What am I doing wrong ? Help, talk me out of doing something stupid, THIS IS SERIOUS!!!!!?

Question

I am 25 years old. I was just granted permanent residency in the U.S.. I have 3 degrees and I speak 3 languages fluently, (one of which is spanish) and yet I cannot seem to find a job, since I don't have any job experience because I was in the U.S. as a student, no one will hire me.not even the simple job offers such as MC D's.
My wife works extra long hours and makes not more than $800 a month, we live in a small university town, so jobs do not pay much. She has one and 1/2 year left to graduate as a R.N. but she cannot afford to cut hours at her job or will starve.
I have been looking in other towns too but no one calls me back.
For the past few weeks I have been comtemplating suicide, I am running out of options with my life, I do not know whatto do anymore, my mother back home call me useless son of a ***** who is not ashamed of being supported by 2 women ( her and my wife). Why live?

By the way I tried to go to war, I couldn't, because I ain't a U.S. citizen
It is funny to listen to someone that does not know what is it like to have to live on 8.000 dollars a year (w/o gov. aide, b/c my wife and I refuse), tell me to suck it up, I have looked other places. Move? To move you need seed money, are you gonna ******* GIVE IT ME?

Answer 1

at the moment everything will seem glim but in matter of days or weeks everything will pan out perfect,we all go through hard times in our lives,just quickly i am 26 with two children single mother,9 years old son and a 14 month old i was 16 when i had my first child i thought my world was over ,i waited untill i was 17 went back to school and by correspondence i went to uni with my child in hand once that was over i worked so many jobs and had people mind my son and worked out in the end i worked at the snow three days a week then restarunt four nights per week and at the same time i was studying and had my baby with me,one day i sat there in the snow at night and cried because my baby was at his fathers while i was working and busting my asss off to pay for school,i cried and this man came up to me and told me that if you look up look into your heart ahead five years and see what you want thats exactly where you will be,patted me on the back and i never saw him again,dont give up,try recruting agencys if that does not work write up tons of resumes and hand them in to every business around you and dont give up,i struggled on my own for 9 years and now at 25 after everything i went through no one could even imagine,i even at one time contemplated on being a hooker to get some cash but couldnt do it,at 25 i have my own beach house,live in a uptown community,have my own boat two cars motorbikes for my children and live the life i always wanted and i do not work today i just enjoy my kids,keep your head up high your relationship strong and grab a diary and start writting down goals each day,hang in there,as for your mother you dont need support like that around so cut her loose for a while untill your on your feet,your wife knows what is going on and one day you will be making so much money that your mother will be regrettable of everything

Answer 2

DUDE!!!! do not let these bad thoughts take you over. Suicide is never the right answer. You are only 25 and you've found someone that is willing to be there for you as a wife. That alone should give you reason to believe in yourself. You have so much to offer the world. You have earned 3 degrees when most people don't earn 1, you speak 3 languages when most people can't even speak one correctly. Speak to the college you graduated from, most of them have career counsellors that will train you and assist you in how to find a job. I believe it is all part of a plan and problems wouldn't be put in front of you if you weren't strong enough to handle them. Honestly, I'd trade places with you in a heartbeat. I'm 30 years old and am just now starting to work on my 1st degree, don't have a wife or even a gf. I really think you need to get cocky and sell yourself to a potential employer, Make them think that if they don't snap you up fast someone else will. You can handle this, your confidance is a bit rattled right now but things will work out somehow, I promise. The suicidal stuff scares me though...do me a favor and get some help if you need it ok?

Answer 3

Don't be ridiculous. EVERYONE has it tough. You're not the only one. People do what they have to do. Scrub toilets if you need too. Maybe it's not your calling to do what you think you're qualified to do. Maybe you have to start at door number one and even if it isn't anywhere near your goal of where you want to be, it's a start.

I've had to start over many times, and give up great work to raise my kids. I've struggled and scrimped and worked for nothing but at least it was SOMETHING and we managed. One thing led to another and I am self employed now. This isn't where I thought I would be but this is where I was meant to be.

Screw your mother. She sounds like a cruel, bitter woman. Don't listen to what other people say and get off your butt and pick up the paper and take something that you may just hate but at least will give you something to do. There must be unemployment agencies that can help you.

I know people who were doctors, nurses, engineers, etc. in their country and are driving cabs or cleaning houses here in this country. So do what you have to do and worry about making the rest happen later. You don't have to let go of your dream but you do need to earn some cash so you have some self esteem.

Answer 4

first of all nothing is worth commiting suicide over it is very selfish to even think of it and i know for a fact that you can make it life we all have our ups and downs but we have to pull through go to your local unemployment office they are a big help and im sure that there is a temp agency in your town most temp agencys put you in an area where you have studied and if u do a good job for the company they usually hire u on full time.if that doesnt work pick up something out of your feild until something better comes along.sometimes life has bumps in the road but remember you have your wife to support you in what u do if she didnt she wouldnt be with u.maybe you could even apply for some state assistance until u get back on your feet.i know a lot of people are to proud to do so but as long as u are trying your not abusing the system.i would also recommend some counsling for u u really need to talk to someone.my aunt committed suicide last october at the age of56 for almost the same thing u are going through guess what her father passed two weeks later and she would have been a millionaire but my dad received her part of the money.she left a daughter and two grandsons behind how selfish was that its the chicken **** way out of things .be smart and stay strong we will all pray for u and things will come around just hang in there please

Answer 5

because you WILL do it! Killing your self only shows that you are a quiter and to me you do not seem like that. You seem strong you seem like the kind of person that has already overcome so much why not one more thing. This is a lesson be greatfull for what you have been given. Learn humilty this is one of the hardest lessons you will ever be given to learn. Why finish only half of the term paper??
Start looking for jobs online go to your wealfair office they can help with food bills and help you find a good job. DON'T GIVE UP! I've been there there is only one way from rock bottom and that is STRIGHT UP!

Answer 6

Why? Because the people in your life love you, that's why. Suicide is the single most selfish act there is. Can you imagine how they'll feel when you're gone? The guilt they will carry around with them until they die, too??

You're going through a tough time. I get it. I honestly do. But remember, everyone has their time on the edge. Stick with it, hun. Something will turn up. Check out monster.com and hotjobs.com.

I understand feeling like you want to die. I've been there myself. But please, think of your wife. If you love her, really love her, you won't take the coward's way out of this.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

well first off suicide is a cowards way out, and if your mom is calling you that, then stop calling her and don't listen to her. some times people are looking to hard at just one thing and they let another slip by. maybe you should see about moving to a bigger town, and getting your wife's credits transfered to where you can get a job. There are ways around this, you just have to find them. Some times life is hard and not fair, but you have to fight for it, and that is what will make you a stronger better person. Keep your chin up, and it will get better for you...

Answer 8

I had really bad pains in my right side for a really long time and never knew what it was it turns out I have ovarian cysts. Also I just found out cysts can burst which is very painful. Also you can get an infection. I was admitted to the hospital and was given a ct scan and was given antibiotics to prevent infection. So you really should get her to a doctor if you ask me. It could be urinary infection, cysts, fibroids ( I also have these and they are also very painful especially at the time of my period as are cysts). Hope this helps!!

Answer 9

Think of how much worse things could be. You could be homeless and starving, you could be in the middle of the desert fighting in a war, you could be dying of a terminal disease. Suck it up! You need to find an area where the profession you are seeking is in demand. That may mean you will have to move from your girlfriend, do what you need to do.

Answer 10

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