropriate touching from an earlier age than 10, and that's a good segue into the specialness of their bodies and the fact that they are capable of making babies, etc... Don't wait until they're 13 - they'll have learned everything wrong on the playground and then won't bother listening to you when you try to give them the facts.
American Girls have a book out on girl's bodies and maturity, and there are quite a few others out there geared for elementary school girls - you might flip through a few and find the one you're most comfortable with, give it to her to read and let her know the two (or three, Dad) are going to talk about it.

2006-08-24 14:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Dogma Mom 2 · 1 0

It's never to young to talk about sex or where baby's come from. It's how you approach the subject. A 5 year old doesn't need the Encyclopedia Brittanica definition. A simple "when mommy's and daddy's love each other and want a baby God will grant them one" usually suffices.

But a 10 year old, believe me...in today's world they know the score completely.

You have to tell her the truth, again not to graphical and detailed, but at the same time let her know your feelings on the matter and what you would like to see for her life and why.

Believe me, my kids come to me with EVERYTHING because they know I will give them the truth, and I'd rather have it that way. I leave it to them to decide and I give them "scenarios" of all the "what ifs" and "what could happen's" and what they would be losing out on or how their lives would be if they got an STD....so they know the score and how important education is, the reason you should use your head when it comes to sex and the opposite gender. I'm sure they will do fine. Know that they will be right there exposed to all this, with guys hitting on them etc. It's your job as a mom to do the best to empower them to make the right decision and not let peer pressure get them to do things they will regret. That's not to say they should ignore their feelings or anything either, but that they need to respect themselves and in turn will attract the type of guys that will be good for her.

2006-08-16 16:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

The best way is to choose amterial that is age appropriate and there are several books out there that can be used. Christian supply and other bookstores have books that are related on this subject and they are Biblically based, and if you teach a child the sex on the grounds of what the Bible tells and give reference to, then you will be doing them more help than harm, When they start asking questions, ask them to think about it and let them answer it, and then clarify anything that they do not have quite right.
It is better for us parents to tell our children because if we do not tell our children, they are going to find out from school either from their friends or from others passing in the hall and they over hear it. I think that the best age to teach a child about this is when they start asking. Keep it age appropriate however. Best Wishes with this.
God Bless You.

2006-08-23 12:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

sex preparation is oftentimes taught around the age of 10 or 11. i became shown video clips and diagrams to do with sex ed. even as i became 10. My college theory this became proper and that i did not have a situation. I first stumbled on out what sex became even as i became about 7. people in school were speaking about it and that i stumbled on some stuff out. i did not recognize each and every little thing, yet for the subsequent 3 years, I knew some stuff, and then I were given taught sex preparation. So per chance it truly is the properly perfect age. babies from the age of seven to 10 are going to commence 'listening to stuff', they are going to locate out issues, so it truly is purely proper to tutor them sex ed. it really is only so they recognize the info and do not do something stupid. I had a pal who had sex with a touch boy even as they were both 11! They weren't taught sex preparation and they were only 'experimenting'. It nevertheless wasn't an effective element for them to do in spite of the reality that, and once you're taught sex preparation at particularly an early age, you're a lot less in all probability to do something stupid. after I were given to the age of 13, and then 15, we were taught in additional beneficial intensity. We even were given taught about a thanks to positioned condoms on boys, and the more beneficial in-intensity technological awareness of sex.

2016-11-04 23:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by fleitman 4 · 0 0

When she is old enough to ask questions about it, 4-5 start showing them. Life is fast now and if you do not teach she- some will. It is sad to think of how fast things go in this society now, but you must train your child in all areas that you can, 6, 7 years olds talking of sex, drugs--------do not waste any time.

2006-08-24 09:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by SWRK student 2 · 0 0

mom, it's past time to educate your daughter. You need to start talking to her now, and fast. Otherwise someone else will be educating her. I would think that you want to instill in her the things that you believe. You should have started talking a few years ago. If she's asking questions, she is prime to learn. Get moving, don't hold back, don't give her you phobias about sex. Speak honestly, positively and be polite. Good Luck

2006-08-16 16:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 3 0

I think it really depends on the child and their level of maturity. From the sounds of it, your daughter sounds like she's mature enough to comprehend. When I was in elementary school, they had a sex education course starting at 4th grade, but really it's the parent who should decide when their child is old enough.

2006-08-16 16:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by joy.esteves 2 · 1 0

As soon as possible it's never too late to let your children know about sex. I mean that you dont want them to be misinformed or having them find out through school because schools dont tell them everything. Besides you want your child to be prepared and ready when the moment presents itself. And try not to make a big deal out of talking to them about it sometimes parents can be corny and it makes the child uncomfortable.

2006-08-21 14:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by toyapooh03 2 · 0 0

i think it should be a progressive process, talking to children about the difference of a boy and girl from toddlers, talking to them about what is appropriate and isn't for reason of their safety, and then progressing on the topic as their maturity level increases. By about 10 your daughter should progressively be introduced to biological changes she may be experiencing soon, and also about sex etc. I think it is better to start young, and build a foundation that way your children aren't shocked or uncomfortable when you talk to them about the birds and the bees.

2006-08-16 16:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by starflower 3 · 2 0

I think that if your child is old enough to ask about it, she is old enough for you to tell her about it. Depending on the age and maturity level, you might want to omit a few things. Children in school won't mind a bit telling her what she wants to know so take this opportunity to teach her.

2006-08-24 09:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by Inquisitive1 2 · 0 0

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